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NO MORE DOUBLE POSTING PLEASE

Original post by shamma

I DO NOT MIND THE OCASSIONAL QUESTIONS BUT SOMETIMES WHEN I COME HERE I GET A LITTLE CONFUSED AS TO WHICH BOARD I AM ON. OVER THE PAST WEEK I HAVE SEEN A FEW BRIDES POST THE SAME QUESTION ON BHB AND THEN ON HERE. I AM NOT TRYING TO ALIENATE ANYONE, BUT I DO NOT LIKE ALL THE BRIDAL QUESTION ON THIS SIDE. IF YOU LEAVE YOUR POST OVER THERE AND YOU DON'T GET THE RESPONSE YOU ARE SEEKING

1) DO A SEARCH

2) DO A SEARCH

3)DO A SEARCH

DID I ALREADY SAY DO A SEARCH. MOST OF US DO NOT VISIT THE BHB ALL THE TIME, BUT EVENTUALLY WE DO MAKE OUR WAY OVER THERE. I AS WELL AS A LOT OF OTHERS DO NOT LIKE THE NW BOARD BEING TAKEN OVER BY ALL THE BHB QUESTIONS. I MUST SAY THE BRIDES ON HERE ARE VERY KNOWLEDGABLE AND IF YOU GET AN ANSWER OVER THERE, LET ME SAY ITS IS GOOD. IF YOU ARE THEN NOT SATISFIED, THEN THIS SHOULD BE YOUR LAST/EMERGENCY RESORT.

I DO NOT WANT TO ALIENATE ANYONE, BUT I HAVE REALLY HAVE ENOUGH OF ALL THE BHB POST ON THIS SIDE. I AM NOT TRYING TO GET A BAND GOING OF BANNING OF BRIDE'S QUESTIONS ON THIS SIDE, I JUST WANT IT OUT THERE THAT THIS SIDE IS TITLED NEWLYWED AND NOT BHB. THANKS FOR LISTENING

I WILL NOW STEP OFF MY SOAPBOX

*WALKS AROUND WITH PROTEST SIGN, KEEP THE NWB FREE OF ALL THE BHB POST*
anna Posted:

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I have to agree that the 'REPOST FROM BHB' posts are getting annoying. Dont repost, period. I think enough people lurk over all the boards, if they are bored enough. and they WILL answer if it is a post they are interested in enough. I dont think re-posting will make a difference in whether we would answer it or not.

I also agree that alot of posts dont pertain to the board they are on, and that can just clog up the boards.
I rarely 'start' a post on NW simply because Im no longer a NW I will respond to posts here because youre all my long time buddies

I do love our sense of community here, so I also agree with not 'kicking anyone off' or banning anyone. We are all here for eachother, lets just try to keep LIW as organized as possible....

and, those 2 girls, Deb and Anna with their tangents, UGH
june262004 Posted:

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Please donot hate me!!!! I never post on the Newleywed board but.... I think sometimes The future brides feel like some questions can be answered better from you newleyweds. Ive also read a few post were lots of people have said 'why don't you post this on the newleywed board' I Love you all and like I said I NEVER post on this board but.... that is my Opinion!

Jenn524 Posted:

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Personally I try to check the BHB board so that I can offer some advice. I don't spend a lot of time on it because I am no longer planning my wedding. Before I was married I did not post on the NW side because I was not a newlywed. It's the same reason that I don't post on the parenting board. I'm not a parent. If I had a question about something with kids or a baby shower or wanted to share some good news along those lines, I would post there. But I wouldn't clog up that board with questions.

The point I think everyone is trying to make is the NW board is about living together after married life. Whether it's, can you believe DH did this? or look at the pictures from the trip we took. It's all still about life after marriage. There are plenty of subdivisions for BHB. Please don't take offense but post your questions on one of those boards and you're bound to get an answer. If not you can always FM people to get the specific answer that you are looking for. We're not saying if you're not a NW you can't post here. Everyone is welcome to comment on a post. We're just asking that the NW board does not get clogged up with BHB questions. Once you're married you'll see what we're talking about.

As far as combining the subdivisions, I'm sure Ron & Liz will decide what's best for the site.
Cira Posted:

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Oh wow .... I finally read this thread. First of all - Anna, maybe technically you are not a NW, but in our opinions you will always be. I hope that I don't feel that way after 2 years - personally, I think the NW board is for anyone married - 1 year, 2 years, 5 years, 10 years.

I think that the NWs stay on this site because of this board and a couple of others (Home, Parenting). I know that I wouldn't be on here much if I didn't have my 'network' of friends that I have things in common with - whether that means I planned my wedding with them, share house stories, planning vacations, etc. But when we (NWs) come on this board and find it filled with BHB questions, then most of us don't even want to stay. And I think that would be bad for both parties. All of us have stated that we would happily answer any FM questions .... now how do we get people to use the Search feature.

I also agree with Jenn and Teri ... I honestly don't have the time to check the NWR board. I can't keep up and miss a lot. So, I post on here and hope that all the NWs continue to post on here for all their life events.

