A good friend from college came to our wedding and gave nothing. It wasn't the fact that she gave nothing...not everyone can afford it ...but she didn't even bother to bring a card. I felt less than worthy of a $1.99, which hurt the most. It also hurt that she left for Florida 2 days after my wedding, which wasn't free, so she could have at least alloted the $1.99 for the card...
Ronnie&Theresa
Posted:
Member since
Re: I am SO MAD..Why are people so cheap?
.
julybride444
Posted:
Member since
Re: I am SO MAD..Why are people so cheap?
No kidding...we're actually EXPECTING to get no more than $30 shower gifts from my family. Not only that, my BM's can't make it to my shower b/c they are out of state, California, and I doubt they'll send a gift. I'm forgiving them for not giving to my shower b/c they just have no idea what wedding etiquette is. Neither of them are married and I'm the first of my friends to marry. As far as covering their plates...forget it. We're paying $150 pp, and we'll be lucky to get half that as gifts. I really believe that no one in our families could possibly imagine that that is what we're paying though...so I forgive them, but it's still frustrating as hell to know that all our money is spent!
Diane
Posted:
Member since
Re: I am SO MAD..Why are people so cheap?
I think it is wrong to NOT invite someone because you know they are going to give you a cheap gift. It is the thought of having them there.
Marnles
Posted:
Member since
Re: I am SO MAD..Why are people so cheap?
DH and I thought we might have lost it too...
So I mentioned it to my MOH and she said 'Oh, well Sue (another friend) offered to bring her card up to the gift box, and she said, no, I never bring cards to weddings anymore, cause I always forget to give them, so I'm just gonna mail it'...AHEM, still no card - nothing!!!! Ouch!
wacky
Posted:
Member since
Re: I am SO MAD..Why are people so cheap?
Ah dont sweat it, people get weird when it comes to gifts. I go less expensive if Im not really close to the person.
dgtlsunshine
Posted:
Member since
Re: I am SO MAD..Why are people so cheap?
Are you all inviting friends and family? I would never talk about what my friends gave me to others. I find that totally tacky.
MarcellaBella
Posted:
Member since
Re: I am SO MAD..Why are people so cheap?
for our e-party.. we didn't expect gifts, but it's funny cause this one couple bought a card that said Happy Anniversary and they crossed out anniversary and wrote Engagement !! LMAO!! no gift or anything, which was fine BUT then they had the balls to grill FH on why he (this guy) wasn't in the BP! lol
Misty
Posted:
Member since
Re: I am SO MAD..Why are people so cheap?
xjulietx
Posted:
Member since
Re: I am SO MAD..Why are people so cheap?
The people who gave the $150 gift are not struggling, they are just cheap. And when some other cousins called last minute to say they couldn't come, cheap cousin and husband 'volunteered' to eat their dinners in addition to their own
I understand that not everyone can afford to cover their plates, but these people can and they were just cheap.
michele31
Posted:
Member since
Re: I am SO MAD..Why are people so cheap?
T- don't do that to your guest. Honestly I KNOW you know better. Pay back isn't all that matters. Some people are rich, and you know what, they are rich because they are not generous with others. I would rather Scott and I not have much, but share with those we love than have more and keep it all to ourselves!
Ronnie&Theresa
Posted:
Member since
Re: I am SO MAD..Why are people so cheap?
Michele..
I am a BI&CH ..
So Payback is EVIL. But for my friends shower I spend $$ so You should knwo if I love you I spoil you if you F me over you are beat!!
Red30NY
Posted:
Member since
Re: I am SO MAD..Why are people so cheap?
I will probably get slammed for this, but I have a friend who I havn't spoken to in a long time who's wedding I was in a few years ago and I never sent her a gift. I spent a fortune to be in this girl's wedding, and she was the worst Bridezilla I'd ever seen. She treated everyone like s**t, and treated me like a slave all day. I went above and beyond for her the whole weekend, and she never thanked me. I was so disgusted by the whole thing that I never sent her a gift. I had brought a card with me to give her at the wedding, but with all the chaos going on, I left it in my hotel room. After the wedding I decided not to give it to her. I'm sure she's been calling me cheap ever since. Needless to say, she's not on my guest list.
cw0904
Posted:
Member since
Re: I am SO MAD..Why are people so cheap?
Red30NY sorry to hear that but I would have told off my friend if she was treating my like crap! I don’t let anyone disrespect me. I don’t care who you are! Not even a thank you?? She would have heard it from me!
I have two aunts that mean the world to me. They have only been in the US for about 5 years. So they really don’t know what wedding etiquette is nor do they have the money to splurge on Carl and I. I didn’t expect anything from them at the e-party. I was so happy to see them there that when I went to greet them, I started tearing up! I know I am a mush! When we opened each of their cards, we were SHOCKED at how generous they were. And their brother with his older kids and wife only gave $50!! I was appalled. He knows better. Now I know why he is called Stingy in my family. This is what I find disgusting. When you know **** well someone has plenty of money to spare and doesn’t. Those less fortunate are generous when they don’t have to be.
Jordan
Posted:
Member since
Re: I am SO MAD..Why are people so cheap?
I can agree with both sides...but just because someone *has* the money to spend doesn't mean they *have* to spend it on you. And if you invite someone because you think they're rolling in the dough & will be generous cause it's *you*, then that's just plain rude.
What I don't understand is people not giving a card - if you can't afford a gift, give a card. It's the gesture that counts not how much $$$ was spent. IMO, at least.
I think when you are planning a wedding you are very attuned to wedding details...(ie gifts)
however...once out of the loop...things begin to fade...
my parents are doing very well...b/c of very good financial planning and saving...they are now enjoying what they have made...but I know that my mother does not know what is a good wedding gift...
I wouldn't let a shower gift be the end all of a relationship...
minniebride14
Posted:
Member since
Re: I am SO MAD..Why are people so cheap?
michele31, I agree with you 100%!!!!!
minniebride14
Posted:
Member since
Re: I am SO MAD..Why are people so cheap?
R&T, that's just childish. She wouldn't even understand why anyway. Some people don't get it, and some people truly can't afford it. Just respond 'no'.
LnP2003
Posted:
Member since
Re: I am SO MAD..Why are people so cheap?
whether she would or wouldn't - that's not reason to call people names.... if that's what theresa feels like doing & you don't like it.... don't comment on it!
