Re: Kind of heartbroken..don't know how to make it go away...

Misty honestly I can sympathize. I think we all have some sore points about our wedding that we wish could have happened differently or we could do over. It is even more frustrating that of course this band got their act together and pulled through for someone else's wedding.

Try though to focus on the wonderful parts of your wedding and your marriage now. Sometimes life tries to rob us of the joy that we deserve by allowing us to focus on the things that go wrong. You had a great wedding day I'm sure and these things happen to the best of us. What's important is when you look back on this 30 years from now with your husband and laugh at how things turned out. Those are the true memories of your wedding...because if everything went too perfect you wouldn't remember it as much

Hugs!

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You are NOT being petty at all. It still totally upsets me that the Hamlet made a mess of my wedding cake- well their bakery really. I mean, everytime I see a happy bride and groom cutting their cake I get a really upset feeling in my stomach. I wish I had that moment too. It is my one big regret about my planning.

At least the band manager offered to give you some money back. When I called the bakery they just said 'we try' Nothing! You feel like many of us do when something isn't what we hoped for.

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No pettiness here, I can only imagine how you feel. You have all right to feel that they performed less than you expected and now you go to another place and they performed how you expected. I hope there is something that can come out of this, but I still don't feel any amount of money will make you feel better. You are married and a wedding day as much as it is a major part of your memory it does not make a good marriage. All the best. All brides who had a vendor perform less than expected can relate. I hope you feel better soon.

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I understand how you feel. The only thing I can say is that most of my regrets about the wedding are fading day by day. I'm sure you were getting over this before the wedding and you will again. This wedding just ripped the scabs off in a way, it made all the hurt fresh again. Have you seen your video yet? It helps to see all the good things again and focus on those things, not what went wrong.
No matter what, its the day you married your DH so that's what wil matter in the long run.

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Wow, I'm so sorry about what happened with your band - I would be ****ed off too! When I got married, there were quite a few things that made me angry. During my wedding I experienced a lot of jealousy, people being uncooperative and mean. I also didn't know much about planning a wedding so some of the things that I had and did I wished someone would've told me! I also wish I had found a site such as this. However, it's almost 3 years now since I've been married so I've moved on. However, a friend of mine is getting married soon and the way she's planning her wedding makes me feel a little jealous because I wish I had done things differently. Yes, I feel shallow for feeling this way, but it's a reality. Your wedding day is the one day you plan to make it right and if you look back with regrets it can haunt you for a while. However, try not to get too caught up in the wedding day. Look at all the blessings you have in your life and let that sustain you when you are feeling unhappy. You never know what that girl's circumstances are behind closed doors. YOu seem to have a great marriage and husband - that's a lot of be thankful for. Also remember you can always do a renewal if you really feel dissatisfied.

One more thing, I HATE it when people go to other peoples wedding and look at it as some rehearsal/comparison for how they are going to do their wedding. That is so low and tacky. Not everyone can have a blow out, over the top wedding and not everyone is willing to go into debt for the rest of their lives to put on a 'one day affair!' The meaning of a wedding has gotten so lost because of how caught up people get with all the details and who had this or didn't have that - it's so sickening. I say all of this to say, that girl never should have told you that she was happy you went first because she learned from your mistakes - what a *****!!!

You'll be fine soon. Keep your mind on all the positives!