has anyone looked into babysitters at the wedding

Ok so we had a little bit of an awkward situation, well for only me and fh bc we didn't know how it would be handled when the time comes...but basically we were with family this weekend and they were with their 8-9 kids, this is a few family members and the parent of one of the kids said to the kids 'YAY you're going to a wedding soon'...i didn't hear it but FH did and told me, first he said 'i guess we're inviting kids'. Although FH's parents did say months ago that they would let ppl know about this, so maybe i should just let them handle this

NOW let me explain that I would LOVE kids at the wedding but a few, problem is with all the people we're inviting there could possibly be 20-30 kids or even more and thats just a bit TOO much...first is the problem that with that many kids it will become a bit much, thats way too many kids running around, screaming and going nuts lol...another big problem is that kids meals which are chicken fingers and fries will be about $80-90 which is alot to pay for chicken fingers and especially since alot of kids don't even eat their meals, not to mention that if we invite kids then that means we'll have extra tables to make room for everybody which means more cp's and more money so we're talking about a couple thousand dollars extra to invite kids. Plus i also think that its not an appropriate event for a child, it will end at 1:30 am

SO i was thinking of maybe hiring babysitters, and i guess they would stay at the hotel with the kids? not even sure, does anybody know? has anyone looked into this and found out prices or how it would work?

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Posted by mariaobride

do you know anyone who has any connectionswith any college or highschool students I would look into that through word of mouth also will be a bit cheaper

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well my mom knows a lady who would do this, shes done it for weddings before so thats a possibility but i would still have to hire at least another person bc she wouldn't be able to take care of all of them. But good idea, thank you

We are having one of my brothers girlfriends friends stay at the hotel with another friend and watch the 6 kids that are coming in from out of town that are not invited to the wedding.

But if they are not OOT'ers than I do not think it is your responsibility to provide babysitting.

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Posted by SB7308

I've thought about this (for the few kids that are at the wedding who are in the BP). I was thinking of having someone stay at the hall (in the other room with the kids)-friend of a friend or a BM friend.

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yeah im trying to think if they would do this at JT, if theres a room they would allow this. Maybe it won't come to this, if fh's parents talk to their family and i tell my parents to talk to our side

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Posted by Espo22

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Posted by mariaobride

do you know anyone who has any connectionswith any college or highschool students I would look into that through word of mouth also will be a bit cheaper

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well my mom knows a lady who would do this, shes done it for weddings before so thats a possibility but i would still have to hire at least another person bc she wouldn't be able to take care of all of them. But good idea, thank you

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no prob i am just having 3 children( our nephews) at mine but considered getting a sitter I dont think we will but that was a suggestion made to me- denise i cant believe 20 to 30 children good luck someone should take them on a field trip that day j/k

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Posted by jteach711

We are having one of my brothers girlfriends friends stay at the hotel with another friend and watch the 6 kids that are coming in from out of town that are not invited to the wedding.

But if they are not OOT'ers than I do not think it is your responsibility to provide babysitting.

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thats the problem, a decent amount are oot'ers and the 8-9 kids i was talking about, they are coming here and staying the night

I would definitely do a babysitter. It sounds like it woudld save you a lot of money!! I remember a few girls posting last year on here asking if any bride would be interested in making extra money. That might be an option. Hey i'd do it

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Posted by missliss

Is it out of the question to NOT invite the kids? Just sent the invites to the adults (Mr & Mrs XYZ) and if they question it then let your parents deal with the issue? I'm just worried that if you hire sitters than how are you going to explain to the parents to bring the kids but that they can't actually come to the wedding itself?

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well thats the plan, the parents said they will let everyone know...i just felt bad about a few ppl, our oot guests. Now it makes even harder that the kids were told they are going to our wedding but ill tell fh to talk to his parents about it and see what they say now

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Posted by Espo22

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Posted by missliss

Is it out of the question to NOT invite the kids? Just sent the invites to the adults (Mr & Mrs XYZ) and if they question it then let your parents deal with the issue? I'm just worried that if you hire sitters than how are you going to explain to the parents to bring the kids but that they can't actually come to the wedding itself?

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well thats the plan, the parents said they will let everyone know...i just felt bad about a few ppl, our oot guests. Now it makes even harder that the kids were told they are going to our wedding but ill tell fh to talk to his parents about it and see what they say now

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Well like you said before, it's not really an appropriate place for kids. They'll be upset, but they're kids they don't get to make the rules.

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Posted by Espo22

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Posted by missliss

Is it out of the question to NOT invite the kids? Just sent the invites to the adults (Mr & Mrs XYZ) and if they question it then let your parents deal with the issue? I'm just worried that if you hire sitters than how are you going to explain to the parents to bring the kids but that they can't actually come to the wedding itself?

