am i psychotic?!

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Posted by ant n tilde

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Posted by lilangel369

yeah haha .. it's not so much him that i'm worried about ...

but u guys are right .. he does have a right to be mad ...

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i understand feeling a little funny about the forwards - i would too! however, by emailing her. . .you arent fooling anyone ( meaning her or FH) it didnt come off as a sweet thank you. . . it is obvious what your intention was and that you are playing games.

now this is all easy for me to say bc FH has no female friends and works with all guys .. . but i can understand why he would be annoyed.

plus it kind of makes him look bad at work!

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yeah thats why he probably got more mad. It's not like it was just a female friend but it was a co-worker, most people are private at work and keep their personal business to themself. Now because of this, the girl might tell others or bring it up to him at work while others can here, or even just her knowing.

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Posted by Espo22

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Posted by ant n tilde

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Posted by lilangel369

yeah haha .. it's not so much him that i'm worried about ...

but u guys are right .. he does have a right to be mad ...

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i understand feeling a little funny about the forwards - i would too! however, by emailing her. . .you arent fooling anyone ( meaning her or FH) it didnt come off as a sweet thank you. . . it is obvious what your intention was and that you are playing games.

now this is all easy for me to say bc FH has no female friends and works with all guys .. . but i can understand why he would be annoyed.

plus it kind of makes him look bad at work!

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yeah thats why he probably got more mad. It's not like it was just a female friend but it was a co-worker, most people are private at work and keep their personal business to themself. Now because of this, the girl might tell others or bring it up to him at work while others can here, or even just her knowing.

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ack .. me and my big mouth ... u think apologizing would work? i don't really want to play games and i usually don't .. it's just he doesn't usually talk to girls and he's got all male friends .. but all of a sudden he's chit-chattin with this one and i'm wondering why ... but if i ask him about any girls he gets upset. so i have to find other ways of finding out *argh!* i'm so retarded ...

you all are right tho .. i just gotta let it go ...

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Posted by lilangel369


ack .. me and my big mouth ... u think apologizing would work? i don't really want to play games and i usually don't .. it's just he doesn't usually talk to girls and he's got all male friends .. but all of a sudden he's chit-chattin with this one and i'm wondering why ... but if i ask him about any girls he gets upset. so i have to find other ways of finding out *argh!* i'm so retarded ...

you all are right tho .. i just gotta let it go ...

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dont worry! you are NOT psychotic!

just apologize to FH and drop it

like i said FH literally talks to NO girls all day - i mean theonly woman he works with is his partner's MOM lol so i would DEFINITELY be freaked out too

I think it's perfectly normal for you to feel that way...especially as days go by and get closer to your wedding.

I'm sure he's not mad that you actually replied to the girl, but probably more that you did it from his e-mail account (right?). Just talk to him and let him know how you feel so that he knows where you're coming from.

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Posted by ant n tilde

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Posted by lilangel369


ack .. me and my big mouth ... u think apologizing would work? i don't really want to play games and i usually don't .. it's just he doesn't usually talk to girls and he's got all male friends .. but all of a sudden he's chit-chattin with this one and i'm wondering why ... but if i ask him about any girls he gets upset. so i have to find other ways of finding out *argh!* i'm so retarded ...

you all are right tho .. i just gotta let it go ...

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dont worry! you are NOT psychotic!

just apologize to FH and drop it

like i said FH literally talks to NO girls all day - i mean theonly woman he works with is his partner's MOM lol so i would DEFINITELY be freaked out too

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I would just apoligize and let it go.

But I'm still concerned that you still feel like you need to find out about other girls. Why do you feel like he'll be unfaithful?

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Posted by lilangel369

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Posted by Espo22

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Posted by ant n tilde

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Posted by lilangel369

yeah haha .. it's not so much him that i'm worried about ...

but u guys are right .. he does have a right to be mad ...

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i understand feeling a little funny about the forwards - i would too! however, by emailing her. . .you arent fooling anyone ( meaning her or FH) it didnt come off as a sweet thank you. . . it is obvious what your intention was and that you are playing games.

now this is all easy for me to say bc FH has no female friends and works with all guys .. . but i can understand why he would be annoyed.

plus it kind of makes him look bad at work!

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yeah thats why he probably got more mad. It's not like it was just a female friend but it was a co-worker, most people are private at work and keep their personal business to themself. Now because of this, the girl might tell others or bring it up to him at work while others can here, or even just her knowing.

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ack .. me and my big mouth ... u think apologizing would work? i don't really want to play games and i usually don't .. it's just he doesn't usually talk to girls and he's got all male friends .. but all of a sudden he's chit-chattin with this one and i'm wondering why ... but if i ask him about any girls he gets upset. so i have to find other ways of finding out *argh!* i'm so retarded ...

you all are right tho .. i just gotta let it go ...

