text message thread to my phone as follows ***********************************************
sister : surgery is set for march 21st
me : what surgery?
sister : dad is getting a new kidney
me: WHAT?? from who?
sister: I'm giving him one of mine *************************************************** I had NO clue this was in the works and Scheduled now for 3 weeks before my wedding
I was SO upset for 3 reasons
ONE - I was kept in the dark that they were even testing for this
TWO- it's 3 WEEKS before my wedding
THREE - I am so stressed, and no one thought it important to tell me my dad and sister where have organs moved around.
I am THRILLED my dad can get a new kidney
but I was piiiisssed that I was kept in the dark about a major family event, so close to my own wedding!
Am I wrong?
itbroi805
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i would be upset for them not telling you but they probably didnt want to stress u out.
DCgirl82
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That is wonder news and very very amazing of your sister..
However I have to agree with you 100%!!! Why wouldnt anyone tell you about it? I would be so hurt to not know all of this and just find out randomly. That is not something small Its HUGE!!!!!!!!! Im sorry love... here if you need me <3
ColliMac23
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I would have been thrown off but happy
lisam1113
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I would be happy he's getting a new kidney but pissed for so close to the wedding (also sometimes drs cant schedule it sooner, so maybe that was there issue) I hope they both have a very fast & healty recovery!!!
SoonToBeMrsCali
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I would have been thrown off but happy
This.
Cataverri
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It's def. a horrible, great news.
I would be thrilled regardless of the time frame. I think nothing beats our parents health. Don;t be upset..rather embrace this great news.
AngnShaun
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i would absolutely be angry for not knowing what was going on... thats not ok... youre not a child...
rosatemp
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Posted by itbroi805
i would be upset for them not telling you but they probably didnt want to stress u out.
ITA.. they know your under alot of stress and probably didn't want to ad to it so I kinda wouldn't bs upset they did it for your own sack..ya it sucks it's 3 weeks before but @ least now your dad will be better..don't be to hard on them
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i would absolutely be angry for not knowing what was going on... thats not ok... youre not a child...
I was just so hurt that no one thought that I would want to know this early.
I spent all of Saturday with my mom shopping for her dress for the wedding, and she whispered not a peep about it.
If the surgery was scheduled for the day before my wedding i wouldn't protest, but being left in the dark and then broad sided... that hurts.
Ive ALWAYS feared my father wouldn't be able to walk me down the aisle, cause he has always been sick and i worried he wouldn't be there for my wedding, to see my children.. ect
so to suddenly find out TWO family members may not be there for the biggest day of my life thus far
and not being warned ...
I've been under A LOT OF stress.... this didn't help
smilesjc81
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when I flat out asked them, they didn't say
'we didnt wanna stress you out'
they said
'oops we thought you knew'
LoveyDovey
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I totally understand how you're feeling
As much as it is absolutely amazing great news...I'd be sad and worried that they wouldn't make it to the wedding
They prob didn't tell you bc they didn't want to stress you out, but I still don't think its right
what's done is done...don't stress yourself out too much! take a deep breath...and just focus on being happy for your father getting a new healthy life!
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I would be VERY upset.
One she told you over text message. Two, why wouldn't she tell you she was getting tested, got approved, etc.
Three, since you wedding is close to the surgery date and I've heard the recovery is very difficult they should have made you aware in advace!
Your sister will have a very difficult recovery.
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I'd be really upset that I wasn't told...That is a huge deal!
BUT just try to remember that this is, as you said, good news overall. I hope the surgery goes perfectly and both members can be there for your day feeling wonderful.
I know you said they replied with 'i thought you knew' but maybe everyone just didn't want to be THE ONE to tell you, you know? And they just passed the buck to someone else. Not that it was right
FSIL's mom didn't tell her she had breast cancer the whole time FSIL was pregnant with FH's niece. EVERYONE knew except her and her mom didn't want her stressed during the pregnancy.
I'm sure she wasn't too happy to be the last to know but she got passed it to focus on her mom's health kwim?
Vent away naomi!
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I would be VERY upset.
One she told you over text message. Two, why wouldn't she tell you she was getting tested, got approved, etc.
Three, since you wedding is close to the surgery date and I've heard the recovery is very difficult they should have made you aware in advace!
Your sister will have a very difficult recovery.
they make it seem like it will all be ok, but i know that it's not an easy surgery and that infection/complications could occur!
**sigh** over the summer this would be OVER THE TOP amazing news
in march- its dreadfully great news... one more thing to worry about
Tomsbride
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I would be VERY upset.
One she told you over text message. Two, why wouldn't she tell you she was getting tested, got approved, etc.
Three, since you wedding is close to the surgery date and I've heard the recovery is very difficult they should have made you aware in advace!
Your sister will have a very difficult recovery.
they make it seem like it will all be ok, but i know that it's not an easy surgery and that infection/complications could occur!
**sigh** over the summer this would be OVER THE TOP amazing news
in march- its dreadfully great news... one more thing to worry about
Yes, its hard because it's something you should be elated about. But this is life so you have to move on and focus on the positive. But vent on here because although some the wedding is not as imporant it's still a very big day!
mrsq2be
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I totally understand how you're feeling
As much as it is absolutely amazing great news...I'd be sad and worried that they wouldn't make it to the wedding
They prob didn't tell you bc they didn't want to stress you out, but I still don't think its right
what's done is done...don't stress yourself out too much! take a deep breath...and just focus on being happy for your father getting a new healthy life
