FBIL will suffer if this goes down (bach. party)

I wouldn't be happy about that either...there is just NO reason for that. The reality is a bachelor party is not for the FH, it's for the attendees. No FH worth his meatballs is going to participate in illicit behavior. His friends/brothers, etc. know that. This is more of an excuse for them to be the pigs they are without feeling totally guilty.

Ya know, there are plenty of hardworking chicks swinging on the poles at the clubs, why take business away from them?

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Posted by Beth1210

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Posted by vixchik

I trust him, I do not trust nasty strippers. sorry if there are any strippers getting married on this site...but i think your profession is dispicable.

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why? they are just making money- it's a job

they don't want your husband/boyfreind- they just want to make money

strippers are not hookers- they dance - they entertain- not have sex for money

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Exactly MY thoughts! And no I dont strip for a living!

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I don't either- but I know they make in ONE night what I make in 2 weeks- good for them!

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Posted by vixchik

I trust him, I do not trust nasty strippers. sorry if there are any strippers getting married on this site...but i think your profession is dispicable.

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why? they are just making money- it's a job

they don't want your husband/boyfreind- they just want to make money

strippers are not hookers- they dance - they entertain- not have sex for money

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i agree. i'm not flaming or anything--but i don't quite understand the idea--'i trust him, i do not trust nasty strippers' i mean--if he sleeps with a stripper does that mean it's all her fault? to say you don't trust the women means you also don't trust your FH. it does take 2 to tango. JMO

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Posted by clarity

I see his point, and I thikn you should trust him, hotel room or not. jmo,

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I agree wholeheartedly!

Edited to add:

I don't get the whole 'respect' thing many girls throw around on here. What about having 'respect' for our FH's and respecting their choices to go to a strip club and /or hotel with a stripper to just have FUN, not do anything wrong!
And, the comments about stuff happening more often in a hotel room? Stuff happens ANYWHERE, it won't matter if he's at a club with regular girls or in a hotel room with a stripper!

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Posted by kase21

I figure it's probably better to have it at the hotel anyway. Strip club = unknowns. Hidden rooms, lots more strippers... more booze...

In a hotel room it's a set number of girls for a set amount of time with limited alcohol. There's usually only one bedroom if it's even separate from the main room, and everyone's in one location so the likelihood of anything happening decreases significantly.. Plus those girls are only hired for an hour or two (and they really do cost $$$$ to get them to do private shows). At a regular strip club, he could be there all night long...

I only wish my FH's GMs would have it at a hotel.. knowing my brother... they'll hit every strip club in NY NJ and CT before morning.

And technically he could say he's at a strip club or 'doing the stripper thing' and not tell you about the hotel... so he's being upfront.. I say trust the man..

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he forgot that was in the email. he wasn't being upfront at all.

we had one for my friend bach party - he was there for 30 minutes

then he had to go to another party

it's not like she is there to hang out and get drunk- I am sure she has more then one party a night

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Posted by Beth1210

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Posted by vixchik

I trust him, I do not trust nasty strippers. sorry if there are any strippers getting married on this site...but i think your profession is dispicable.

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why? they are just making money- it's a job

they don't want your husband/boyfreind- they just want to make money

strippers are not hookers- they dance - they entertain- not have sex for money

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i agree. i'm not flaming or anything--but i don't quite understand the idea--'i trust him, i do not trust nasty strippers' i mean--if he sleeps with a stripper does that mean it's all her fault? to say you don't trust the women means you also don't trust your FH. it does take 2 to tango. JMO

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oh lord no...if he slept with a stripper, one the lorena bobbitt jokes would stop and they'd be about me, two, it would be just as much his fault and three, see one again.

i trust him....i just don't have faith in his brother to keep it under control and i don't want to worry about a stripper making something up either.

i know they are there for $$, but i have just heard too many horror stories and FH is too naive to know when things are out of control until it's too late.....once he was in a bar and was being polite talking to a girl so his friend could try to hook up with her friend....well, she read him all wrong (he was being polite and not ignoring her since her friend was all over his) and she reached over and kissed his neck!! do you know how hard it is to kiss someone's neck??? you gotta lean in real dang close

My piece of advice is this:

This topic is so controversial on this board. Everyone is always trying to change everyone elses mind. Its so weird.

So don’t let anyone on this site tell you how to feel. There will be people telling you that there is something wrong with your relationship and that it’s a matter of trust if god forbid you don’t want your FH in a private hotel with a stripper, then there will be the other side telling you that they hate stripper and /or strip clubs .

I just think that this is a personal preference or choice if you don’t want your FH in aroom with a stripper, then speak to your FH and resolve it in a manner that makes you both comfortable. Remember NO ONE here has to home with you & your. They just give their two cents worth and go on with their lives, they don’t have to live your life.