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well thats the plan, the parents said they will let everyone know...i just felt bad about a few ppl, our oot guests. Now it makes even harder that the kids were told they are going to our wedding but ill tell fh to talk to his parents about it and see what they say now

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Yeah, you can't feel bad about that though. They should never have opened their mouths until they were sure. People should never assume things when it comes to weddings. It's like promising a kid a cookie...you better not do it unless you're 100% sure there's a cookie there somewhere....

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Posted by missliss

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Posted by Espo22

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Posted by missliss

Is it out of the question to NOT invite the kids? Just sent the invites to the adults (Mr & Mrs XYZ) and if they question it then let your parents deal with the issue? I'm just worried that if you hire sitters than how are you going to explain to the parents to bring the kids but that they can't actually come to the wedding itself?

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well thats the plan, the parents said they will let everyone know...i just felt bad about a few ppl, our oot guests. Now it makes even harder that the kids were told they are going to our wedding but ill tell fh to talk to his parents about it and see what they say now

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Yeah, you can't feel bad about that though. They should never have opened their mouths until they were sure. People should never assume things when it comes to weddings. It's like promising a kid a cookie...you better not do it unless you're 100% sure there's a cookie there somewhere....

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I was just going to say this too. They shouldn't assume that their kids will be invited.

a few of my cousins weddings had a seperate room provided at the hall and a babysitter to watch them. Now these people make a ton of money and can afford that.

I wouldn't stress it out - just say no kids like i did

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Posted by mariaobride

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Posted by Espo22

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Posted by mariaobride

do you know anyone who has any connectionswith any college or highschool students I would look into that through word of mouth also will be a bit cheaper

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well my mom knows a lady who would do this, shes done it for weddings before so thats a possibility but i would still have to hire at least another person bc she wouldn't be able to take care of all of them. But good idea, thank you

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no prob i am just having 3 children( our nephews) at mine but considered getting a sitter I dont think we will but that was a suggestion made to me- denise i cant believe 20 to 30 children good luck someone should take them on a field trip that day j/k

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LOL EXACTLY!!!!!! i mean the thing is that some parents actually don't want to bring their kids...we went to his friends x-mas party on saturday and she was saying how shes not bringing her son bc weddings are not a place for small children so she will leave him with her parents, and i know a few of fh's friends feel the same way...but i also can't guess exactly who would bring kids or who wouldn't

i am trying to calculate it now and doing it quickly i counted 19 kids, and i didnt even really do my side and some of fh's other family so yeah thats alot, otherwise i would honestly LOVE kids there and it makes me sad to think of some of the kids not being there

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Posted by cherish83

I would definitely do a babysitter. It sounds like it woudld save you a lot of money!! I remember a few girls posting last year on here asking if any bride would be interested in making extra money. That might be an option. Hey i'd do it

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LOL ok ill ask you if i need it hahahaha but true im sure some ppl would like to make some extra money.

i am having the same issue. I'm trying to look into it and feel confused as to what to do.

I did just find out though that we have access to the bridal suite for the entire night -so we can hire someone to stay with the YOUNG kids in there....but WHO?????

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Posted by missliss

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Posted by Espo22

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Posted by missliss

Is it out of the question to NOT invite the kids? Just sent the invites to the adults (Mr & Mrs XYZ) and if they question it then let your parents deal with the issue? I'm just worried that if you hire sitters than how are you going to explain to the parents to bring the kids but that they can't actually come to the wedding itself?

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well thats the plan, the parents said they will let everyone know...i just felt bad about a few ppl, our oot guests. Now it makes even harder that the kids were told they are going to our wedding but ill tell fh to talk to his parents about it and see what they say now

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Yeah, you can't feel bad about that though. They should never have opened their mouths until they were sure. People should never assume things when it comes to weddings. It's like promising a kid a cookie...you better not do it unless you're 100% sure there's a cookie there somewhere....

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i know i was surprised bc i know alot of ppl now do no kids at the wedding so i said to FH that it shouldn't be assumed, especially considering how big our guest list is already

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Posted by Espo22

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Posted by jteach711

We are having one of my brothers girlfriends friends stay at the hotel with another friend and watch the 6 kids that are coming in from out of town that are not invited to the wedding.

But if they are not OOT'ers than I do not think it is your responsibility to provide babysitting.

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thats the problem, a decent amount are oot'ers and the 8-9 kids i was talking about, they are coming here and staying the night

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In that case I would definetly get a babysitter for the oot'ers children and have your parents explain that babysitting will be provided at the hotel if they needed but that no children are coming to the wedding.