Does Fh help out

I was reading another thread and a girl was complaining that her FH doesnt do anything around the house...This kinda made me feel bad bc my FH is the neat freak and not that i dont do anything lol but i am not obsessed with everything being overly organized like he is.

When i leave in the morning for work, i am running around like crazy to make the LIRR, i dont even have time to do my make up, i do it later on lol so i def dont have time to make the bed...when we get back to the house, FIRST thing FH does is make the bed, it drives him crazy, its like ok ill do it hold on.

He does dishes and laundry and likes to organize things especially the closet, which is a bit much i think...i mean the way he organizes it is crazy.

Im more of a person who likes things to be clean, such as no dust, sanitizing everything and things like that.

Does your FH help out with these things...for those who dont live together, do you know how he will be?

Well FH & I have help, w/ the cleaning & laundry. FH drops off & picks up the laundry I put it away, most of the time I do the dishes, & he goes out & picks up the take out, Altho, I am really quite messy, & FH likes it neat, so most of the straighting up, that is done, he does I do drop off & pick up the dry cleaning.

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Posted by MikeandJess

He helps out a lot, probably more than I do. He is a neat freak too and I am not, we kind of met in the middle but he's still so much neater than I am. Sometimes it's annoying because I do things that I don't even realize bothers him and he gets angry because he is such a neat freak. But I'll take that over a guy who doesn't help out at all any day

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OMG its just like my situation lol..I know i do things that are normal to me but to him its like omg lol...Yes i agree i prefer this way but some things are like omg let it go

LOL

John is the worst with helping out.

not only does he not help but he makes it a bigger mess so its harder for me to clean up :)

oh well I love him anyways

I wish FH was a neat freak!!
He does handle the all the outside stuff with the house like shoveling and mowing the lawn, and he does his own laundry..... overall he's not the worst at helping out.

seems like theres more neatfreaks out there, nice to see lol

The closet thing is a bit much, but he can handle that

I don't live with FH, but over the 8 years he is a NEAT freak! When we go on vacation he is always making sure the room is not a mess. I am not sloppy, but he is just nuts! lol That is why I call him DANNY TANNER OR MRS. GARRETT!!!

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Posted by ToniLee326

I don't live with FH, but over the 8 years he is a NEAT freak! When we go on vacation he is always making sure the room is not a mess. I am not sloppy, but he is just nuts! lol That is why I call him DANNY TANNER OR MRS. GARRETT!!!

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yeah not that im that bad, but he is too much lol

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Posted by Espo22

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Posted by MikeandJess

He helps out a lot, probably more than I do. He is a neat freak too and I am not, we kind of met in the middle but he's still so much neater than I am. Sometimes it's annoying because I do things that I don't even realize bothers him and he gets angry because he is such a neat freak. But I'll take that over a guy who doesn't help out at all any day

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OMG its just like my situation lol..I know i do things that are normal to me but to him its like omg lol...Yes i agree i prefer this way but some things are like omg let it go

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Well I admit sometimes I am just pure lazy but he expects every time he gets into one of his neat freak fits, that I'm supposed to get up and be a neat freak with him....it's just not in my genetic make up!

I call my fh 'My Perfect Wife'. He literally does everything. He had lived on his own for 10 years when we met and I never had so he naturally he just took control of things like cooking, cleaning, bills, taking care of the dog, etc. Dont get me wrong, I do my share to help out but he just does such a great job

my FH likes the house to be clean..but he's usually the one that makes the messes. He helps out when he can. He does laundry(sometimes), scrubs the pots that need a little extra work, all of the outside work(i have a blck thumb..no plants survive my touch) . If he isnt working on weekends he helps me clean.

we both dont life together.. but from what i can tell...
we both arent the neatest BUT... i do alot of straightening up.
FH does clean when he notices HIS babeball stuff gets messy, dusty, or out of order...LOL (his entire room)

i dont see it being a HUGE issue.. so far (in college, vacation, weekends together... ) i think we can work well together, but we are both not over obessive...

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Posted by MikeandJess

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Posted by Espo22

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Posted by MikeandJess

He helps out a lot, probably more than I do. He is a neat freak too and I am not, we kind of met in the middle but he's still so much neater than I am. Sometimes it's annoying because I do things that I don't even realize bothers him and he gets angry because he is such a neat freak. But I'll take that over a guy who doesn't help out at all any day

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OMG its just like my situation lol..I know i do things that are normal to me but to him its like omg lol...Yes i agree i prefer this way but some things are like omg let it go

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Well I admit sometimes I am just pure lazy but he expects every time he gets into one of his neat freak fits, that I'm supposed to get up and be a neat freak with him....it's just not in my genetic make up!

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yeah i dont like doing things when im asked to do it, ill wait lol...he knows this now lol

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Posted by jdienstag

I call my fh 'My Perfect Wife'. He literally does everything. He had lived on his own for 10 years when we met and I never had so he naturally he just took control of things like cooking, cleaning, bills, taking care of the dog, etc. Dont get me wrong, I do my share to help out but he just does such a great job

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haha that is great...FH CANT cook lol, and even though he is a math genius ill take care of the bills bc he also has a spending problem....well split things or do what the other one likes best

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Posted by TheFutureMrsM

we are both messy people, and we hire someone to do the cleaning...lifes to short to be cleaning all the time!!!

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I dont like anybody cleaning my things, i got mad when a few years ago my mother hired a lady to come and clean, i told her to stop. Alot of them do spot cleaning and also dont like people touching my things, im weird lol

LOL the last thing i do is clean all the time, i might put away things when i get home from work from the mess I made in the morning lol. I put dishes in the dishwasher, not hard at all to do...Ill do more when i get married lol

Fh and my mother both say that when i do decide to clean lol, i clean the best, i move all the furniture, wash the floors, clean in between the cracks on the floor and do a spotless job. Most cleaning people wont do that, and like i said before i dont like anybody not fh or anybody touching my things or cleaning my things but thats just me

we dont live together but we have been together for nine years so i know how it will be

i will be in charge of 100% of the cooking, cleaning, bookkeeping etc.

he will be in charge of outside stuff like shoveling - taking out the garbage etc

this is how it is broken up in both of our families so it is what we are used to!

Also - at this point whether we are at my house or FH's I am the one who cooks and cleans up after him. However, about once every couple of months he will get inspired to like pull everything out of his room and REALLY clean it - or cook a 5 course meal for me and clean up after. Those moments are rare though.

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Posted by Espo22

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Posted by TheFutureMrsM

we are both messy people, and we hire someone to do the cleaning...lifes to short to be cleaning all the time!!!

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I dont like anybody cleaning my things, i got mad when a few years ago my mother hired a lady to come and clean, i told her to stop. Alot of them do spot cleaning and also dont like people touching my things, im weird lol

LOL the last thing i do is clean all the time, i might put away things when i get home from work from the mess I made in the morning lol. I put dishes in the dishwasher, not hard at all to do...Ill do more when i get married lol

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me too... .im real weird about other ppl touching my stuff... when i was in college, my roomie knew she would have to tell me if she went looking for somthing... i have no problem if i give permission to do so... but let me kno you did it so i dont get all freaked out (i may be 'messy' but i remember how i leave my mess)

i dont like cleaning people or people to do my laundry... even if that means i have TONS to do bc i put it off... no one is touching my dirty clothes (but if FH offers he can do it, and him only...)

i also have a FH like you Denise that has a spending issue..... i will do the bills.. and money managing... im such a penny saver, he will thank me one day