You know how you feel trust your instincts. Do what feels right to you. Its your relationship and your marriage. Good luck.

There has been alot of brides complaining about bachelor parties and strippers on this board the last few weeks and I decided to run this by FH and get his take on it (even though I already knew what he was going to say).

#1 he is grateful I dont have a problem with him going to a strip club for his bachelor party or a friends. I think he has been to one maybe 4 times in the 2 1/2 yrs. we've been together. He doesnt even enjoy it as much as most girls think there guys do. Guys just go b/c it is the 'usual' thing to do for a bachelor party.

#2 he said that he thinks girls have wild ideas of what goes on there. yeh of course they rub up on you and maybe stick their boobs in your face, but the guys are not allowed to touch them at all....and if they do they will get thrown out.

#3 I asked him about guys sleeping with or fooling around with strippers and he laughed.....like many have said these girls have no interest in your man and really are only working. they get paid like we all do to work, maybe you agree with it, maybe you don't, but to them it is a job. if a girl is willing to do extra (and 99.9% are not) it costs $$$$$$ which, most guys I know anyway, don't have that kind of cash.

IMO girls need to relax with the stripper thing. There are a lot more important things to worry about. I dont think FH going to a strip club 1-2 x's a year is disrespectful to me in anyway. I have a wonderful, solid, trusting relationship with FH and would never judge my relationship on whether or not he goes to a strip club. That is stupid!

Ok so maybe not quite upfront, but i think it all comes down to trusting your FH.

And i agree with another poster.. The bachelor party exists as an excuse for the other guys to act up.

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Posted by Sunrise813

My piece of advice is this:

This topic is so controversial on this board. Everyone is always trying to change everyone elses mind. Its so weird.

So don’t let anyone on this site tell you how to feel. There will be people telling you that there is something wrong with your relationship and that it’s a matter of trust if god forbid you don’t want your FH in a private hotel with a stripper, then there will be the other side telling you that they hate stripper and /or strip clubs .

I just think that this is a personal preference or choice if you don’t want your FH in aroom with a stripper, then speak to your FH and resolve it in a manner that makes you both comfortable. Remember NO ONE here has to home with you & your. They just give their two cents worth and go on with their lives, they don’t have to live your life.

You know how you feel trust your instincts. Do what feels right to you. Its your relationship and your marriage. Good luck.

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I agree. I'll explain my Point of View, but i'm not telling you anything is wrong with how you feel. At the end of the day we all have to communicate with our FH's about how we feel and work on a resolution together.

personally.. I am not down with the hotel room either and I am feeling for you..
I hope you guys can resolve this!!!!

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Posted by sugarkube4

personally.. I am not down with the hotel room either and I am feeling for you..
I hope you guys can resolve this!!!!

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I agree - I already told FH that I am not comfortable with this either - i just hope he respects me and tells his BM not to get one because if i find out that he indeed had one after i asked him not too there's gonna be a BIG problem

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Posted by Sunrise813

My piece of advice is this:

This topic is so controversial on this board. Everyone is always trying to change everyone elses mind. Its so weird.

So don’t let anyone on this site tell you how to feel. There will be people telling you that there is something wrong with your relationship and that it’s a matter of trust if god forbid you don’t want your FH in a private hotel with a stripper, then there will be the other side telling you that they hate stripper and /or strip clubs .

I just think that this is a personal preference or choice if you don’t want your FH in aroom with a stripper, then speak to your FH and resolve it in a manner that makes you both comfortable. Remember NO ONE here has to home with you & your. They just give their two cents worth and go on with their lives, they don’t have to live your life.

You know how you feel trust your instincts. Do what feels right to you. Its your relationship and your marriage. Good luck.

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well said. Excellent advice.

stick to what you believe in and see if he can tune in to your needs and concerns here.

I know some people have concerns that when their FH is drunk and everyone around is drunk and the guys are egging him on and there's not as much awareness and judgment....well, sure the stripper might touch him.....you would never know and you would always be wondering.

you're not saying no stippers, just see them in a club instead. perfectly reasonable.

this involves compromise and how the two of you will work together to come to tough decisions.

NO way in the hotel room.
I feel that is so personal-and it disgusts me.
I dont want hime ven going to a strip club-so I know exactly how you feel

My two cents:

I think more can go wrong/happen in a hotel room than in a strip club. There are rules in a strip club, that may not exist in a hotel. I have heard stories of things like two strippers hooking up in front of a group of guys in a hotel, that wouldn' t happen in a club. My opinion is no hotel rooms.

Touchy subject....