Major VENT I am SOO UPSET

Ok one of my so called best friends got married 2 years ago
I was in her wedding and helped her with EVERYTHING
i did her envelopes, had her shower at my apartment, planned the bachelorette party
got her e-ring at wholesale cost from my uncle and wedding bands and a lot of other stuff too

FH and i helped her move upstate when she and her husband bought their house

i sent her a text because i got a xmas card from her but no RSVP
she JUST sent me an email saying that she is NOT COMING to my wedding and her excuse is SO LAME

Her husband (who WAS my friend too) goes every January to a differen steak house in the US with his closest friends
so she emailed me that she didnt realize when he booked his annual trip that he wasnt getting back until Feb 3
MEANWHILE, i invited her mother and step father too so if she WANTED to be there and not drive alone, she COULD come with them!!!

what would you do or say to her if you were me??

FH is at work, i called him crying, he feels so bad but keeps telling me not to let it bother me

WHATTTTTTT!?

Not acceptable. At all.

She's a grown-up. She can attend things without her husband.

For me it would be a no-brainer.

I would call her and tell her that you really want her to be there, and that it means a lot, and that you don't care if her husband can make it. Ask her if she can come with her parents.

Maybe she's not TRYING to be lame... you know?
I'd be super pissed if I were you too btw.

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Posted by beachbum05

WHATTTTTTT!?

Not acceptable. At all.

She's a grown-up. She can attend things without her husband.

For me it would be a no-brainer.

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first i sent her a reply email saying:
WOW
that was a shocker!!
I genuinely thought you were kidding


then i sent another one saying' I guess your mom and Jeff are not coming either since you could come with them if Brandon is going to be away'

she is pregnant and due in April

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Posted by beachbum05

WHATTTTTTT!?

Not acceptable. At all.

She's a grown-up. She can attend things without her husband.

For me it would be a no-brainer.

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ditto. i'm having a similar issue with a co-worker i'm really close with, but your situation is way worse. after you did so much for her??

how quickly people forget....

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Posted by Bride 2 Be

wow thats absolutely ridiculous! i would definately say something to her..thats just plain rude that you did all that stuff for her..and she can't even show up for your wedding..im sorry laura

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thanks
i am beyond upset and angry
and now im deleting her pics from my LIW album LOL

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Posted by Snowflake08

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Posted by Bride 2 Be

wow thats absolutely ridiculous! i would definately say something to her..thats just plain rude that you did all that stuff for her..and she can't even show up for your wedding..im sorry laura

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thanks
i am beyond upset and angry
and now im deleting her pics from my LIW album LOL

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and i agree with bonnie! shes an adult and can go places without her husband..i don't understand what the problem is..

I'm one of those people that write people off when they screw me over like that....so I dont think you want advice from me.

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Posted by Jessie062108

IF she is your best friend, then i would just be straight up with her, tell her you want her there, and just like you wrote, if she doesn't want to go alone, she can go with her mom.

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thanks
i will not call her or beg for anyone to come to my wedding
if people WANT to be there, they will be
but i did email her back saying that she could come with her mother but i will assume her mother isnt coming

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Posted by jjk1007

I'm one of those people that write people off when they screw me over like that....so I dont think you want advice from me.

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well thats how i am too
i was going to email her back and say 'good riddance'

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Posted by Snowflake08

oh and i forgot to mention that i made all of her centerpieces!!!!!

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ok i emailed her again
i am furious!!!!

i wrote 'wow, i know we havent seen each other in a while but this was a total shock. i am beyond disappointed after all the things i helped you with for your day for you not to come'

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Posted by Songstress

Im not one to remind people what I do for them but this time I would. You did so much for her and this is how she treats you?? Maybe she forgot or she's just playing dumb. I would have to confront her on it would sit inside and drive me crazy.

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i know
im not like that either, but when the list is THAT long, i am FUMING!!!!

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Posted by Snowflake08

ok i emailed her again
i am furious!!!!

i wrote 'wow, i know we havent seen each other in a while but this was a total shock. i am beyond disappointed after all the things i helped you with for your day for you not to come'

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Good reply!! thats perfectly said! let us know what happens!

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Posted by Bride 2 Be

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Posted by Snowflake08

ok i emailed her again
i am furious!!!!

i wrote 'wow, i know we havent seen each other in a while but this was a total shock. i am beyond disappointed after all the things i helped you with for your day for you not to come'

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Good reply!! thats perfectly said! let us know what happens!

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thanks kristen
i feel like an idiot
i should not be crying over this