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You just let your insecurities get the best of you, we have all been there before. Yeah just apologize to him and say you made a mistake and didn't mean for it to turn out like this. Explain to him how you feel and maybe he'll tell you why he talks to her and why she is one female he is chit chatty with. Maybe she is like one of the guys and also because they work alot together they get along well. Is she forwarding emails to everyone in the office, if so then it really shouldn't be stressed. At work, you just click on send to all and thats it. Not like shes thinking oooo let me email him

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Posted by Autumn08

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Posted by ant n tilde

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Posted by lilangel369


ack .. me and my big mouth ... u think apologizing would work? i don't really want to play games and i usually don't .. it's just he doesn't usually talk to girls and he's got all male friends .. but all of a sudden he's chit-chattin with this one and i'm wondering why ... but if i ask him about any girls he gets upset. so i have to find other ways of finding out *argh!* i'm so retarded ...

you all are right tho .. i just gotta let it go ...

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dont worry! you are NOT psychotic!

just apologize to FH and drop it

like i said FH literally talks to NO girls all day - i mean theonly woman he works with is his partner's MOM lol so i would DEFINITELY be freaked out too

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I would just apoligize and let it go.

But I'm still concerned that you still feel like you need to find out about other girls. Why do you feel like he'll be unfaithful?

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i don't know .... guys ... hot chicks ... it's gotta be hard not to ....

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Posted by Espo22
You just let your insecurities get the best of you, we have all been there before. Yeah just apologize to him and say you made a mistake and didn't mean for it to turn out like this. Explain to him how you feel and maybe he'll tell you why he talks to her and why she is one female he is chit chatty with. Maybe she is like one of the guys and also because they work alot together they get along well. Is she forwarding emails to everyone in the office, if so then it really shouldn't be stressed. At work, you just click on send to all and thats it. Not like shes thinking oooo let me email him

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the people on her list were her family ... it was a personal email addy not work .. only his was a work account ...

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Posted by lilangel369

i don't know .... guys ... hot chicks ... it's gotta be hard not to ....

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LOL TOTALLY!

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Posted by lilangel369

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Posted by Autumn08

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Posted by ant n tilde

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Posted by lilangel369


ack .. me and my big mouth ... u think apologizing would work? i don't really want to play games and i usually don't .. it's just he doesn't usually talk to girls and he's got all male friends .. but all of a sudden he's chit-chattin with this one and i'm wondering why ... but if i ask him about any girls he gets upset. so i have to find other ways of finding out *argh!* i'm so retarded ...

you all are right tho .. i just gotta let it go ...

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dont worry! you are NOT psychotic!

just apologize to FH and drop it

like i said FH literally talks to NO girls all day - i mean theonly woman he works with is his partner's MOM lol so i would DEFINITELY be freaked out too

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I would just apoligize and let it go.

But I'm still concerned that you still feel like you need to find out about other girls. Why do you feel like he'll be unfaithful?

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i don't know .... guys ... hot chicks ... it's gotta be hard not to ....

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has he ever done anything to make you suspicious? if not then that is an issue you have to deal with and find out why you are feeling like that. Maybe its because of your past or many other reasons why you feel like this. Just bc a guy and a hot chick interract doesn't mean they're going to have sex. She might have a bf, she might not even be interested in your FH, she might even be a lesbian for all we know. Plus the point is that you are supposed to trust him, if you dont then that will cause problems. Honestly if im in a relationship and the person is jealous and i never did anything for them not to trust me it will just frustrate me. Just trust in the man you are marrying, if he does something wrong then that is different. ALSO can i warn you now and DONT say another word about this co-worker, you are going to push the idea of her onto him...Ive seen many times where someone didnt even find the other person attractive until they were told many times oh i know you think shes pretty, oh stay away from her and things like that.

Unfortunately there is nothing you can do about them working and talking to each other while at work...but there is nothing to worry about...he showed you the email...he isnt hiding her from you...you have a good one!

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Posted by lilangel369

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Posted by Autumn08


I would just apoligize and let it go.

But I'm still concerned that you still feel like you need to find out about other girls. Why do you feel like he'll be unfaithful?

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i don't know .... guys ... hot chicks ... it's gotta be hard not to ....

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That's understandable but... he picked you. I had a talk with FH just the other day and this is what he said 'Why would I have bought you that ring and asked you to marry me if I wasn't sure I wanted to be with you?'

Don't get me wrong, I get insecure too. But when he said that to me, it really put it into perspective. He just wants to spend the rest of our lives together and make each other happy.

I can't control who FH talks to... but I can control how I talk to FH and how I treat him.

Someone recommended a book by Dr. Laura Schlesinger The proper care and feeding of husbands. I was skeptical about reading it but it really made me realize basically how I want to be treated is how I should treat him. I definately recommend it.

