Day After Blues?

I hope it's ok for me to post here...

I was talking with 2 co-workers yesterday and they told me about their 'Day After Blues' and I was wondering how common this was? Did anyone else experience a sense of loss or sadness (much like post partum, it was described) the day after your wedding? For one of the women, she only experienced it after her first marriage. I thought it was interesting as I had never thought I'd feel sad...

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nope - I was on cloud 9! I was a little sad once the reception was over - I saw the hall breaking down the tables and cleaning up and it was so sad to see it all over so fast! But then I started looking forward to our honeymoon and from then on I was fine!

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I think it is normal to feel the blues the day after. For most of us it is a year of planning. You talk about it once a day every day. The day finally comes and you want it to be perfect and it almost never is. There is always something that does not go right. Then it is over and you feel like there is nothing to do or talk about. I had it but after a day or two I was fine.

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I kind of had that the day after - not too much though since we were busy doing stuff - returning the tux, going to pick up stuff from my dad's, getting home to pack for the honeymoon. But, when I got back from the honeymoon - I was SOOO sad. I was super happy about how everything had gone and that I was now married to my wonderful husband, but i think I was lost with no more planning to work on and nothing to look forward too (I know, we have our whole life to look forward too, but you know what I mean). And, I think i was really sad to have to go back to work. I'd been out for almost 3 weeks, so going back was just depressing. But, that went away after a few days.

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I didn't experience it at all! We left for our honeymoon and even though we were traveling (and waiting in lines at the airport, etc.) we just talked all day long about how amazing the day was and even tearing up remembering vows, speeches, etc.! We really were on Cloud 9; I never experienced the blues after the wedding! After we got home there's been so much to do setting up our home, writing thank you's, looking for a house, and finding time to just enjoy each other as often as possible!

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We had a strange mix of day after blues/Cloud 9.....we talked about the wedding for several weeks after very excitedly.

The first day of the honeymoon we were sad the wedding day was over.... It is one of the happiest days of your life, but it goes so fast. My DH kept saying when are we going to have another fancy affair like that with both sets of friends/family together at once! Never.....so that got me sad. It eventually goes away and then you get proofs/video to live it all over again!

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I didn't have the blues the day after. I was SO happy the day after! We left for our honeymoon, which was a 10-hour car trip up to Maine. We talked about the wedding the WHOLE time! LOL. We were so happy and busy on the honeymoon, that I didn't have a chance to be sad. We kept saying we wanted to do it all over again, but we were happy.

When I got back from the honeymoon it was a DIFFERENT story. We have an odd situation where I couldn't live with my DH yet. So I came back home and after a day or so, he left and went home to the Bronx. I felt like all the excitement, joy and happiness of getting married and being a newlywed was ripped out from under me. I went back to my usual routine as if nothing had ever happened. Besides having a ring on my finger, I didn't feel married AT ALL. It felt like the wedding was a dream, and the real wedding didn't happen yet.

There was also some sadness that it was all over and I couldn't do it again. Especially since it rained on my day and my pictures were such a disappointment.

I think I'm just starting to pull out of the blues
now, and it's been two months since I was married.

I think it's normal to feel a sense of let-down, disappointment or loss after the honeymoon (or even after the wedding). A LOT of women go through it, and it's normal. I heard it can last a few months! I guess it depends on your life situation, too. If you are busy with moving into a new place, or focus on your proofs and your future, you'll probably feel better fast.

I wouldn't worry about it too much!

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I had a big mix of emotions the day after. I think for me it had to do with a day I waited for and anticipated for many years was now over.

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not the day after, but weekd following I didn't know what to do with all my free time

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Not me. Not blues at all . . . so far. I felt like I didn't see Keith much in the craziness of the two days before and he spent the two nights before in the hotel while I stayed with my parents. I was so glad to wake up with him and have him relatively all to myself the next day that I couldn't be happier.

I also but a bid on a house two days after we got back from our HM, so maybe I have no blues because I have the next big thing to think about. We close on 8/28. Yay!!

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Nope! It was sad to see everyone go after our long weekend, but I was still on a high from how awesome everything was the day before.

I really believe that having a whole wedding 'weekend' really helped with this though. MOH stayed w/us all week, my bms came in on Thursday, we had bach./bachelorette parties thurs. night, we met my fam. and his parents and brother at the hotel on Friday and had a 'meet and greet' dinner, the wedding was Saturday afternoon, swimming Sat. night, and breakfast Sunday.

By the end of the week I was just happy to have some time alone with hubby! Plus, the honeymoon isn't for another couple of weeks so we have something else to look forward to.

All in all my recommendation is to spend lots of time before the big day with your family/friends, then it won't seem to be over so quick.

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I didn't feel blue after the wedding. I was happy to be married and looking forward to our future.

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I wasn't at all sad the next day. We were still celebrating - we had a brunch and got to spend more time with our guests. And it was nice and relaxed since it was at my parents house.

Then we opened some presents, finished packing for our honeymoon and just RELAXED! It was great. We left at 6am the next morning for Costa Rica.

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Thanks for being so candid!

I never imagined that this happened to people...I'm really not worried about it - I was just curious if this was common.

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not at all...

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nope...I was so glad it was over with.

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I had no blues afterwards, I was happy that the wedding was over. Dont get me wrong, I absolutely enjoyed the day, but was really glad to have all that stress out of the way...

I like married life more than engaged life... I feel like we're back to dating!!!

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I can see why people would feel that wat. We both felt a little sad and disappointed that it was all over but we had a very big backyard BBQ the day after our wedding (since we weren't leaving for our honeymoon until 9:30pm) so that eased a lot of the sadness for us. By the time we got on our honeymoon we were so exhausted from the partying that we were kind of glad to have time to relax.

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We had too much to do to have the blues. We needed to clean our apartment and pack for our HM. We also had a brunch, which I think helped a bit. Almost a month later, I'm so glad all of the planning is over - I don't miss it for a bit! However, if I was given the chance to relive my wedding day, I would jump at it without looking back!

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The day after the wedding I was a combination of ecstatic and tired.

We spent part of the day with friends & family and then started our HM that evening so there was no sadness or blues anywhere!

I really wish I could bottle the feelings I had that weekend they were 98% wonderful!