IS ANYONE GOING TO

Original post by Mizzdimple

Mar 27, 2007 09:42 AM

Stop working when they have children...

Espo22 Posted: Mar 27, 2007 10:55 AM

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Posted by melissaboyle313

familys watching kids is an awesome way to go!!! I hope i have that option if i need it!!!

yeah hopefully it works out fine...My mom will still be working so she cant...Fh's mom said shes gonna retire in a few years but we dont know exactly when...his dad works and my dad has his own business and its easy for him to actually do this, he adores kids and is so great with them...he also has alot of family members who live close to him

JM4EVA Posted: Mar 27, 2007 10:55 AM

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I really want to, but we will have to see if we can afford it.

meggles808 Posted: Mar 27, 2007 10:56 AM

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I would love too but so would my FH... He want;s to be mr. mom. If we can afford it and whoever isn't making the least that person will stay home..

ShanonandSteve Posted: Mar 27, 2007 10:57 AM

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if it is financially possible, than yes I would love to stay home and raise my children.

My mother did it, but as soon as my younger brother was in school, she realized my family could use the extra money and went back to work.

we were never in day care or anything.. my father worked midnights and my mother worked days for a while when we were kids.. so when my mom dropped us off, my dad picked us up.

it is something that we will have to determine when it comes time to have kids.

Melissa313 Posted: Mar 27, 2007 10:57 AM

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Sorry if my venting sounded mean, the center I worked at just got a new boss who was by the book and all about the money (my old boss tried to put the kids first even though corporate gave her a hard time) it actually drove me to quit because I couldn't handle not being able to put the kids first so right now and since last Friday I am unemployed. When my old boss was there it wasn't such a bad place

Espo22 Posted: Mar 27, 2007 11:01 AM

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Fh makes enough to cover the bills and by then it will be even better, but its like Tilde said its a different lifestyle and that extra income will make it even easier and a better lifestyle...Schools are expensive now, my parents friends are paying SOOO much just for their sons elementary school, tuition went up and just everything else in general...Mortgages, insurance, car payments, just the cost of living is alot...Can Fh handle it yes but it wont be the same with a whole other income coming in.

Snowflake08 Posted: Mar 27, 2007 11:06 AM

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too personal for me - sorry

blu6385 Posted: Mar 27, 2007 11:12 AM

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no ... even if we could afford to i wouldn't i love to work .. now if i can work from home which is possible then maybe i would ... but i make more money so i would def. need to still work ... FH would like stay home but again even if we could afford i wouldnt want him to ... i am a very strong believer that both parents should have a job so there always money coming in from both ends ... the reason i feel this way what happens if one of us loses are jobs if the other person is working then theres no money coming in ... when both work if one loses a job at least well have some money ... also i feel its to much pressure for one person to have to make sure they are bringing in all the money and providing for the family allt he pressure could leas to worse things ... JMO ...

KickinDandelions Posted: Mar 27, 2007 11:40 AM

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I think I'd go crazy if I stopped working completely...I'll probably start my own business and base it out of my house once we have kids...

AMGBride2008 Posted: Mar 27, 2007 11:43 AM

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That would be the ideal situation... I would love to stay home and raise our children. Who knows where we will be financially or career-wise when that time comes.

I don't necessarily agree about the daycare thing though. I worked in daycare for 4 years (it was a privately-owned daycare only open to employees of specific companies) and think it's a great option if you have it and can afford it (cuz daaaamn is it expensive). I think, especially in those crucial years when kids are developing mentally and socially it's a great environment to be in. In our infant rooms we were only allowed 4 to 1 as well (like mentioned earlier, it's the law), but unlike other rooms that have defininite schedules, the parents make up the schedules for the infants, so usually each babies schedule was different and their feeding and sleeping were staggered, also there was NEVER only 1 person in an infant room.

WOAH, did I just go off on a crazy tangent. Like I said though, daycare is a great option if you can afford it and know exactly what you're looking for. There are horror stories out there.

DnellD809 Posted: Mar 27, 2007 11:47 AM

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I definitely would love to stay home and be with the kids! HEY....I'd like to stay home and plan this wedding!!!! No more work!!!!

Mizzdimple Posted: Mar 27, 2007 11:48 AM

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Posted by DnellD809

I definitely would love to stay home and be with the kids! HEY....I'd like to stay home and plan this wedding!!!! No more work!!!!

I agree lol!

failurebydsign Posted: Mar 27, 2007 12:39 PM

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we talk about it all the time and one of us is gonig to have to stay home since we are NOT sending our children to daycare..no way..and the possibility of homeschooling as well if we can not afford private school

Snowflake08 Posted: Mar 27, 2007 12:57 PM

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this is why i said it's too personal to discuss

FutureMrsRice Posted: Mar 27, 2007 12:58 PM

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Not sure yet, but my mom lives about 3 miles from us and is more than willing to watch our future children so it is a great situation

Luvbsb4eva Posted: Mar 27, 2007 01:09 PM

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Not too sure yet... I know when the time comes I will want to to stay home! If I do work at all I know it will definately be part time. As long as we wait the couple of years after marriage so that we are ok financially then I can do it. I also need to find out what the minimum work I would have to do to maintain my pharmacy liscence would be! This is why I'd like to move back to Long Island though when we plan to start our family, my mom would definately help us out if I needed to work!