How many of you..

Live with your FH already?

How many don't?

Opinions on both?

=)


My FH and I do notttt live together, my mother would not have it

Although my DAD (you would think it would be the other way around!) doesn't care, his parents are both like 'Just move out together already' haha.

I WISH!!!!


Opinion:

I would love to live with him even though 'its not the right thing to do before you are married' that way we can find out our peeves lol and work on them! I had a friend who was engaged, lived with the boy and he dumped her because she LOADED THE DISHWASHER WRONG!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaare you kidding me!?


I think living together first is a good idea that way you know what bothers you and what doesnt and all that fun stuff :)

We dont live together. Before we got engaged we talked about getting an apartment. I dont pay rent though, so at the point it wouldnt make sense for us to get an apartment until we are married.

I think everyone has to make the decision for themselves. I dont judge either way.

I actually just moved in with FH in September. I love it!!

I don' t think there's anything wrong with living together before you get married. His parents bought a house for us! HAHA!! Well, we pay them rent, but his parents wanted us to move in last year. It's an adjustment. But I love it!

ive lived w my FH for years. I agree it's a huge difference bc I didn't live w my ex husband before and it was a nightmare after.

you get used to being a couple and learning the oddities of each other.

But really, I dont think it's a deal breaker. Lots of my friends didn't live w their spouses before and they've been married forever.

I'd just keep an open conversation going about what you like and don't, how you expect to get through the paychecks w bills bc that's the biggest problem...learning to pay bills etc on your own.

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Posted by ImgonnabeMrsC

I had a friend who was engaged, lived with the boy and he dumped her because she LOADED THE DISHWASHER WRONG!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Nice guy she had there! He did her a favor...he sounds like a jerk!!

Anyway, the responses that this question gets usually infuriate me (not yours though!), so I should learn better to not open this thread but I always do!

FH and I don't live together. We don't have any plans to live together until we are married.

And yes, I think we will be just fine when we do start living together. And yes, I know him plenty well without living with him. Whether or not he is trained to put his socks in the hamper when he takes them off isn't going to be a deal breaker for me.

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Posted by ImgonnabeMrsC


I would love to live with him even though 'its not the right thing to do before you are married' that way we can find out our peeves lol and work on them! I had a friend who was engaged, lived with the boy and he dumped her because she LOADED THE DISHWASHER WRONG!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaare you kidding me!?


I think living together first is a good idea that way you know what bothers you and what doesnt and all that fun stuff :)

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umm, i hate to say it but I am pretty sure the dude had other reasons, but just refused to say what they were.

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Posted by BlushandBashful

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Posted by ImgonnabeMrsC

I had a friend who was engaged, lived with the boy and he dumped her because she LOADED THE DISHWASHER WRONG!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Nice guy she had there! He did her a favor...he sounds like a jerk!!

Anyway, the responses that this question gets usually infuriate me (not yours though!), so I should learn better to not open this thread but I always do!

FH and I don't live together. We don't have any plans to live together until we are married.

And yes, I think we will be just fine when we do start living together. And yes, I know him plenty well without living with him. Whether or not he is trained to put his socks in the hamper when he takes them off isn't going to be a deal breaker for me.

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you guys will be fine. honestly i like the idea of living w mine before bc he's a PITA! lol but I'm sure not everyone's FH's are as bratty as he is. lol

really, if your relationship is strong, and you discuss these things and are willing to bend a bit to accommodate each other, it's cake. Plus, it's exciting to wait.

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Posted by BlushandBashful

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Posted by ImgonnabeMrsC

I had a friend who was engaged, lived with the boy and he dumped her because she LOADED THE DISHWASHER WRONG!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Nice guy she had there! He did her a favor...he sounds like a jerk!!

Anyway, the responses that this question gets usually infuriate me (not yours though!), so I should learn better to not open this thread but I always do!

FH and I don't live together. We don't have any plans to live together until we are married.

And yes, I think we will be just fine when we do start living together. And yes, I know him plenty well without living with him. Whether or not he is trained to put his socks in the hamper when he takes them off isn't going to be a deal breaker for me.

