Sorry but I really got to vent here. I feel like the past serveral weeks of caring for my FI was to waste. I even went over to TnT to get some support and all he gave me is this 'I'm going to die' speech. Well... now that's here home with me, I found out an interesting tidbit about my 'beloved' FI.
To make a long story short, I found out my FI, the man I am planning to marry and standing behind him throughout his health crisis, was cheating on me while in California. I found out in the worst possible way. While unpacking his stuff, I saw a note and read it. It was an email 'this person' wrote, telling him how much she missed his (you know what) and that she hopes he gets better soon. I did confronted him and he admited to what happened. I just told him to pack his things and go back to Long Island to his mother's first thing in the morning because I do not want to see him or touch him right now.
So this morning he left my house here in PA, asking me to forgive him and telling me he appriciates me being there for him. I didn't want to hear it. I felt I was putting so much energy to make sure he is okay so we can start our lives together, only to see that being shattered. I even went down there to convince him to get treatment here in the US because I love him and know he will be okay.
Now I just don't know what to do now. He wasn't being happy with me, why would he cheat on me like that? I really love him but don't want a cheater. After what I have done for him, I felt that was a huge slap to my face.
angl2001
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OMG i did not expect that!!!!!!!!!!!!! I am sosrry he did that to you!!! did he say why?????
Toucan311
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Whoa!
AS
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OMG , Im sooooooooo sorry to hear this. . What r u going to do now? Why do u call him FI??
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OMG i am so sorry to hear that i can't even imagine what you must be going through...I dont know what advice to give and honestly when it comes to these things i never feel like i should say 'Oh you have to do this or you have to do that' its your life and you are the one who has to live with the decision you make. Only thing i can say is that for right now it might be best to take this time to really think about everything, no talking to him no association so this way nothing is getting in the way with what you truly want to do, no him apologizing and making you even more confused.
I wish you the best of luck with whatever decision you make and again i am so sorry for everything you've been going through
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Posted by MPAS
OMG , Im sooooooooo sorry to hear this. . What r u going to do now? Why do u call him FI??
it also stands for fiance, i know on the knot the use FI instead of FH
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I am so sorry he did this to you. I know it is a hard time for you right now but you really need to think about this situation and what he has done. I don't know if I would be able to forgive. That is just me though. I understand he is going through tough time right now also but does not excuse him for his actions. Sorry JMO
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I think I was more surprised that you are. Here was sweet Robbie, making sure I'm okay and then go behind my back boinking some girl. ARGH! All he said was that he got lonely and she was just there. That's no excuse at all. And I thought camming each other was enough for him. I have all that temption when I was living in New York and I never succomed to it. I was completely faithful to him.
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OMG , Im sooooooooo sorry to hear this. . What r u going to do now? Why do u call him FI??
it also stands for fiance, i know on the knot the use FI instead of FH
lol i was just gonna say that!
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OMG! I'm so so so sorry. I wasn't expecting to read this.... ! I can't believe that he would do such a thing. I don't know the whole story.... I remember reading a post about him being sick and you taking care of him. You have gone above and beyond to be there for him and this is what he does?
What do you think you're going to do? Can you ever trust him again? Do you think your love is enough to stay with him after his betrayal?
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I think I was more surprised that you are. Here was sweet Robbie, making sure I'm okay and then go behind my back boinking some girl. ARGH! All he said was that he got lonely and she was just there. That's no excuse at all. And I thought camming each other was enough for him. I have all that temption when I was living in New York and I never succomed to it. I was completely faithful to him.
so have you decided what you are gonna do?
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Oh my god. I am so sorry that this is happening to you. I wish you the best of luck with it all
Summertimegal424
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once a cheater always a cheater
DomTriniBRL
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What hurts the most is that he's sick and going through chemo. I made a lot of sacrifices for him and it felt I was being betrayed. I will not tolerate cheating at all. I just can't.
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What hurts the most is that he's sick and going through chemo. I made a lot of sacrifices for him and it felt I was being betrayed. I will not tolerate cheating at all. I just can't.
You shouldn't have to tolerate it. Like I said in my post yes he is going through a hard time right now but it doesn't give him the right to do that to you. He still needs to respect you. You are his FI.
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What I'm going to do, Heather... I just don't know. I don't want to speak to him, even though he did tried to reach me a few times today and I never picked up.
I seriously wanna go to the nearest supermarket and pick up a 6-pack. I'm really going to need it.
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OMG.... I am soooo sorry to hear that! I can't believe he would do that to you! After everything you have done for him. You have been nothing but a positive light for him and he has been the total opposite. I really don't know what to say. I hope you can get through this...remember we are here for you!
angl2001
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well it is still fresh once you have time to think about it you will know what to do
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What hurts the most is that he's sick and going through chemo. I made a lot of sacrifices for him and it felt I was being betrayed. I will not tolerate cheating at all. I just can't.
You shouldn't have to tolerate it. Like I said in my post yes he is going through a hard time right now but it doesn't give him the right to do that to you. He still needs to respect you. You are his FI.
I even postpone to make sure he is okay because his health matters the most but when he does become healthy again (I will never wish death to anyone), I don't know if I can set an offical date because of this. I mean, yeah it might have been one girl, but it could be others too that I don't know about.
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Posted by COwens424
once a cheater always a cheater
sorry but i have to disagree on that.....i myself cheated once not on FH but on someone else and i never did it again...i also know of other people who have done it once and never did again.
You never know what the circumstances are and why...you cant predict if they will do it again maybe they will maybe they wont.....bianca just think postitive you will know whats right in your heart
