Monetary gifts preferred--UPDATE ON PAGE 2

Original post by Spitzergirl

Apr 13, 2004 02:09 PM

I have seen this on invitations all the way at the bottom in a tiny font, much more smaller then the wording invitation.

Is this poor taste to get cash , instead of family members or friends giving you 4 toasters at your wedding?

My girlfriend recieved so many gifts that were duplicate that she wished she had suggested monetary gifts. What do you ladies think?

sag530 Posted: Apr 13, 2004 03:04 PM

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VERY TACKY!!!!!

nicknmb Posted: Apr 13, 2004 03:09 PM

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I think it's a hope we all share, but you can't say it out loud or put it in writing!

Bebalina Posted: Apr 13, 2004 03:15 PM

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no that would be tacky....

but in some cultures its traditional to automatically give money... i know thats how the italians do it too...

thats how i plan on making money back

divabride Posted: Apr 13, 2004 03:16 PM

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I would refrain from putting that on the invitation. I would tactfully register for a few things and hopefully that should work out for you.

PS - guys, I love you all but lets refrain from coming down on someone so harshly. A simple, 'no or that's not a good idea' will do the trick. I read this post and I felt so bad for her. She's just asking for advice. Please lets all be kind to each other. Please?

Spitzergirl Posted: Apr 13, 2004 03:20 PM

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Posted by divabride

I would refrain from putting that on the invitation. I would tactfully register for a few things and hopefully that should work out for you.

PS - guys, I love you all but lets refrain from coming down on someone so harshly. A simple, 'no or that's not a good idea' will do the trick. I read this post and I felt so bad for her. She's just asking for advice. Please lets all be kind to each other. Please?

Divabride......

Sometimes, I get so scared to ask questions on this board..that I always double check myself before posting!!!

Corduroy94 Posted: Apr 13, 2004 03:21 PM

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I wouldn't personally do it but that's just me. Most people I know who PREFERED cash (but have never asked for it) registered at places other than home stores like Fortunoffs. One girl I know registered for her honeymoon & another girl who bought a house registered at Home Depot. They put the cash they would have spent in savings then. My parents went to a wedding where gifts at the shower were donations to a 'house savings fund' but it was through a bank or organization & not AS tacky as cash.

JZNCK Posted: Apr 13, 2004 03:21 PM

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aww..spitez your so sweet.. don't worry about.. if your like me, I've never been married,and I don't know what's good ettiquette etc.. that's why we have this board.. we'll be pros by the end though.. hee hee.. good luck

Spitzergirl Posted: Apr 13, 2004 03:33 PM

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Posted by JZNCK

aww..spitez your so sweet.. don't worry about.. if your like me, I've never been married,and I don't know what's good ettiquette etc.. that's why we have this board.. we'll be pros by the end though.. hee hee.. good luck

Thanks JZNCK--

I have a for the bride magazine...and I am pulling out all the old bridal magainzes and studying all the help articles in there.

karen32 Posted: Apr 13, 2004 03:41 PM

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you should not ask for monetary gifts. if you are getting married in NY, 99% of people give cash anyway.

JP&EP Posted: Apr 13, 2004 03:42 PM

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No way!!!!!

samsbride Posted: Apr 13, 2004 03:54 PM

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Please do not put this. If someone wrote that - I would not only boycott the shower and the wedding - I would probably rethink my relationship with them. TACKY!!!
You have to know this already though.

Karacg Posted: Apr 13, 2004 04:21 PM

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I moved to Spain after my first wedding and WISHED I could ask for $$ -- but I couldn't, but I thought it would be obvious ...but noooo, I got a waffle maker (Europe has different voltage AND plugs) from someone's son -- who not only wasn't even invited but even brought a 'guest' with him! Along with lots of other useless and non-packable stuff. So I took back everything I reigstered for, and got the $$ from the store...

But I am sorry to say, we cannot ask for cash.

june262004 Posted: Apr 13, 2004 04:30 PM

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Posted by suven

NO, I am NOT doing that. Personally, I would be offended if I saw that on an invitation that I received. I ALWAYS give cash for weddings, but if I saw that, I would either send a gift or give less cash than I normally would.

AGREED!!!!!

At NY weddings noone gives 'gifts'anyway.

wacky Posted: Apr 13, 2004 04:33 PM

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Its never ok to ask for $$$$$$ anytime. You get what you get

june262004 Posted: Apr 13, 2004 04:51 PM

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Posted by wacky

Its never ok to ask for $$$$$$ anytime. You get what you get

Hey Wacky...

RedHead Posted: Apr 13, 2004 04:55 PM

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I would not put that on an invitation...

dita531 Posted: Apr 13, 2004 04:56 PM

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ChristineC68 Posted: Apr 13, 2004 05:16 PM

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Aside from the fact that it's not polite to ask people for money or a particular gift, around here I would be shocked if you got more then one or two actual gifts.

heidla Posted: Apr 13, 2004 05:24 PM

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I, like everyone else, would not do it. I have heard that some people get the word out through their close family/BP or just register for a few items or at stores that give cash refunds.