Someday when you give birth...

Denise, I want my family there DEFINITELY. But the thing is if they are there waiting the whole time they will want to come in the second after it happens, or like the second you get put in your room.

I just need a few minutes, like 15 minutes to just get myself together. . .

When my sister gave birth we went into the wrong part of the hospital and she was still in this recovery room and not the actual room seh would stay in. She didnt even have time to change out of her hospital gown so she was all covered in blood and everyone was hugging and kissing her and touching her. . . she started crying and her DH had to make everyone leave.

She was in a daze, like she didnt know what was going on - and she was 1000 times better when they actually put her in HER room and gave her a fresh gown and all that you know?

I just get overwhelmed and I would need a minute before I saw everyone. So if I called when the baby was born that would give me the 20 minutes it would take them to get there from home. . . and then i would be prepared

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Posted by Espo22

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Posted by cbcf

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Posted by Espo22

really? so even after some of you give birth you dont want family there after? Just curious why? is it bc you want that alone time with dh or just dont want to be bothered lol

I definitely do want to have that alone time with dh and the baby but right after they can all pour in lol

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I feel the same way...I want that alone time with DH and the baby but right after...come on in!!!! I will probably be so happy to tell everyone I actually DID IT that I gave birth haha (everyone knows how scared I am).

But I don't think it is a disgusting thing either..it is such a miracle and a wonderful thing. However I don't need my inlaws in the room. The only other person I would have besides my DH is my mom since she did this 6 times and is a nurse as well.

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yeah i will probably be excited after to have everyone come in and see the baby and them being all excited about it. I wont care what i look like either bc it will be close family and friends if anything. And even if not, who cares bc you just gave birth, if anybody wants to judge how i look after giving birth then they are the ones with issues i dont care if i'll have make up running down my face, hair all a mess and just in general a hot mess lol.

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haha that's what I say I don't care how I will look after giving birth. I KNOW I will look like one hot mess...I mean I sweat like a man to begin with so I can just imagine what it will be like that day I told DH that he better get ready because I think after I give birth will probably be the day he looks at me and think WOW a little scary haha

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Posted by kristi313

what's with all your baby posts lately heather?

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Believe me - there are NO baby plans here.

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Posted by Mimacat

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Posted by kristi313

what's with all your baby posts lately heather?

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Believe me - there are NO baby plans here.

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okie dokie

you are supposed to have time before your family comes in - usually the baby is already in the nursery with the dad while you are still getting put back together the family usually goes down to the nursery to see the baby through the window and then afterwards when the mom is ready the family can go up and see her and then they bring the baby back in....at least that is how its always been when people i know had babies.....nobody was ever allowed to go in right after the birth nbot even the woman's parents!

and yes denise - no men besides DH that would be a little weird hahahaha.....but if our Moms or sisters wanted to be there (and were allowed) i don't think it would be such a huge deal - we all vajayjay's and HELLO our Mom's did this too!

maybe for the first baby i'd like to be alone with DH just for the moment to be just ours - but i think it would be an awesome experience for my Mom and MIL if they were there (well if they wanted to be - of couse not everyone wants to be there)....but i'm not sure how many hospitals actually allow that many people in the room during the actual labor and delivery anyways.....

OMG - we were talking about this the other day - Dave ONLY - i will MURDER anyone in my family or his if they come in - that is OUR moment....

we saw something the other day and this woman had her sister, her sisters' husband and their CHILD in there...all staring at her kooch as the baby came out.... NO THANK YOU!!!!!!!!

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Posted by Espo22

really? so even after some of you give birth you dont want family there after? Just curious why? is it bc you want that alone time with dh or just dont want to be bothered lol

I definitely do want to have that alone time with dh and the baby but right after they can all pour in lol

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I would want the alone time with my DH and the baby, as well as some rest. My friend recently gave birth and she had tons of family visiting and she was complaned that they stayed for hours on end, she didn't get a chance to rest, and she had no privacy whatsoever - they wouldn't even leave the room so she could breastfeed in private!!!

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oh thats wrong, but i also have no problem saying OK you all have to get out i will breastfeed now or I am tired so goodbye lol. She should've said something or they should've gotten the hint.

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Posted by ant n tilde

Denise, I want my family there DEFINITELY. But the thing is if they are there waiting the whole time they will want to come in the second after it happens, or like the second you get put in your room.

I just need a few minutes, like 15 minutes to just get myself together. . .

When my sister gave birth we went into the wrong part of the hospital and she was still in this recovery room and not the actual room seh would stay in. She didnt even have time to change out of her hospital gown so she was all covered in blood and everyone was hugging and kissing her and touching her. . . she started crying and her DH had to make everyone leave.

She was in a daze, like she didnt know what was going on - and she was 1000 times better when they actually put her in HER room and gave her a fresh gown and all that you know?

I just get overwhelmed and I would need a minute before I saw everyone. So if I called when the baby was born that would give me the 20 minutes it would take them to get there from home. . . and then i would be prepared

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oh thats perfectly understandable. I thought people meant like nobody to visit that day period, thats why i was curious. Yeah i would want that time alone too and then AFTER they can come in. Probably would want to take that moment in and be alone with dh

ETA: some places give you that alone time. Ive been there when somebody was giving birth and the mother wanted to run in lol, but we were told after 30 mins they would allow us in, after she gave birth that is.

Just DH will be there with me when the time comes.

I dont feel the need to put on a show for everyone else lol

They can come in once i'm all cleaned up and moved to a room.

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Posted by dajc23

Just DH will be there with me when the time comes.

