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First off, I know she's not reading this but Happy Anniversary to my MOH!!! 4 years ago today I was proudly standing as her bridesmaid when she married her DH!

Ooookay now that's out of the way, onto today's question!!!

Yesterday we talked about nookie...now lets talk about what nookie can lead to...CHILLUNS!

Do you and DH want kids? How many? When? Do you plan on staying home with them? Does DH? If you don't want to have kids, why? (I'm not judging, just trying to cover all the bases )


As for us...obvs most of you know we already have SD. We plan on being a little family of 3 for a couple of years...I need to finish up my Masters and we'd really like to buy a house before we have a baby since there really isn't much room in our apartment for one (and we're in a second floor walk-up so as soon as that baby starts moving around our lives get a lot harder). We want at least 2 more...boys hopefully and then if we have the wherewithall to properly raise another child we'd like to adopt a little girl from China :) Ideally I'd like to work 20 hours a week and be home the rest of the time...be able to be home when they get home from school and such, but we'll see. DH will definitely work full time no matter what, he is the breadwinner and always will be.

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we definitely plan on having kids...

Probably 3... depending on how 1 & 2 go lol

asap... we arent using any sort of protection and i know we did it while i was o'ing... so we'll see...

Neither of us can stay home... shaun is technically unemployed... so we need both incomes to survive...

if he becomes a cop i would consider being a SAHM... he would stay at home though... hes considering opening a day care but its too risky in this economy

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yes we want kids but we want to wait a little while, we just moved into our new house and $ is going towards that.... and well for me, i really want to finish my MBA before i have kids (because im NOT gonna want to take classes then) and the earliest i can do that is May 2012... DH hasnt really told me when he wants them he just knows he doesnt want them right now.

ETA: we want 2 and there is no way either of us can stay home... we would not be able to pay our mortgage!

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No. None. Zero. Never.

I don't want kids because I don't like kids.

ETA: DH likes kids but doesn't want the responsibility of them.

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I’m so on the fence about having kids. DH wants one badly. Before we got married, I wanted a HM baby and after the wedding, I don’t even know if I want them at all. The biggest deterrent for me is the $$ and the issue of who’ll watch it. We both definitely have to work. If being a stay at home mom was an option, I’d prob be way more into it.
Anyway, DH already has children, I’m a step-mom to (2) beautiful girls

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Since we already have a bun in the oven, my DH definitely wants kids. As of right now, I'm a housewife and will be a stay at home mom for the time being. Further down the road, I want a part time job just to help pay some bills. I think we want at least one more, so the baby won't be an only child like me.

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DH & I def want kids. I would like to have 2 of each but he isnt loving the idea. He would rather we stay at 3. I would love to stay @ home but there is NO way we can afford to. We are closing on our house tomorrow and we are all ready feeling the financial pinch so I know I will have to work no matter what. I am in the process of starting a business w/my best friend so hopefully that will take off and it will allow me to be home at least a few days out of the week.

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I know that my DH wants kids, and I really don't - I'm sure that will change but if I have them I want 2 - if I could plan it I would have one of each.

I need to work. . . . Maybe I'll work from home, but I need to socialize with people not elmo every day all day!

funny, people have been asking me 'when are you going to have a baby'
I want to tell people that I am trying so they don't ask anymore

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ideally, my dream is to have twins (2 births for 1 pregnancy, lol) - a and a

but i know thats not realistic. lol

probably 2 (maybbbe 3) kids.

not anytime soon. we are just about gettin our shyt 2gether w our coop. and its too small to raise a family. so we are looking at least 4 years out.

would i stay home? probably not. would he like me to? probably yes. but its not financially realistic and its realllly hard to get back into the job market after taking time off for children, so unless at that point i wanted to switch careers (maybe?!), then i would probably have to keep working

but i would want to find a day-care near where i work so i can see the munchkin whenever i wanted. i would hate to have to wait to go home to see the munchkin or pick them up

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We want kids. DH wants kids BAD. We've been having our FGs over every weekend for sleep overs and taking them to the zoo, water park, etc. and everytime we do, DH looks at me and says 'I can't wait to do this with our kids.' He's gonna be a great daddy.

