Is anyone else SUPER stressed about $$$?

We have some money saved so far, I think almost enough for the hall, so thats a load off.. But i get in the periods where I think we're fine and periods where I flip out Like last month, FH and I went out to dinner every weekend.. A lot of money spent.. at that time i was thinking it was all fine, but now i started stressing again, so no more dinners out for a while

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Posted by jjk1007

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Posted by bonch20

I'm thinking about having some $ deducted each week from my check to help.

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....this is a very good idea!

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I do this with ING.

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Posted by Chabellaz830

I just woke up this morning crying because I was stressed about money!!!!!

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awwwwwwwwww.....dont worry, im right there with ya!

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Posted by cherish83

We have some money saved so far, I think almost enough for the hall, so thats a load off.. But i get in the periods where I think we're fine and periods where I flip out Like last month, FH and I went out to dinner every weekend.. A lot of money spent.. at that time i was thinking it was all fine, but now i started stressing again, so no more dinners out for a while

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YESSS!!!!!! We're going through the same exact 'ups and downs'
Man, it really *****. As far as money goes, I can't wait until the wedding is over so this stress can be behind us. But people say that you're always saving for something--I just hope it's not as stressful as this is!

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Posted by Chabellaz830

I just woke up this morning crying because I was stressed about money!!!!!

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that is usually how i will go to bed

i keep wine in my apt now so when i feel the anxiety coming a glass will calm me.

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Posted by jjk1007

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Posted by meggles808

i wasn't until last night. We are very lucky our parents are paying for most of our wedding. Its the thought of buying a house and being able to afford the electric cable and everything else. I was ok with money i paid all my credit cards off and i have two more car payments left. The FH has his masters that he is paying and his car payments and credit cards. I think everything will be ok but he got really upset last night about houses.

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Im very jealous (not in a bad way, I promise) of people who are having their weddings paid for...or even partially paid for. It has to be such a relief for you guys. I know that my family would give more if they could, but the money just isnt there.

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I am the same way. I mean I can not ***** cause my parents are buying my dress and day of makeup and hair- but FH and I are paying for everything ourselves and at 21 yrs old I am happy with what we have accomplished- I still have friends who spend all their paychecks going out drinking, on cigarettes and then have to call their parents cause htey dont have enough $ for their rent in NYC I feel very mature now knowing the amount of $ FH and I were able to set aside already!!

plus with 7 kids in my family there is NO way I ever expected my parents to pay for everything or even just the hall lol- I mean my dad does have a good job and they offered to put down $500 for our first deposit on the hall- but I now know they have to do that for each one of my brotehrs and sisters!! ANd lets face it with 3 kids in college at the same time I get married- I am hoping my dad doesnt have a heartattack!!!

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Posted by violiz

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Posted by cherish83

We have some money saved so far, I think almost enough for the hall, so thats a load off.. But i get in the periods where I think we're fine and periods where I flip out Like last month, FH and I went out to dinner every weekend.. A lot of money spent.. at that time i was thinking it was all fine, but now i started stressing again, so no more dinners out for a while

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YESSS!!!!!! We're going through the same exact 'ups and downs'
Man, it really *****. As far as money goes, I can't wait until the wedding is over so this stress can be behind us. But people say that you're always saving for something--I just hope it's not as stressful as this is!

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haha my dad says that all the time- he says once you get married welcome a life of debt haha

but he means good debt lol

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Posted by cbcf

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Posted by violiz

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Posted by cherish83

We have some money saved so far, I think almost enough for the hall, so thats a load off.. But i get in the periods where I think we're fine and periods where I flip out Like last month, FH and I went out to dinner every weekend.. A lot of money spent.. at that time i was thinking it was all fine, but now i started stressing again, so no more dinners out for a while

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YESSS!!!!!! We're going through the same exact 'ups and downs'
Man, it really *****. As far as money goes, I can't wait until the wedding is over so this stress can be behind us. But people say that you're always saving for something--I just hope it's not as stressful as this is!