I dont feel the need to put on a show for everyone else lol

They can come in once i'm all cleaned up and moved to a room.

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And me, and Claudette. And Uncle Doug.

me & DH have actually had some arguments about this. lol. He used to tell me that he'd NEVER go in with me. He has an issue with blood and actually has fainted in the past when he saw too much (blood that is, he never watched anybody give birth before). I told him that i don't give a crap if he faints. He'll be in there holding my hand until the moment he drops on the floor. I got soooo mad at him once when he told me that since he wouldn't be able to come in, he'd make sure I had all the people I needed - and he dared to say that he'd send in his freakin' mother and sister (who is a nurse). What the hell?? Why would i EVER want anybody who's not immediate family around me in that kind of situation?? I totally freaked out on him, and now he finally agrees that he WILL be in there with me, he'll just not look at anything.

Seriously though - just DH in there with the medical people. MAYBE I'd want my sister too, just as a backup in case DH pisses me off I already told him, that if he fails me in the delivery room, he won't be getting another! lol. Poor guy. I get crazy with this stuff. It just makes me sooo mad all the stuff a girl's gotta go thru.

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Posted by Future Mulligan

you are supposed to have time before your family comes in - usually the baby is already in the nursery with the dad while you are still getting put back together the family usually goes down to the nursery to see the baby through the window and then afterwards when the mom is ready the family can go up and see her and then they bring the baby back in....at least that is how its always been when people i know had babies.....nobody was ever allowed to go in right after the birth nbot even the woman's parents!

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Um you obviously dont have a big loud obnoxious Italian family. We barge right in without a care in the world.

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Posted by Espo22

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Posted by ant n tilde

Denise, I want my family there DEFINITELY. But the thing is if they are there waiting the whole time they will want to come in the second after it happens, or like the second you get put in your room.

I just need a few minutes, like 15 minutes to just get myself together. . .

When my sister gave birth we went into the wrong part of the hospital and she was still in this recovery room and not the actual room seh would stay in. She didnt even have time to change out of her hospital gown so she was all covered in blood and everyone was hugging and kissing her and touching her. . . she started crying and her DH had to make everyone leave.

She was in a daze, like she didnt know what was going on - and she was 1000 times better when they actually put her in HER room and gave her a fresh gown and all that you know?

I just get overwhelmed and I would need a minute before I saw everyone. So if I called when the baby was born that would give me the 20 minutes it would take them to get there from home. . . and then i would be prepared

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oh thats perfectly understandable. I thought people meant like nobody to visit that day period, thats why i was curious. Yeah i would want that time alone too and then AFTER they can come in. Probably would want to take that moment in and be alone with dh

ETA: some places give you that alone time. Ive been there when somebody was giving birth and the mother wanted to run in lol, but we were told after 30 mins they would allow us in, after she gave birth that is.

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Oh yeah right, imagine telling my mother 'Okay I just gave birth, see you tomorrow'

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Posted by Espo22

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Posted by shopaholic07

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Posted by Espo22

really? so even after some of you give birth you dont want family there after? Just curious why? is it bc you want that alone time with dh or just dont want to be bothered lol

I definitely do want to have that alone time with dh and the baby but right after they can all pour in lol

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I would want the alone time with my DH and the baby, as well as some rest. My friend recently gave birth and she had tons of family visiting and she was complaned that they stayed for hours on end, she didn't get a chance to rest, and she had no privacy whatsoever - they wouldn't even leave the room so she could breastfeed in private!!!

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oh thats wrong, but i also have no problem saying OK you all have to get out i will breastfeed now or I am tired so goodbye lol. She should've said something or they should've gotten the hint.

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SHE DID!!!! And they still didn't leave!!!

girls how do we think our DH's are going to handle the birth?

i think mine will be fine.....he watched me get stitches twice - like right behind the doctor and he cleaned them for me and stuff - he also takes care of the dog when gory stuff happens to her.....he doesn't get grossed out at all by blood or things like that.....

i actually think he'll be really emotional and will probably cry a lot like he did at the wedding

i have a feeling he will be really cool - DH's BIL was all up in there with the doctor when his sister had the baby and said it was awesome....and DH is like that so i think he'll be the same way....

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Posted by ant n tilde

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Posted by Future Mulligan

you are supposed to have time before your family comes in - usually the baby is already in the nursery with the dad while you are still getting put back together the family usually goes down to the nursery to see the baby through the window and then afterwards when the mom is ready the family can go up and see her and then they bring the baby back in....at least that is how its always been when people i know had babies.....nobody was ever allowed to go in right after the birth nbot even the woman's parents!

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Um you obviously dont have a big loud obnoxious Italian family. We barge right in without a care in the world.

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we do! that is the funny part! hospitals here are pretty strict though.....when DH's sister was in labor they wouldn't even give us updates when we were in the waiting room (like to see if she was okay and if the baby was born yet b/c she was pushing for hours which is really bad for you) - my MIL tried sneaking in but she got in trouble ....

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Posted by Mimacat

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Posted by dajc23

Just DH will be there with me when the time comes.

I dont feel the need to put on a show for everyone else lol

They can come in once i'm all cleaned up and moved to a room.

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And me, and Claudette. And Uncle Doug.

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On that note, its just going to be myself along with Uncle Doug. I think that would be for the best

DH will be freaking out. I dont want him to see anything at all. On Oprah they said that so many men never look at their wives the same way again after witnessing what they did - it is too traumatic. So he will never go lower than my neck the entire time LOL

He will probably just be all anxious and worried. He wont cry or anything. . .*******!