A question for all Newlyweds...

YES!!! I can't wait to have kids. Latelly my DH can't wait either when he plays with our kitten, he brings up having babies (he even says he would like to have one earlier than he thought)

We will probably wait around 2 years until we start TTC.

1st off we need to finish renovating our home
2nd we definently need the time to ourselves and to travel.

forgot to mention:

No one on either side of our families are asking or bugging us about when.

1) If DH was on board I would be open to start trying right now, but we'll probably wait until around our one year anniversary.
2) Financially, I'm not sure if we're ready, but I don't think we'll ever feel we have enough money. We already have a house and we have wonderful family close by, so I know we'll manage just fine.
3) Neither parents 'pressure' us, but they definitley hint towards it and would be thrilled if we got pregnant.

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Posted by nferrandi

1) If DH was on board I would be open to start trying right now, but we'll probably wait until around our one year anniversary.
2) Financially, I'm not sure if we're ready, but I don't think we'll ever feel we have enough money. We already have a house and we have wonderful family close by, so I know we'll manage just fine.
3) Neither parents 'pressure' us, but they definitley hint towards it and would be thrilled if we got pregnant.

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Did I write this??? All but the, 'we have a house part'... We have an apartment instead...

1. I don't know if we want to have kids. I'm going to say about 4-5 years. Considering I'm 29, I don't think i should wait too much longer than that.
1a. Money, freedom. I enjoy my nephews but enjoy it even more when they go home to someone else. I know this sounds selfish but I guess it's better to not have any than to be a terrible mother.

2. Money, freedom, I fear I'm goign to be a terrible mother. I'm hoping that my maternal instinct will kick in sooner or later because DH would be a terrific dad.

3. YES!!!! My parents are dying for a grandchild. I hope my sister hurries up.

Does anyone else have these fears???

1. Well, I guess we're trying right now.

2. We're starting now because I'm 31 and DH is 32 and well, there's no time like the present. I'm really looking forward to starting a family.
In response to the previous reply, I have a lot of worries! I am worried because I'm not a 'kid person,' (however, I love older kids, and am a HS teacher) and I'm more looking forward to our family when they're not babies anymore. I'm looking forward to having the kind of relationship with my kids I have with my parents now, as an adult. And I'm worried that I won't be able to handle vomit and dirty diapers...weak stomach, big time! And I'm worried that my nap time will be gone forever, to name a few things!!
Having said all that, I really can't wait!

3. No pressure from either side, although two weeks ago, one of my students asked if I was pregnant, and today, another one of them told me she had a dream that I was!

1. How long before you and DH (or DW) want to start trying for kids? We had Emma who was 23 months and I was 5 weeks pregnant when we got married


2 - Why are you starting when you are (or why are you choosing not to have kids). Money, Career, Family, Feelings, etc We did what was right for us, maybe not for my mom who would have had a heart attack if we didnt get married before #2 was born, but it was right for us

3 - Do any of you feel pressue from family members..... NO

A few questions:

1. How long before you and DH (or DW) want to start trying for kids?
I think we will also be starting around our first anniversary. I am 29, am getting established in my career- although I still worry about not having enough $ and what will happen to my job.


1a - If you don't want kids, why not (if you choose to share with us)

2 - Why are you starting when you are (or why are you choosing not to have kids). Money, Career, Family, Feelings, etc
I wanted to have my 20's to myself. My 30's will be devoted to my kids. I want to be young enough to enjoy it and have lots of energy, but old enough that I have done the partying thing to death, I have worked, I have made money. I can say I have done everything I wanted to do before I had kids (except for living abroad- but that ship has sailed).


3 - Do any of you feel pressue from family members..... Not at all. My younger sister is pregnant- so waiting until after she gives birth to get pregnant is appreciated.

A few questions:

1. How long before you and DH (or DW) want to start trying for kids?
About 6 months or so. I am going off the BC in April 2005

2 - Why are you starting when you are (or why are you choosing not to have kids). Money, Career, Family, Feelings, etc

We wanted to have a LITTLE time together before any babies show up but I am 40 and really shouldn't wait much longer!! I do have a 9yr old from a previous marriage.

3 - Do any of you feel pressue from family members.....
No. But DH says nothing would please his parents more. He is the only son that's going to have kids... so there's that whole gotta have a BOY thing going on. Whatever. Given my age -- whatever happens happens. We have agreed not to take any heroic measures to get PG and if I do or I don't it's ok.

(altho - secretly - I would be just over-the-top happy if I do and quite bummed if I don't!!)

1. How long before you and DH (or DW) want to start trying for kids?
Answer: We would like to start trying in about 3 years.

2 - Why are you starting when you are (or why are you choosing not to have kids). Money, Career, Family, Feelings, etc

Answer: I want to enjoy being just a wife for a little while. Do some traveling and of course save some money if at all possible.

3 - Do any of you feel pressue from family members.....

Answer: I feel pressure from them NOT to have children just yet. Every time I tell them I don't feel good you should see the horror on their faces as they ask ' Are you pregnant?!'. They want us not to have kids for a while. I think they think that means they will offical be old

How long before you and DH (or DW) want to start trying for kids- Five years, my husband needs to finish school first and we don't have the money right now.

No pressure from our families, they understand our situation.

1. How long before you and DH (or DW) want to start trying for kids?
- We are TTC now. We waited about a year after the wedding and after we bought a house.

2 - Why are you starting when you are (or why are you choosing not to have kids). Money, Career, Family, Feelings, etc
-We both felt it was right and felt more secure that we bought the house, we both want to be fairly young parents and see no reason to wait

3 - Do any of you feel pressue from family members.....
-the funny thing is, no one from our families ever asks us when we plan on it! So when we do get pg, I am sure it will be a complete surprise!

1. How long before you and DH (or DW) want to start trying for kids?

we started trying 7 months after our wedding

1a - If you don't want kids, why not (if you choose to share with us)

2 - Why are you starting when you are (or why are you choosing not to have kids). Money, Career, Family, Feelings, etc

Feelings, age, a spiritual readiness

3 - Do any of you feel pressue from family members.....

YES....too many people told us to wait at least till we were marriedone year, but they aren't us, so F' em.

We are still planning, unfortunately, we had a miscarriage 1 month prior to the wedding, but we're optimistic and just enjoying the sex right now, it will happen when its time...

A few questions:

1. How long before you and DH (or DW) want to start trying for kids?
Probably about 5 years

1a - If you don't want kids, why not (if you choose to share with us)
We just graduated college last year and he is still getting his MA. It's too early.

2 - Why are you starting when you are (or why are you choosing not to have kids). Money, Career, Family, Feelings, etc
I want to have kids when we are settled financially.

3 - Do any of you feel pressue from family members.....
I feel pressure NOT TO.