Have you ever been to a wedding and not seen the bride???
FH, FIL and I went to a wedding last weekend with well over 300 people there. We did NOT see the Bride at all. And I mean at all!!!!!!!!! I have no idea how she looked or what kind of gown she picked. We only happened to see the Groom as we were leaving.
They didn't come to the cocktail hour and they didn't come around to the tables at the reception.
There were soo many people at this wedding I couldn't even see them when the DJ did the introduction, let alone their first dance.
I'm so shocked about this. I cant believe how rude people can be. Yes, I understand over 300 people is a large number but at least walk around a bit.
What are your feelings... Has this ever happened to you?
BarbieGrl10
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Posted by MrsDtoBe09
Okay, I might not be well liked after this comment but whatever. Why didn't you go to the ceremony to see the bride and groom? The whole point of the day is to celebrate the ceremony that took place that married the couple. If people didn't go out of their way to see me get married, I dont think I'd go out of my way to greet them at the party.
I couldn't go. FIL wanted to go together b/c he was going alone. He had business appointments in the morning so we had to wait for him. There was not enough time to go to the ceremony drive home to pick up FIL then drive back. It was too far.
I don't want to start drama with this post.
I'm saying as a guest at a wedding I expect to at least see the bride and groom, wish them a happy life together and hand them the envelope.
Know who I gave the envelope to? The Mother of the Groom... as we were on our way out before we actually saw the groom
VickiR510
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Posted by VickiR510
Honestly, i dont see what the discussion is. I mean its your wedding & you have invited people who are happily there to enjoy your day with you & give a generous gift & you cant even say Thank you or even just a hello? Come on. I mean even if you took the mic & said thank you to everyone at least as a guest in someway you were acknowledged. Thats all people want. Wether there is 10 people or ten thousand.
dont know if you are referencing but i definitely mentioned doing the mic thing in the first place...
also ang i totally agree..you are celebrating the marriage (ceremony) not the food and reception hall!
im referencing your quote aboutthe mic. At least she said hello & thank you! lol Better then not doing it at all.
Ang,
I agree with the fact that people should be at the actual wedding but even then you hardly get a chance to say a thing. And in fact if you are having a friday wedding most people unfortunately cant get off from work to get to the actual wedding. So you look forward to congratulating them at the Ch or the reception. But when you never even catch a glimpse to go up to them yourself? Thats crazy!
VickiR510
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Posted by BarbieGrl10
Posted by MrsDtoBe09
Okay, I might not be well liked after this comment but whatever. Why didn't you go to the ceremony to see the bride and groom? The whole point of the day is to celebrate the ceremony that took place that married the couple. If people didn't go out of their way to see me get married, I dont think I'd go out of my way to greet them at the party.
I couldn't go. FIL wanted to go together b/c he was going alone. He had business appointments in the morning so we had to wait for him. There was not enough time to go to the ceremony drive home to pick up FIL then drive back. It was too far.
I don't want to start drama with this post.
I'm saying as a guest at a wedding I expect to at least see the bride and groom, wish them a happy life together and hand them the envelope.
Know who I gave the envelope to? The Mother of the Groom... as we were on our way out before we actually saw the groom
Barb no drama we are all allowed to express opinions & the beauty of our 09 board is we can do it without drama, but rather with maturity & intelligence!
BarbieGrl10
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Posted by VickiR510
Posted by MrsDrinkh20
Posted by VickiR510
Honestly, i dont see what the discussion is. I mean its your wedding & you have invited people who are happily there to enjoy your day with you & give a generous gift & you cant even say Thank you or even just a hello? Come on. I mean even if you took the mic & said thank you to everyone at least as a guest in someway you were acknowledged. Thats all people want. Wether there is 10 people or ten thousand.
dont know if you are referencing but i definitely mentioned doing the mic thing in the first place...
also ang i totally agree..you are celebrating the marriage (ceremony) not the food and reception hall!
im referencing your quote aboutthe mic. At least she said hello & thank you! lol Better then not doing it at all.
Ang,
I agree with the fact that people should be at the actual wedding but even then you hardly get a chance to say a thing. And in fact if you are having a friday wedding most people unfortunately cant get off from work to get to the actual wedding. So you look forward to congratulating them at the Ch or the reception. But when you never even catch a glimpse to go up to them yourself? Thats crazy!
I know there was a lot of people there and I know they cant come to every table.
It would have made all the difference to me if they would have picked up the mic and said a hello and thank you.
Thats it.... just acknowledge the people who came out to celebrate your day. Even if I couldnt see them I could hear them. So I dont feel like an a$$ leaving an envelope with out even seeing them.
ETA: If I would have seen them I would have gone up to them said congrats and give then the gift.
TheLadyJ
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I would be disappointed if I didn't get to see the couple and congratulate them. but I don't think I would consider them rude.
One wedding I went to I barely saw the Bride and Groom all night. Turns out they had a big timing problem earlier in the day and were outside taking photos all night.
Everyone is different. We invite people to our weddings because we want them to have a good time and celebrate our day with us. While I personally want to see everyone, I know I may not be able to. But we are not having a card box, so I hope I will at least be able to see people as they come by with envelopes.
I wouldn't take it personally and be insulted. We have no way of knowing what else the couple was going through.
meli722
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i think my parents will be embarrassed if i dont go around and thank everyone for coming, i will never hear the END of it.....
everyone is different though, some people do not think they have to go around to each person and thank them....i personally will feel bad if these people have came out to my wedding and i dont give them a thanks...yes its time consuming, but just one of those things you have to do IMO