Lastly, I'm glad that Shamma posted this on the Bride board. We are not trying to ban brides from coming on here. We love you all ... we just don't want repeated posts and posts that can easily be answered by doing a search.
shamma Posted:

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You go Cira, is Anna and Deb rubbing off on you, j/k sweetie, you better stay here at least until you show me those wedding peekshures. I love you.

PS when is our next lunch date??? the summer is going by quickly

Cira Posted:

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Thanks Shamma. I love you too! Check your FM!!!
HappyEverAfter Posted:

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(Repost from BHB) I think this may be my pre-wedding nerves, but I do not understand the point of posting this. I am almost married (10 days away ) and so, there are some planning questions posted (ie, where should I shop for my dress) that I have answered a million times- so I do not post on the threads anymore. If a thread is not relevant to you, or you choose not to contribute, than dont post on it. I dont see how we can tell new brides to be where they can and cant ask for advise, I think thats rude (JMO). We all got a lot of help here, and should in turn help others, its only fair. I was looking forward to coming over here after I am married, but this post makes me sad...

Just my .02 cents. Now I must go back to running around like a crazy person working out who my FILs will actually be willing to sit with
ChristineC68 Posted:

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I don't think any of the NW's are saying that we don't want to help where or when we can. We are asking that general 'Which limo company did you use?' questions not be posted (and in many cases, reposted) on the NW board. There are several BHB boards for questions such as these. For example, no one asks for a good chicken recipe on the BHB board, they go to the recipe board.

But IMO, search feature is useless. Out of curiosity I did a seach for Westbury Manor and had 299 results - I doubt anyone has time to go through all that. Maybe when LIW does the restructuring, they can somehow isolate the wedding review posts (without responses) so planning brides can search there and get the name of a person they can send an FM about a particular vendor to a NW that used them.

shamma Posted:

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hmichick, I know when you become a NW and come on this side, the last thing you will want to see is the NW board filled with BHB questions. We all love to help, we just don't want to help here. Did you misunderstand the post?? I understand you have to figure out who to seat your FIL with. One's attitude changes once they get past the getting married stage. Your world is no longer consumed with everything bridal and coming to the NW board gives my life back some normalcy. All it is, is a simple request, don't post bridal everyday questions here
joeslauren Posted:

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i have to disagree shamma in that after getting married, i am still more than happy to see the brides posting questions and i am willing to help, no matter what board it is on. not everyone changes as you indicated you have. as stated,
'One's attitude changes once they get past the getting married stage.'
to each is own.
ChristineC68 Posted:

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Oh. me too!! I love wedding talk!! I post way more now then I ever did because I enjoy being in a postion to help a bit (which I didnt feel qualified to do before the wedding) and the ever growing community that has developed since I joined LIW.

shamma Posted:

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I am happy for you Lauren, that you still have your zest to answering the same questions and seeing the same questions over and over again.

I have done my share of helping and answering questions, but I do not want to consume my day doing that, I like discussions that gets me stimulated. How many times can I post Imagine, Royalty, Chateau Briand etc. As someone else stated after a year, I am all bridaled out, I am bored to say the least.

This is turning in to an argument and this was not the intent of this thread, so after this post I will no longer respond as I have made my point.

Have a great day all



PS Does anyone have a good QOTD so we can discuss something worth discussing.
Samanthas Mom Posted:

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Shamma- you tell people all the time if you dont like or want to ignore posts to do so
if you dont want to answer any more chateau, or royalty questions cant you just ignore them? Just a suggestion
joeslauren Posted:

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Well because no officially poll was taken in asking the NW's on the site, I don't think it is fair to imply that you are speaking for all. It is evident that not all NW's mind the posts and I am sorry for those who do. Bottom line is that people can post where ever they feel they may find help, providing they aren't insulting anyone.

Mary Posted:

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Hey, Shamma. This appears to be a lost cause. My only advice is to either ignore their posts or respond with 'do a search.' This is like beating a dead horse, it gets you no where!!!!

Kate Posted:

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Shamma
As a NW I appreciate what you are trying to do here, but to be honest I don't think it'll make a bit of difference to brides that want a fast, accurate answer from someone who has BTDT. They will continue to come right to the source rather than anxiously await a repsonse from the few 'new' newlyweds on BHB that are still excited enough to answer questions.

Brides posting on here doesn't bother me so much, because I just tend not to open subjects that are of no interest to me, no matter what board they are on.

Its not really our place to exclude posters no matter what the board was intended for. If someone needs a drivers license and keeps going to the social security office, well they cannot stop them from showing up, but they certainly won't get what they are looking for. JMO
Scoop Posted:

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I just want the brides to know that I am willing to answer any questions you may have either on this board or others.
dkga1026 Posted:

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I don't mind the questions either. I actually never noticed these threads at all. If I can help a bride, I will. If I can't, I ignore the thread. Maybe the reason these threads seem so apparent is because the NW board moves slower?
yabbobay Posted:

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I usually ignore the reposts...unless I can answer quickly...but I do have to agree with Shamma...because this is message board ettiquette...


lets say that I was on a message board about Europe....would it make sense that I was posting about my trip to Indonesia (or any place other than Europe)?


and its message board ettiquette...if your post is unanswered and you are still looking for an answer...that you do NOT repost...but 'bump' your original post...

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