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thank you ladies that is very helpful

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HEllo all.

OK so my FH and I are in a bit of a pickle. HE asked his second cousin to be our koumaro. Single guy. OK whatever. I had no input on the decision making of that choice. He asked him and that was that. OK if thats who he wanted and felt strongly about I didnt mind.

Now the problem is, we no longer want his cousin in our wedding. He is a liar and so immature. He moved to LI from SC to get more into the greek community and find himself a Greek girl. WHen he moved up my fh let him stay with him at his studio basement apt. All he did was complain about the place never offered to pay for anything. Complained that FH had no food or drink in the house. My fh is a waiter and usually eats at work. If i was a guest i would make sure i bought stuff for the house since i wasnt paying for my stay, 2 months.

Since then so much has happend. Everyone in my and FH life has a problem with Steve (our koumbaro) He is insocial and rude. Lots of other things in between. Needless to say he is not talking to my FH over something so silly as wanting to leave a festival earlier than steve did. NOw he wont return fh calls.

We do not want someone like this in our life and FH decided he didnt want to risk having a person like this in our wedding. And such an important part. Imagine he get mad a couple days before our wedding and we have no stefana or lambathes?

Sorry this is so long but what i need help with is how to go about telling hime we want him out. Is there a nice way to so this? I feel so bad for FH b/c he is so upset and stressed over this.

TIA for advice and reading this long post.
Beba

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Sorry to hear you're having trouble with your koumbaro.

I don't see anything wrong with telling him that you and FH don't want him to be koumbaro anymore. Explain to him what problems you have with him, and tell him that you don't want such a person as your koumbaro.

It's not going to be an easy conversation to have with him, but it sounds like it's necessary.

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yes its def long over due, thanks for the responce!

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BUMP for Greek brides out there...let's not let this thread die...

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I am not a Greek bride but I am marrying a Greek. I wanted to do something to incorporate his traditions in the reception is there anything I can do??

We are not getting married in a Greek church.

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Posted by MRSin2009

I am not a Greek bride but I am marrying a Greek. I wanted to do something to incorporate his traditions in the reception is there anything I can do??

We are not getting married in a Greek church.

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Who will be marrying you? Will it be a civil ceremony or a religious one?

There are A LOT of traditions that can be incorporated into a wedding ceremony...check out pages 9-11 on this thread. Have you asked your FH what he would like to have incorporated?

FH's brother married someone who is Jewish, and the rabbi let them incorporate the Orthodox crown exchange into their Jewish ceremony.

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We are getting married at the RH so we can really do anything we want. The officiant said we can do any traditional things. I wanted to surprise him at the reception with something. He is from Greece and his family are all coming from Greece.

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I have a question about the ceremony for anyone who could help.

For 'The Ceremonial Walk' how our church said we can use petals, so how do we hand them out, do you wait until everyone is sitting down and hand out to the first 2 rows. Or should I have someone hand them out as the people sit in those 2 rows?

I'm sorry, I'm not Greek and I've never been to a Greek ceremony, so I'm new to all this.

TIA

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Posted by MRSin2009

We are getting married at the RH so we can really do anything we want. The officiant said we can do any traditional things. I wanted to surprise him at the reception with something. He is from Greece and his family are all coming from Greece.

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Then I would definitely find someone Greek who can be your Koumbaro or Koumbara (sponsor) and do the crown (stefana) & ring exchange and the ceremonial dance of Isaiah since these are really the hallmarks of the Orthodox ceremony

The 'magic' number in the Greek Church is 3, so things are usually done 3 times:

Exchange of Rings
During the Betrothal, the rings are blessed over the heads of the bride and groom three times, after which they are placed on the fourth finger of the right hand.

The Crowning
The priest takes up the crowns and makes the sign of the cross three times each over the heads of the bride and groom, and then places the crowns on their heads. The crowns are a symbol that the newly married couple receive the grace of the Holy Spirit to be the founders of a new generation and are crowned with virtue and holiness to serve all their lives to the glory of Almighty God.

