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I think a MAJOR problem for the brides is the fact that there are 3 BHB boards! Why? I have no clue but there is no need for a BHB, May, 2003 (isn't that now?) and 2004 BHB. I mean, the brides are totally seperate, no wonder they feel the need the get help from every board. Us 'old timers' all planned together, not by date.
I think that we just have too many boards, not too many people sometimes. I think we can put Recipes under Home- since really those apply to the same thing. All of the BHB boards should UNITE and help each other.
We say that we remember when the boards were small because we knew everyone, not just a few girls and we all helped each other. I honestly knew everyone's name, wedding details etc..now it is really hard to do that. Not anyone's fault- just makes 'clicks' form, and also makes some of us 'old timers' stick together. Heck, we have been friends for more than 2 years in many cases.
We welcome all new brides and moms and newlyweds, but let's try to keep the BHB about wedding planning and the newlyweb board about after the big day. It just make sense.

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I totally agree, we planned under BHB and thats it!

When we got May we used it, but I never cared either way to be honest, but BHB was the main baord we used at all times. Now May is long gone, and I agree, take those 03, 04 etc boards down. I believe I read Ron is doing this anyway.

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I couldnt agree with Michele more. All the 'new boards' just break up the community that so many of us want and appreciate.

BHB, NWR, Newlyweds and Parenting seem enough to cover everything. Its so hard to keep track of whats going on in everyone life when its scattered over so many boards.

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Agree!

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Just a small request. Could you guys post more of your NWR stuff on NWR and not on NW? I have come over here to see pictures that I heard were posted and found some really cool Not Wedding Related posts that aren't just about life after the big day, but are just about life. I think NWR would love to join the topic, but we don't want to offend. I always though the Newlywed board would be about dealing with living with each other and in-laws and finding a house and picking thank yous, but sometimes your topics are so much cooler than NWR and I want to participate but don't want to intrude.

Any suggestions on how to bridge the gap?

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excellent points Michele!

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Juliet - my thought is that anyone is 'allowed' to post over here - especially in response to a vacation thread or something unrelated to weddings at all - that's not what Shamma's suggestion was.
Her complaint, and I would agree, is that this board shouldn't be a repeat of BHB with general questions reposted from BHB over here.

I post my vacation pictures here rather than on NWR only because I have a stronger sense of community here, 'knowing' so many of the newlyweds here - but I guess they can be posted anywhere

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I agree, all the boards are crazy and I do not consider this my personal board at all. I just want it to remain free of all the questions that are asked on BHB then repeated on here. Visit us, but don't take over the board.

Michele I do know what you mean about when we all planned together, you could give me a person's username and I could list their vendors, how many days they had left, and every detail of their wedding but I guess with growth these things change.

I really don't mind answering questions whenever I can, I just don't want it to be here.

Have a wonderful day all

*waves excitedly as she leaves the room*

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Terri, yup that is my point, if someone wants to discuss things to do in Vegas of course no prob, someone wants to discuss discounts etc, post that here, just not all the BHB questions.

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I agree. I think recipes/home together. Dump May, 2003 and 2004!. I like Storyboard because I think it has us reading and sharing which is a great thing.

I never go on BHB but get FM's all the time with ??'s which is GREAT. Maybe I'll visit BHB more often to 'help out'....I think that when I was a bride to be, I didn't realize that after I got married the details would become so ....well boring!! I think I just tapped myself and now can't concentrate on ANY bridal details!!!

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I agree w/Teri about the NWR stuff on this board.

I post almost ALL of my NWR news here because of the friendships I have made on this board. It's nothing against anyone, but I know that a lot of my NW friends are busy and never get past page 1 of NWR, so I post where they will see things.

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I just want to thank all of the newlyweds who do post on the BHB. It truly helps us brides planning to know people who have done it before. Your advice is much appreciated and needed!

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I remember when I was a bride to be, I was afraid to post over here

You all scared me.. lol

Shamma is right it does seem that there are a lot of posts here that are also on the BHB.

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Hey Sunny, sorry if I made you feel bad. That wasn't my intention AT ALL. I don't mean to imply the newcomers aren't welcome - we love you guys!

I think Michele explained what I meant perfectly - that its more the split boards that have changed things. And now its a free for all.

When I was planning, NO brides posted over here. It was strictly newlyweds. And while I don't want to go back to that, I'd like to see less wedding questions.

We certainly don't want to keep you guys off our board, we just want the topics to be relevant to us. All responses are welcome on all threads over here - regardless of your marital status. But when I see wedding questions here being answered by brides-to-be, it makes this board another BHB, which we don't want.

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I just have to add my 2 cents...
I still go on BHB to answer questions and help out, but I never came on the Newlywed board until right before the wedding. I started my post w/ something like this:I know I'm not official yet, and I shouldn't be here. I always used the search option, and still do if needed. A great way to cut down on the questions from bride's on this side is:
they should do a search first, them FM with any specific questions. I've been around for a while, and I also remember the days of a smaller community. However, we all know this is a great help and all of our advice is so valuable.

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All these requests seem to fall on deaf ears. Time and time again, NWs have requested that the brides refrain from posting their questions here unless it is an emergency, but they still disregard our requests.

Like someone said earlier, I believe the only way to get them to stop posting here is to stop responding to them.

I apologize if this sounds rude, but so is ignoring the requests of others.

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Mary, did I ever tell you, this?? I like you

LisaT

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Right back at you, Shamma!!!

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Why does EVERY discussion about the boards end up with getting rid of the 2004 board Does it really bother you all that much??? What about the Storyboard? Are people even using that board anymore?
We 2004 brides really enjoy our board. We have more posts than a lot of the other boards combined. We have been really making use of that board and I (and the majority of the 2004 brides) DON'T think it should be taken away. Just b/c we have the 2004 board doesn't mean we don't post of the BHB.

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I don't really mind the brides' questions. However, as you can see from the numbers of posts I have and the length of time I've been around I'm not a heavy user of the sight. If I were, maybe I would find the ever increasing number of pre nuptial questions a nuisance. I will say that I see a very select few brides posting on the NW board constantly with general, open ended questions and frankly, I ignore them. Once in a while or even a few times in a while is fine, but constantly... they're disrespecting our wishes.

I will also say that I very much agree with Michele and the others who said there are too many boards. It would be much more user friendly to limit the different boards to topics that are truly distinct. I was happy to hear that the various divisions of BHB would be disappearing. Thanks, LIW.