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haha my dad says that all the time- he says once you get married welcome a life of debt haha

but he means good debt lol

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I dont want to be in debt! But like Catie, we have a lot in student loans!!! Fh will have to start paying back in December, and me in June! So i guess in a way its good we pushed back the wedding. I must say it has helped in that aspect.

When i told my Mom that FH and I need to stop going out, and that she has to stop talking me into going shopping, she did make a point, that we do need to still enjoy our life, or thats just going to add to the stress.

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Posted by cbcf

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Posted by jjk1007

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Posted by meggles808

i wasn't until last night. We are very lucky our parents are paying for most of our wedding. Its the thought of buying a house and being able to afford the electric cable and everything else. I was ok with money i paid all my credit cards off and i have two more car payments left. The FH has his masters that he is paying and his car payments and credit cards. I think everything will be ok but he got really upset last night about houses.

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Im very jealous (not in a bad way, I promise) of people who are having their weddings paid for...or even partially paid for. It has to be such a relief for you guys. I know that my family would give more if they could, but the money just isnt there.

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I am the same way. I mean I can not ***** cause my parents are buying my dress and day of makeup and hair- but FH and I are paying for everything ourselves and at 21 yrs old I am happy with what we have accomplished- I still have friends who spend all their paychecks going out drinking, on cigarettes and then have to call their parents cause htey dont have enough $ for their rent in NYC I feel very mature now knowing the amount of $ FH and I were able to set aside already!!

plus with 7 kids in my family there is NO way I ever expected my parents to pay for everything or even just the hall lol- I mean my dad does have a good job and they offered to put down $500 for our first deposit on the hall- but I now know they have to do that for each one of my brotehrs and sisters!! ANd lets face it with 3 kids in college at the same time I get married- I am hoping my dad doesnt have a heartattack!!!

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I know what you mean about feeling proud at how much you and FH have accomplished on your own. Its definitely a great feeling knowing that we are making this happen for ourselves. I mean, I still know quite a few people who are older than me that are still getting A LOT of support from their parents. I would never judge because thats great that theyre able to get that support from their families, but there is definitely something to be said for the couple that has to go it alone. Its a double edged sword....you get that sense of accomplishment, but you also get the stress that comes along with spending all this money.

Yes, we stress about $$$. We are saving and will have a decent amount by the wedding, but we still are going to need a little bit more. FH has been working extra at his job to get some overtime, which helps a little, but within the next couple of months were most likely going to have to get 2nd jobs to finish paying for the wedding.

It is difficult trying to pay for it our selves....plus we are trying to pay our CC off, well get them down and sometimes it is so fustruating. But we know in the end it will be worth it!

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Posted by cherish83

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Posted by cbcf

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Posted by violiz

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Posted by cherish83

We have some money saved so far, I think almost enough for the hall, so thats a load off.. But i get in the periods where I think we're fine and periods where I flip out Like last month, FH and I went out to dinner every weekend.. A lot of money spent.. at that time i was thinking it was all fine, but now i started stressing again, so no more dinners out for a while

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YESSS!!!!!! We're going through the same exact 'ups and downs'
Man, it really *****. As far as money goes, I can't wait until the wedding is over so this stress can be behind us. But people say that you're always saving for something--I just hope it's not as stressful as this is!

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haha my dad says that all the time- he says once you get married welcome a life of debt haha

but he means good debt lol

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I dont want to be in debt! But like Catie, we have a lot in student loans!!! Fh will have to start paying back in December, and me in June! So i guess in a way its good we pushed back the wedding. I must say it has helped in that aspect.

When i told my Mom that FH and I need to stop going out, and that she has to stop talking me into going shopping, she did make a point, that we do need to still enjoy our life, or thats just going to add to the stress.

