As many of you know, my DH is a jerk. I put up with it, well, because we have a kid. But I am at my breaking point. I think I officially hit rock bottom tonight.
He went away this past weekend with 'the guys.' He said it was just the 4 guys and no girls. Well, some girl emailed his pictures from the weekend. In every picture, he's not wearing his wedding ring. And there are girls in every picture.
I can't even see straight. I cannot stop crying. I can barely breathe. I think I am hyperventilating. I even ZOOMED IN to be sure.
There is no ring. And who the FUUCK IS THAT???
Someone talk me off the ledge please because I am out of my mind right now.
have you talked to him about the pics? doesn't he know you'd see these pics? see what he has to say about it. i would NOT be happy. AT ALL. I don't blame you.
im sorry caroline!!!!! you don't need this BS.
davenjess
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okay - no - there is NO ring there....definitely not.
my issue with the pics is that if it were just one girl and the 4 guys - fine...maybe one of them got lucky....but for there to be 4 girls and 4 guys - that's one HUGE coincidence...
is this something that you are going to be able to 'let go' or is this a deal breaker? i understand you have your beautiful daughter...but you are no good to her if you are not okay mentally...
Aug07OFCbride
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have you spoken to him since seeing the photos?
yes. He says he's wearing his ring & I just can't see it He also is blatantly caught in lies.
Here's a cozy one of all of them out to dinner. Note my husband, far left, with no wedding ring
ummm, who are these random girls?????
carolinebr
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I can't stop crying. I have never cried like this. Its like I can't catch my breath. He's in the living room just watching TV like its any other day. I am going through so many emotions right now. It like I just got hit with a bus.
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I can't stop crying. I have never cried like this. Its like I can't catch my breath. He's in the living room just watching TV like its any other day. I am going through so many emotions right now. It like I just got hit with a bus.
who gives a s h i t what he is doing right now. we need to get you under control.
are you anywhere near a paper bag? Can you breathe in and out with one? do you have asthma?
Aug07OFCbride
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does he know youre in there bawling?? ugh, im so sorry.
no reason for him to have his arm around some chicks waist, not tell you there will be any girls there, not have his ring on...do you think he wanted you to see the pics??
carolinebr
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okay - no - there is NO ring there....definitely not.
my issue with the pics is that if it were just one girl and the 4 guys - fine...maybe one of them got lucky....but for there to be 4 girls and 4 guys - that's one HUGE coincidence...
is this something that you are going to be able to 'let go' or is this a deal breaker? i understand you have your beautiful daughter...but you are no good to her if you are not okay mentally...
probably a deal breaker. Things have been rough. We tried counseling. The marriage counselor told us to get a divorce. He said 'Caroline is married; Rob thinks he's single. Both parties must be married for this to work.'
davenjess
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have you stopped struggling for breath?? i'm genuinely concerned right now for your health....(i live in Jersey or i'd be in the car coming to your hosue right now).
carolinebr
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I can't stop crying. I have never cried like this. Its like I can't catch my breath. He's in the living room just watching TV like its any other day. I am going through so many emotions right now. It like I just got hit with a bus.
who gives a s h i t what he is doing right now. we need to get you under control.
are you anywhere near a paper bag? Can you breathe in and out with one? do you have asthma?
No, no asthma. But damn my eyes are getting puffy.
And yes, he knows I'm crying.
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omg, caroline I'm so sorry!
Was he very non-chalant about it when you confronted him?
i think this is very shady and you do not need to put up with this BS. I know A LOT easier said then done but only you can figure out what you want to do. I will say you and daughter deserve better then having to deal with his childish acts. He needs to grow up and see that he has a beautiful family and how lucky he truely is.
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Caroline,
I am so very sorry .... i don't know what to say but if I can share my opinion just through reading your posts in the past, etc - I think you have put up with FAR TOO MUCH from your DH. What he did this weekend is absolutely ridiculous - and that he doesn't even care?! He needs to show SOMETHING for you, otherwise its probably better and healthier for the two of you to be maybe separate for a little for the SAKE of your beautiful baby.. I dont know, just from an outsider's point of view. But he can't lie to you and then just go out for weekends with other women who you dont even know AND without his wedding ring?
Please FM me if you want to talk more but believe me you have alot of ladies standing behind you!!!
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have you stopped struggling for breath?? i'm genuinely concerned right now for your health....(i live in Jersey or i'd be in the car coming to your hosue right now).
Thank you. I'm ok. Starting to calm down. Wow. Never ever cried like that before. Ever. Damn, that's what it feels like to really get your heart ripped out.
Aug07OFCbride
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unless you think it would help to be around him to talk about things, id probably go be with family/friend for a bit to get away and have someone caring around to be with you. can you do that?
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OMG Caroline!!! First off, he *IS* a jerk if he's telling you he's wearing his ring. Who are these women??? Did any of the guys 'know' them?? And I think you need to get outside, take a little walk, and collect yourself. I would NOT be able to stay home and look at him right now,
*** IS UP with him lately???
I'm online for the long haul tonight anyway so keep posting, we're here!!!!
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unless you think it would help to be around him to talk about things, id probably go be with family/friend for a bit to get away and have someone caring around to be with you. can you do that?
I agree....
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i'm sorry you are going thru this but i have to say it -- he's a complete and utter d*ck head and he has taken advantage of your kindness and forgiveness.
-he is NOT wearing his ring -he went out on what seems like a couples weekend -he's with some girl in the pics -he is being caught in lies -he doesn't seem to give a flying f&ck that you are so upset by this -- probably cause he figures you will take his lies and deal...he knows your weak spot for the baby. -you've tried counseling -- and even the therapist sees that he is not making any type of effort!
Caroline--you are a mother first and foremost, but you need a partner in your marriage NOT another child to have to mother. I know its hard, but IMHO he is cheating and he figures you will just 'get over it' and accept that this is part of his lifestyle -- because of your little girl.
Kick his @ss to the curb -- you DESERVE BETTER!
I don't envy your situation right now.....its the hardest decision anyone has to make, but don't let this man make a fool out of you any minute longer...you are STRONGER THAN THAT!!!