The Ceremonial Walk (Dance of Isaiah)
The priest takes the bride and groom by the hand and leads them around the table three times while three hymns are chanted. The circle symbolizes eternity. The triple circling is an honor of the Holy Trinity.

More information about these are on page 11 of this thread.

Feel free to ask more questions...that's what we're here for.

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Posted by PP424

I have a question about the ceremony for anyone who could help.

For 'The Ceremonial Walk' how our church said we can use petals, so how do we hand them out, do you wait until everyone is sitting down and hand out to the first 2 rows. Or should I have someone hand them out as the people sit in those 2 rows?

I'm sorry, I'm not Greek and I've never been to a Greek ceremony, so I'm new to all this.

TIA

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hmmm...you could do as they sit down. if you want to do when everyone is sitting, you may want to give your mom and FH's mom bags with petals that they can distribute to the first 2 rows...there's less disturbance that way (or at least I envision it as less disturbing...you know your family dynamics better, so you might see it as more disturbing)

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Posted by Annoulak

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Posted by PP424

I have a question about the ceremony for anyone who could help.

For 'The Ceremonial Walk' how our church said we can use petals, so how do we hand them out, do you wait until everyone is sitting down and hand out to the first 2 rows. Or should I have someone hand them out as the people sit in those 2 rows?

I'm sorry, I'm not Greek and I've never been to a Greek ceremony, so I'm new to all this.

TIA

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hmmm...you could do as they sit down. if you want to do when everyone is sitting, you may want to give your mom and FH's mom bags with petals that they can distribute to the first 2 rows...there's less disturbance that way (or at least I envision it as less disturbing...you know your family dynamics better, so you might see it as more disturbing)

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Thanks, I was thinking that too, that it might be better to have someone standing in the front and hand it to those in the front two rows. Thank you so much.

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Hi my fellow greek gals!

Have you bought your stefana yet??? Post pics or good sites to find them!!

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Does anyone know if we are required to get readers for the Greek church weddings? I am not Greek my fiance is and am not sure.

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Posted by Aristotelina

Hi my fellow greek gals!

Have you bought your stefana yet??? Post pics or good sites to find them!!

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I have the best lady in Long Island to go to!!! she has awesome prices and they are sooo unique! She goes to the Expo in Athens every year. I LOVE the stefana i picked out!!!! Her lambades are awesome too!!!!!

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Posted by Aristotelina

Hi my fellow greek gals!

Have you bought your stefana yet??? Post pics or good sites to find them!!

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Our Koumbaro said that he would buy them for us and it will be a surprise....

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Posted by Kricket212

Does anyone know if we are required to get readers for the Greek church weddings? I am not Greek my fiance is and am not sure.

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If you have any questions please feel free to ask me... i too am not greek but FH is, so i have done a lot of research. there are no readers in a greek ceremony, so that is one less thing u have to worry about...

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Here are the stefana places I know of in Queens...there could be others, too. Portara has a website if you're looking for ideas.

Elenis Creations
38-07 Ditmars Blvd
Astoria, NY 11105
718.274.9113

G L & Markella
3560 Ditmars Blvd
Astoria, NY 11105-2107
718-721-3724

Irene Everything
Directly across the street from
G L & Markella

Astron Gift Shop
22-81 31st Street
Astoria, NY 11105
718-932-7011

Hellenic Gifts
31-02 23rd Ave
Astoria, NY 11105

Kentrikon & Noufaro
23-35 31st Street
Astoria, NY 11105
718-721-9190

Anastasia’s Gift Shop
194-15 Northern Blvd.
Flushing, NY 11358
718-357-9111

Portara Gallery
34-51 Francis Lewis Blvd
Bayside, NY, 1135
Telephone: 718.961.2299

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Awesome--thank you!!

I actually went to Astron and Markellas yesterday and got some prices. Our Koumbara will buy them, but I will pick them out.

Kathy, who is your lady?

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Her name is Stefanie. She is in Huntington...I will FM you her info. Her prices definitely beat Markellas..I looked there too...and she has an awesome selection!