Living Together Before You're Married

I lived with DH for three years before we got married. His parents couldn't have cared less, but mine (Catholic) probably weren't thrilled. I never asked them, so they never said...to my face!

But it just never occurred to me that it was any of my parents' business, or that they got to have a say in how I live my life. I imagine it's easier for me to think that way since I was already 32 when we moved in together and I hadn't lived with or been supported by my parents for ten years. I totally respect and love them, but I'm living my life, not theirs.

The real issue, for Catholics anyway, is that you're not supposed to have sex before you get married. So if you're having sex (which I think most people are) but not living together because it's 'wrong', I just think that's hypocritical. You're still living in sin, just not so that everyone else can see. JMO.

We got engaged in February of 2003 and started living together in July of that year. I'm soooo glad we did. There was a huge adjustment since FH had never had a roommate. A lot of fighting and yelling would not have been how I would have wanted to spent my first few months of married life so it was really, really good for us.

But to each their own.

My folks never commented. FMIL, who has a comment about everything, has made comments but I'm learning to ignore her!

My parents would be very upset. - And it's not THAT important to me to make an issue of it. - I'm going to live w/ him for the rest of my life.....what's a an extra year or 2 before I'm married? - Besides, I like my space !!

I've been living with FH since June. For me, I wouldn't have it any other way. In my experience, you don't know the person until you live with them. But to each his/her own.

ETA: I'm 33, so what my parents would say or have said is a non-issue!!

I live with FH. We got engaged in July started to live together in September. -However this was because we bought a house. Neither of us could afford the house on our own, so it was the next step.

Both sets of parents were fine with it. We owned a house together, how could they say we couldnt live there. - however had we not been engaged - I would not live here. I felt that the engagement was the commitment I needed to know that living with him was OK - I think my Dad felt the same way

We lived together for 9 months before we got engaged and then another year and 8 months after we got engaged.

Our parents didn't say anything, but we were also in our late twenties and living on our own already.

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Posted by MonkeyLuv

This is a 2 part question...

How many of you live together before you are married?

How many of you had issues with your parents regarding it?

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1. We lived together before we were married.

2. Mom had no problems...we had money problems and she had to go move with her BF and I did the same. I was only 20 at the time
(but this is different circumstances...I believe if she could of helped it she WOULD of been upset at that age. My brother was very upset but he was on his own at the time and again money was bad then)