hes leaving me.....

my husband decides now that he doesnt need counseling and that hes not coming tonight and that this is over!!! what an a$$hole!!

i cant believe him right now. he says that he married a 40 year old woman- referencing that i dont like to go out and have a good time.. if you knew me that is so untrue.. but his idea of a good time is coming home obliterated....sorry not my idea of having fun with my husband...

i am numb right now- ive been crying here at workall day. he was so mean to me on the phone...he has some serious issues. maybe this is a good thing but right now i have a pit in my stomach.... he says he has a drinkingproblem but so what so do all of his friends..real mature 31 year old....

the one person that cares about him and doesnt want him ending up 'dead' has given me the boot! at this point even if he had a revelation i dont think id want him back.

sucks- its my birthday next week and im going to be miserable!!!!!i know it will be bettwr for me in the long run but i am so angry at him for making his problem my fault!!!

eta- thanks for fms-i can see that i have them but i cant read them at work they are blocked!

yeah, that is a shame

Hell, it's his loss and he will regret it one day

you reap what you sow

I am in shock and do NOT know what to say....I'm sorry. I'm sure whomever he is staying with is feeding him some BS

How horrible for you -

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I am in shock and do NOT know what to say....I'm sorry. I'm sure whomever he is staying with is feeding him some BS

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I agree about the BS part. My best to you in your rough time. We're here for you to vent to anytime.

omg i m so sorry, u deserve so much better..it hurts so bad now, i kno that..but ur heart will heal in time..we r all here for you

All I can do is give you lots and lots of hugs

Sounds like a really sh***y guy to me. And to think he is just a year older than I am. I couldn't even fathom acting like that.

I 'm so sorry to hear this.
If you can, you may benefit from counseling alone, if he won't go.

Even if you can't fix it, it may help you process everything.

my heart goes out to you, sweetie.. It truly is HIS loss. One day he will realize this , but for now you need to take care of YOU . He obviously doesn't want to change and keeps hurting you in the process

Many prayers and hugs to you

I'm sorry that this happened.....I don't know what else to say other than you're a strong woman and I hope that one day your husband will seek help, for himself if anything.

I am so sorry...your post was so sad. But like everyone else said in the long it's better and he'll regret it one day, but that's his problem. Take care and good luck.

I'm sorry about this - many hugs to you


This is not your fault at all - he is choosing to party and stay out late and live his life on a downward spiral rather than continue building an adult and loving relationship with you.

Unfortunately he has a disease and until he chooses to address it and get help there's nothing you can do.

Please continue to be strong and remember we are all here for you

I am sorry. At least now you can start picking up the pieces. I truly think that in the end you will come out stronger and happier!!! Keep your chin up and remember that there are better things in store for you!!!

I am sooooo sorry. I really am..if you need to just vent please please FM me!!!

I am so sorry Kristi It sounds like he's surrounding himself with only the people who think he's not doing anything wrong, b/c he isn't strong enough to handle his own faults.

You will come through this stonger than ever knowing that you stood up for what you felt, and you're not settling for a marriage that makes you unhappy. We're all here for you!