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WELL like two hours ago, FH aunt just gave me $300 to contribute for the wedding. I think it was such a generous and beautiful gesture. I was sooo grateful! =)

bad news:

so FH aunt tells me, this is so you can use it for photography. I was like oh ok thank you soo much. And she asks 'if you don't mind me asking, how much is photography?' (I didn't tell FH nothing about the quote the photography gave me) and i'm like ummmm...and she goes, write it down and I do. She goes omg! well im sorry its nothing near to that amount but hope it helps! FH goes how much? im like don't worry about it. he goes promise it's not over 2,000 (promises-I take it seriously!)
I go I cant! and he goes 'are you kidding me?? why so much on pics....we should of have never got a nice place if you wanted so much on pics bla bla bla bla...
I didn't get angry but I got soooooooooo upset...you girls have no idea I upset I got. our argument escalated sooo much, that he drove off pissed off.

Right now im just thinking, are you kidding? we just argued over the photography quote! which I consider that its not bad!

2-photographers (the whole day)
1-wedding album
engagement session
photobooth
50 thank you cards and internet gallery
$2,600

is it too much?? or my FH really needs a slap on the face? (perhaps not a slap on the face, but a punch on the face)

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I didn't meet with many photographers and we also got both photo and video from our vendor, but that looks like a really good package to me! Not to mention it's such an important piece of the wedding - these are going to be your memories! It's natural to worry about paying for everything (especially if you two are paying for the entire wedding), but photography isn't something to 'chintz' on.

It's not clear to me whether you booked this vendor, but if you didn't, I wouldn't worry much about it. FH got mad, but he'll probably get over it quickly and now that the argument is over, you can see each other's points and reach a compromise. Don't worry!

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@lori I know! photography is sooo important to me!! I explained to him that it's important bc its what is left! MEMORIESS! =/

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That's a fair price! I think photography is one of the most shocking vendors when it comes to sticker price. I was NOT prepared for it at all. I'm not sure what I thought it was going to be, but boy was I shocked.
Either way, in years to come, when your children get married all you'll have to share with them are the pictures. It's SOOOO important. And the gesture was terribly sweet on his aunt's part. Every bit helps!

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That seems like a good package to me. Especially since there's a photo booth included. Your FH will eventually calm down. There was a thread on here about photography quotes. Maybe you can show that to him once he's ready. It's possible he just doesn't have an idea about how much photography costs.

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That's a fair price, I would just give him time to cool off. Explain to him calmly that you'll have these pictures forever and you wanted them to be perfect. Everything will be fine, don't worry!

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That actually sounds like a really, really good price. Maybe try to explain to him that this is the norm for photography and perhaps offer to cut the budget in another area to compromise.

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That seems like the ridiculous going rate for potographers.. My only questions is... Do you have rights to all your photos after the wedding? You didint mention anything about that and that is the only thing that appears to be missing.. As far as getting all that with a photo booth that is a great deal..
I am paying 1,000 for an unlimited pictures, photo booth prop chest, and a cd of all of pictures taken in the photo booth from my DJ.. Plus my guests get two sets of their pictures too to take home as favors.. But that is just my photo booth not my photog cost which will be additional..

You can make it part of your favor to eleviate that cost as well....

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I think I'm the odd one out here. If you and your fh had an agreement about a price and you knowingly went over without telling him he has right to be upset. It doesn't matter if it's a great price or not if it's out of your budget. Just my thoughts. Hope it all works out for you!

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I think that's a great price, especially since it includes a photobooth.

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I think that is a very fair price. I'm paying almost double that and my package doesn't include an album, e-pics or thank you cards.

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I have to be honest we are spending 5k on photos. It was the most important part of my wedding... Just remember wedding planning is stressful try to just have an open flow of communication i'm sure this will work out xoxo hugs

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I personally do not think that when you plan a wedding you should do things behind the others back. It is his wedding too. If he said $2000 max this is something you should have discussed BEFORE you booked the photo. And honestly you could have NOT got the photobooth & been under budget. A photobooth does not affect your 'memories' like having an album and an engagement shoot. To me that is an 'extra' and if you are on a strict budget you shouldn't have added that.

Now that being said, I think that quote is very good for you got considering a photobooth averages at $1000, so really your photography package is $1600. I'd talk it out with FH- but maybe you could cut back somewhere else or minus the photobooth. You both need to be on the same page.

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Thank you ladies...

My FH seriosuly has NO clue at all how expensive weddings are!
No lie, he literally thought we were going to spend 500 bucks on photography. ( the max)

Hes not paying for the photography part actually (which is the funny part) that is why i didnt understamd why he would get mad.

I had sacrificed alot of things and substituting other things in order to stay within our budget.

PS- he cooled down

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I personally do not think that when you plan a wedding you should do things behind the others back. It is his wedding too. If he said $2000 max this is something you should have discussed BEFORE you booked the photo. And honestly you could have NOT got the photobooth & been under budget. A photobooth does not affect your 'memories' like having an album and an engagement shoot. To me that is an 'extra' and if you are on a strict budget you shouldn't have added that.

Now that being said, I think that quote is very good for you got considering a photobooth averages at $1000, so really your photography package is $1600. I'd talk it out with FH- but maybe you could cut back somewhere else or minus the photobooth. You both need to be on the same page.

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Exactly this. FH and I have been making decisions together since it is OUR wedding. There have been times when I have wanted something and we discussed it to see if it was necessary. For use, a photobooth is not a necessity.

Maybe you guys need to sit down and talk out a strategic plan of how much stuff really costs. Has FH gone to any photographer appointments with you? I know some prices of photographers are very expensive, but he really thought it would cost only $500?

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I'm starting to look at photo/video this weekend and i'm just going by quotes I received from other ladies on this site but I think that is a fairly good deal. This is one thing that 'm so worried about and now going to chintz on because besides our memories in our minds this is the only memories we have to show people that maybe couldn't make it, new friends along the way, our kids, and our grand kids. Photo/Video means a lot to me and finding it very stressful.

I would tell FH well if you think we can do better then you do the research you find someone who will offer the same or more at a cheaper price and then I will check it out. Once he sees there is nothing he can do I'm sure he will be fine with it.

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I do agree with Soon2BeMrsMango. You need to be a team when planning a wedding (and beyond, of course). But there are guys who take a backseat to planning, not wanting to go to appointments, etc. In that case, he needs to be aware that photography is NOT cheap. I happen to know of a really awful photography/videography company (not based on LI), and even their basic package starts at higher than $500.

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that's a great deal! I am paying 2400 for two photogs and a cd of edited images! now you're making me nervous!