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Your exactly right Megan!! I think that is what my dad meant as well- you are going to be in debt with buying a house, paying bill, having children. But he said it is all good debt. But I dont want to be like my FBIL. They had to get a house and get married right before they bought their house. So they ahd to borrow 15,000$ from his wife's parents for the downpayment. But now they live paycheck by paycheck and dont even have the money to really go out to dinner. I am sorry IMO I dont want to live like that. FH especially likes to live the comfy life haha and so we understand after we get married we are going to live in the apt above his parents house (which is suprisingly really big) for about 2 yrs before we can afford a house and not have to cut back on our lifestyle cause we wanted a wedding and a house right away! But that is just our personalities. Plus when I get married a house is not that important to us since we will only be 23 yrs old. We can enjoy living in an apt for a year or 2 haha

ooo i rambled on there before--

i meant to respond to your comment Megan! I was the same way as you telling my mom I cant go out, not going out with friends cause I wanted to save more $ but my mom said oyu have to enjoy your life as well....

so after I graduate this month and FH comes home we are enjoying our time together and not stress so much about $$!!! One month (While FH is home) of spending a paycheck or 2 (between the both of us) on having fun we decided isnt going to kill us!!

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Posted by jjk1007

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Posted by cbcf

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Posted by jjk1007

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Posted by meggles808

i wasn't until last night. We are very lucky our parents are paying for most of our wedding. Its the thought of buying a house and being able to afford the electric cable and everything else. I was ok with money i paid all my credit cards off and i have two more car payments left. The FH has his masters that he is paying and his car payments and credit cards. I think everything will be ok but he got really upset last night about houses.

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Im very jealous (not in a bad way, I promise) of people who are having their weddings paid for...or even partially paid for. It has to be such a relief for you guys. I know that my family would give more if they could, but the money just isnt there.

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I am the same way. I mean I can not ***** cause my parents are buying my dress and day of makeup and hair- but FH and I are paying for everything ourselves and at 21 yrs old I am happy with what we have accomplished- I still have friends who spend all their paychecks going out drinking, on cigarettes and then have to call their parents cause htey dont have enough $ for their rent in NYC I feel very mature now knowing the amount of $ FH and I were able to set aside already!!

plus with 7 kids in my family there is NO way I ever expected my parents to pay for everything or even just the hall lol- I mean my dad does have a good job and they offered to put down $500 for our first deposit on the hall- but I now know they have to do that for each one of my brotehrs and sisters!! ANd lets face it with 3 kids in college at the same time I get married- I am hoping my dad doesnt have a heartattack!!!

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I know what you mean about feeling proud at how much you and FH have accomplished on your own. Its definitely a great feeling knowing that we are making this happen for ourselves. I mean, I still know quite a few people who are older than me that are still getting A LOT of support from their parents. I would never judge because thats great that theyre able to get that support from their families, but there is definitely something to be said for the couple that has to go it alone. Its a double edged sword....you get that sense of accomplishment, but you also get the stress that comes along with spending all this money.

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YES!! you are completely right! And we should feel proud of ourselves...not that we are putting down those who have a wedding paid by their parents because that is wonderful they are fortunate enough to be blessed....not that we arent blessed but I feel we work hard for what we have accomplised and I kind of want to pride on it!!! Especially since it is such a big thing!!

I completely agree!!!

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Posted by cherish83

Yup, us too Catie. Trust me I am jealous of all those who can afford to buy a house now. But i know we cant and even if we slightly could, i wouldnt want to right now because i dont want to live like that either. We plan to live in an apt (luckily FHs best friend's Dad owns a couple buildings and will give us a break) for about two years after we are married. That will give us the time to live away from our parents but still close enough to them, but after that we plan to buy something in Orange County. We have family up there and my uncle brought those real estate books, and they have such affordable houses.

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Thats great Megan!! I completely understand. FH and I dont want to live like that either. I think it is wonderful for those who buy houses and are so happy. I cant wait for that moment. But I know personally FH and I cannot afford it right after we get married and even if we slightly could like you said...we dont want to have to worry about expenses all the time. But thankfully the apt we are going to moveinto about FH's parents house has its own deck and enterance and it is soo big- it is 2 bedrooms living room seperate kitchen and a big bathroom. So we are lucky. But FH's parents are older anyway and will hardly ever bother us up there anyway!

Where is Orange County? That is great if you can get a house there!!

i stress everyday ... i sit and wonder how the hellll me and FH are going to come up with all this money ...