MIL

MIL has told me many times that she's always wanted to have daughters but had 3 sons instead and, now that all her 'boys' are married, she's so happy to 'finally have the daughters she's always wanted'.

this pisses me off to no end ... it just makes me feel like she loves me more than she loves DH and it really annoys me. Plus, i really have no desire to be her daughter ... she's boring and annoying, but that's besides the point

Luckily for me, we only have to see her about once a month (on special occasions).

But i'm a little nervous that she'll be up my @ss if DH and I have a baby .... i can't deal with her that often! even once a month is pushing it!

anyone else afraid that their MIL will want to be involved waaay too much?

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ughghghg yes!

MIL was reallllly annoying about babies when we were getting closer to the wedding date and right after.

I yelled at her a couple times and she stopped a bit, but still tries.

I don't want kids right now and may not at any point.
I don't think she gets that at all. Oh well. Maybe BIL will give her some grand kids.

ETA: If we did have kids, she'd never leave me alone. I know it completely.

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MIL keeps telling me to have children before im 30, its so annoying, yes i know that, i probably will have them before im 30, but to keep telling me that its so annoying...and shes like if you have 4, you should start now, because this way they can be a few years apart... im 24 right now!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
and who said i want to have 4 kids. She acts like having kids is all my decision. DH doesnt want kids now, she should ask her son!!

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YES!

MIL is BEYOND annoying when it comes to kids. I had the baby bug BAD but on Mother's Day she bothered me so much that I told DH that I can't take the pressure of trying to have kids any time soon. A couple months ago we were standing in the living room and I was about to take a pregnancy test and DH is hitting my stomach (not hard where it hurt but like pretending). I told MIL the story hoping she would back off and realize we don't want kids yet and she just kept saying 'my son would never do that'. She finally stopped when I commented back 'he was doing that! I was there! He was hitting my stomach to stop the pregnancy, if I was pregnant.' That stopped her but only for about an hour.

If MIL keeps it up, I can honestly say I don't think I'll want kids. She wants to sell her house and move into a co-op or condo for 55 and older. DH and I decided we're not getting a house until his parents move in case they decide to move closer to us. The b*tch of it all is, she has a daughter, who is married almost 2 years, and she attacks me and DH more about babies. I might lose it on her next time she mentions it!

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my ILs never call me. most of the time DH has to call them.

they've only been to our apartment once and that was on the day of the wedding when they changed into their clothes here.

they already have 3 daughters... they didn't need another one.

but at the same time -- all 3 of them are still at home. i think they like seeing us because it happens so rarely and because we're not annoying to them by living in their space.

i know at least my FIL is excited for us to have kids.

i wish they'd be more friendly and try to be involved with us. since i have no family here.

... but alas.

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glad i'm not the only one (misery loves company)

MIL is retired now and has 2 grandkids (one from each of DH's brothers) ... she babysits them A LOT (so the parents don't need to pay for so much daycare). but seriously, i don't think i'd want her babysitting my future kid (not regularly, at least). I don't want my future kid learning stupid things from her - uch!


oh, and Becki - i'll adopt you into my family if you want

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my MIL has 3 boys- she tells me i am like the daughter she never had and treats me like a daughter. I think it is flattering . She is not intrusive and is as involved as we want her to be. I think its nice because i know a lot of people who cant stand their MILs or vice versa and its very straining especially when their DHs are forced to choose between their wife and their mother. As far as kids are concerned they want us to have them and do talk about it a lot but understand that we are not ready since there are still a lot of things we want to do...

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ehhhh.. i used to be. we bought a house 5 mins from ILs and i was nervous that there was going to be an 'everybody loves raymond' situation. but actually, I hardly see them.