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Posted by lilangel369

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Posted by Espo22
You just let your insecurities get the best of you, we have all been there before. Yeah just apologize to him and say you made a mistake and didn't mean for it to turn out like this. Explain to him how you feel and maybe he'll tell you why he talks to her and why she is one female he is chit chatty with. Maybe she is like one of the guys and also because they work alot together they get along well. Is she forwarding emails to everyone in the office, if so then it really shouldn't be stressed. At work, you just click on send to all and thats it. Not like shes thinking oooo let me email him

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the people on her list were her family ... it was a personal email addy not work .. only his was a work account ...

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listening getting annoyed is normal nobody is blaming you for the way you feel. Just be careful what actions you take...Plus if you fight with him now when he didn't do anything, if anything more suspicious comes up later on then he wont even listen and you took your creditability away.

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Posted by Espo22

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Posted by lilangel369

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Posted by Autumn08

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Posted by ant n tilde

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Posted by lilangel369


ack .. me and my big mouth ... u think apologizing would work? i don't really want to play games and i usually don't .. it's just he doesn't usually talk to girls and he's got all male friends .. but all of a sudden he's chit-chattin with this one and i'm wondering why ... but if i ask him about any girls he gets upset. so i have to find other ways of finding out *argh!* i'm so retarded ...

you all are right tho .. i just gotta let it go ...

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dont worry! you are NOT psychotic!

just apologize to FH and drop it

like i said FH literally talks to NO girls all day - i mean theonly woman he works with is his partner's MOM lol so i would DEFINITELY be freaked out too

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I would just apoligize and let it go.

But I'm still concerned that you still feel like you need to find out about other girls. Why do you feel like he'll be unfaithful?

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i don't know .... guys ... hot chicks ... it's gotta be hard not to ....

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has he ever done anything to make you suspicious? if not then that is an issue you have to deal with and find out why you are feeling like that. Maybe its because of your past or many other reasons why you feel like this. Just bc a guy and a hot chick interract doesn't mean they're going to have sex. She might have a bf, she might not even be interested in your FH, she might even be a lesbian for all we know. Plus the point is that you are supposed to trust him, if you dont then that will cause problems. Honestly if im in a relationship and the person is jealous and i never did anything for them not to trust me it will just frustrate me. Just trust in the man you are marrying, if he does something wrong then that is different. ALSO can i warn you now and DONT say another word about this co-worker, you are going to push the idea of her onto him...Ive seen many times where someone didnt even find the other person attractive until they were told many times oh i know you think shes pretty, oh stay away from her and things like that.

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i totally disagree

well not totally LOL but i think that it is always important to keep your eyes open at all times - trust is one thing. . . but the only people that i put my blind faith in is my parents. . .

maybe its the sicilian in me . . . but i firmly believe that you should never just close your eyes and hope everything is okay. . . i am not talking snooping or letting it take over your life. . . but just being AWARE of what is going on at all times. . . VERY important to me!

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Posted by Autumn08

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Posted by lilangel369

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Posted by Autumn08


I would just apoligize and let it go.

But I'm still concerned that you still feel like you need to find out about other girls. Why do you feel like he'll be unfaithful?

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i don't know .... guys ... hot chicks ... it's gotta be hard not to ....

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That's understandable but... he picked you. I had a talk with FH just the other day and this is what he said 'Why would I have bought you that ring and asked you to marry me if I wasn't sure I wanted to be with you?'

Don't get me wrong, I get insecure too. But when he said that to me, it really put it into perspective. He just wants to spend the rest of our lives together and make each other happy.

I can't control who FH talks to... but I can control how I talk to FH and how I treat him.

Someone recommended a book by Dr. Laura Schlesinger The proper care and feeding of husbands. I was skeptical about reading it but it really made me realize basically how I want to be treated is how I should treat him. I definately recommend it.

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title of book? i'll go buy it ...

Dr. Laura Schlessinger

The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands

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Posted by lilangel369

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Posted by Autumn08

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Posted by lilangel369

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Posted by Autumn08


I would just apoligize and let it go.

But I'm still concerned that you still feel like you need to find out about other girls. Why do you feel like he'll be unfaithful?

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i don't know .... guys ... hot chicks ... it's gotta be hard not to ....

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That's understandable but... he picked you. I had a talk with FH just the other day and this is what he said 'Why would I have bought you that ring and asked you to marry me if I wasn't sure I wanted to be with you?'

Don't get me wrong, I get insecure too. But when he said that to me, it really put it into perspective. He just wants to spend the rest of our lives together and make each other happy.

I can't control who FH talks to... but I can control how I talk to FH and how I treat him.

Someone recommended a book by Dr. Laura Schlesinger The proper care and feeding of husbands. I was skeptical about reading it but it really made me realize basically how I want to be treated is how I should treat him. I definately recommend it.

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title of book? i'll go buy it ...

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The proper care and feeding of husbands.

There was a whole post the other day.

I was skeptical but as I'm reading it I'm thinking 'Oh no! I do that! What poor FH goes through for me!'