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Living together before marriage is a personal choice! If it's not what's right for you, then I wouldn't suggest it... I will say (and I'm sure you've had MANY friends tell you this already) there is a HUGE difference from when you move in together. I am personally glad and thankfull for the time we've had to really get to know each other, and I don't think I would have had it any other way for us. However, the idea of waiting till the wedding is a very romantic one and something that will make that time for you even more special.

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Posted by jesstangney

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Posted by BlushandBashful

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Posted by ImgonnabeMrsC

I had a friend who was engaged, lived with the boy and he dumped her because she LOADED THE DISHWASHER WRONG!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Nice guy she had there! He did her a favor...he sounds like a jerk!!

Anyway, the responses that this question gets usually infuriate me (not yours though!), so I should learn better to not open this thread but I always do!

FH and I don't live together. We don't have any plans to live together until we are married.

And yes, I think we will be just fine when we do start living together. And yes, I know him plenty well without living with him. Whether or not he is trained to put his socks in the hamper when he takes them off isn't going to be a deal breaker for me.

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Living together before marriage is a personal choice! If it's not what's right for you, then I wouldn't suggest it... I will say (and I'm sure you've had MANY friends tell you this already) there is a HUGE difference from when you move in together. I am personally glad and thankfull for the time we've had to really get to know each other, and I don't think I would have had it any other way for us. However, the idea of waiting till the wedding is a very romantic one and something that will make that time for you even more special.

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Yep, we hear it a lot. Honestly, we WANT that big change. I have NOOOO issue with people who live together before marriage. At all. And I agree that I am SURE it makes the transition easier and helps you work out all the little kinks that all relationships have when you first move in together. It just wasn't in the card for FH and I.

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Posted by BlushandBashful

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Posted by jesstangney

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Posted by BlushandBashful

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Posted by ImgonnabeMrsC

I had a friend who was engaged, lived with the boy and he dumped her because she LOADED THE DISHWASHER WRONG!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Nice guy she had there! He did her a favor...he sounds like a jerk!!

Anyway, the responses that this question gets usually infuriate me (not yours though!), so I should learn better to not open this thread but I always do!

FH and I don't live together. We don't have any plans to live together until we are married.

And yes, I think we will be just fine when we do start living together. And yes, I know him plenty well without living with him. Whether or not he is trained to put his socks in the hamper when he takes them off isn't going to be a deal breaker for me.

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Living together before marriage is a personal choice! If it's not what's right for you, then I wouldn't suggest it... I will say (and I'm sure you've had MANY friends tell you this already) there is a HUGE difference from when you move in together. I am personally glad and thankfull for the time we've had to really get to know each other, and I don't think I would have had it any other way for us. However, the idea of waiting till the wedding is a very romantic one and something that will make that time for you even more special.

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Yep, we hear it a lot. Honestly, we WANT that big change. I have NOOOO issue with people who live together before marriage. At all. And I agree that I am SURE it makes the transition easier and helps you work out all the little kinks that all relationships have when you first move in together. It just wasn't in the card for FH and I.

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I have a g/f who (as far as I know) is waiting until the wedding, and I'm sure they'll be fine. On the flip side, I know a girl who moved into her now husband's house right after they got engaged and almost immediately the issues started, 2 years later they are STILL trying to work through it. I can't tell you how much she has changed and how to her closest friends she is not nearly as happy.

We've been living together for 4.5 of our 5 years together. We rent a townhouse right now but are saving up to buy a house. FH originally moved to Oregon to be with me, and was supposed to find his own apt but never did My mom has always said things like 'If I had lived with your father before we got married, we probably wouldn't have gotten married' So I'm just glad we know each others habits and know that we live well together before we don't have a choice in the matter.

FH and I have been living together for almost a year now. WOW time flies!

I love it! At first I still felt the same, but there was a few months there that were a HUGE adjustment period. We both had never lived on our own before and I am way messy compared to him lol!
Now, I could not imagine it any other way.

FH and I started dating in late August of 09
Fell in love immediately and I moved in to his co-op in Feb '10 this year! Engaged in July of this yr!

I love living with him, (exCept when we fight )
and it is great for us to get to kno each others quirks better before we get married!

We live at home right now.. before the wedding we are getting an apt together