As for how many, I don't want more than 2, though DH would be happy with an army. Preferably a boy and a girl- Liam & Fiona. <3

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We would love to have 3, but being that we will both work full time forever and kids are $$$ we may just stop at 2.
Funny... I would love to be a SAHM, but at the same time I worked so hard to have my career I don't think I could ever give it up... now working flextime would be ideal, but will never happen!
Instead, we will both work and hopefully be able to provide for our family and live comfortably.

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i guess since we're having one, maybe we want it . yes, we are very excited to have a baby in february. i've always wanted just one and DH has always wanted 2. we've made a compromise that if we have a second one in the future (the far far far future), that one will be adopted. there are so many good kids (not just babies and toddlers, but kids too!) that need a home, so I'm done birthing after this one .

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Posted by kris_gets_hitched

No. None. Zero. Never.

I don't want kids because I don't like kids.

ETA: DH likes kids but doesn't want the responsibility of them.

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This is us but the reverse. DH doesn't like kids and I like them as long as I don't have to take care of them. I love my life the way it is and I don't want any responsibility...this is also why I don't have pets or plants.

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We definitely want kids and have been trying since the HM. I will be a SAHM.

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DH & I agree that we are NOT ready right now - we would like to shoot for TTC after 3 yrs of marriage. So that means in another 2 yrs. Sometimes I think I am ready, I think I was born ready but I dont know if I can handle the responsibility right now.
DH would LOVE to be a SAHD or work from home. I told him I don't mind b/c I think I would go crazy staying home all day. Although as of late, I think I would want to raise my children until they go to school, then go back to work part time (around their school schedule) and then when they are old enough, I can go back full time if I'm not ancient by then. This is all a pipe dream of course b/c we will never have enough money or benefits if either of us don't work.


Plus. . . I don't know if I can trust DH to watch the baby instead of the game!

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We want kids, I'm pregnant right now. I think we'll probably have two or three kids, depending on finances and space. We will both work, when we are here my mom will watch the baby, when we move to NC my sister will. I have no desire whatsoever to be a SAHM. I love working.

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We definitely want kids. Our plan is to have our first in 3 years when I'm done with classes for my PhD program. I really want a baby, so I can't wait, but I know we have to because I am not doing classes with papers and finals and things, and taking care of a baby. It's way too much work and we'd be too stretched financially.

We would like to have 3 kids, though. Fingers crossed it all works out. I really want to be a mommy.

ETA. I'd like to stay home for the first since it'll be summer break and I'd like to work on my dissertation and write and everything, but then after that I know I'll be working.

DH definitely wants kids, and I know it's important for him considering his own relationship with his parents. But he claims he's not ready right now and wants to wait. Funny thing though, I know if an accident happened, he'd be the one to be happy and I'd be totally freaked.

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We want kids. We are having one in January. We would like two or three. I wish I could be a SAHM aleast until they start kindergarten.

I am hopeful that maybe i will be someday.

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I already have two kids!! My son is 13 (YIKES!!) and my daughter is 9. I was a SAHM for 7 years...until my divorce. I now also have a 17 yo step son. Athough everyone keeps asking us when we are having a 'ours' baby...the answer remains NEVER!!! We have our hands full with the three we have. We love our lifestyle now, and know how much that has to change when you have a baby. It will just never happen!

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Yesss we both want them!! DH (HA I wrote FH first!) wants them NOW! I do too and always wanted to have like 5 kids and young. Now that it's so close and we can techincally start making babies NOW, I am getting more nervous. Part of me wants to start right now, but the other part knows it will be better to wait until DH gets a job and we move out into a bigger place and have more money. I know there is never a perfect time. I also want to enjoy OUR time and know that once we have children it will never be the same...and I love being able to lounge all day in bed with DH, or just go out whenever and wherever we please.

Sooo I think we will probably wait and start trying within this year or so.

I'm also scared because I had two miscarriages in 2005. Im on med now, but I will be high risk...so that makes me want to try even sooner, but also makes me extra nervous!

I would love to stay home with them and hope we can make that happen!