More drama!!

So I'm having bridesmaid drama. One of my bridesmaids keeps telling FH that my wedding is costing her too much money. She was like 'when I got married your dress was only 89 dollars and my dress is 300 dollars that's not right.' Hello I got what I liked not what you liked. Shes being a
B I T C H . Then she has the nerve to tell my sisters that my bridal shower is too much money and she doesn't know if she can be in my wedding. So when the bill came my sisters paid for some of her share. So later she tells FH that they (my sisters) didn't call her to help with my shower and they only talked to her when the bill came. Mean while she went up to them and asked how much she owed. My sisters called her lots of times and she didn't get back until three days later. My MOH (sister) go to work, school and student teaches. So the times just didn't work out. I don't know why she is being such a baby. What should I do? Her dress is almost paid for and the only thing left for her to pay for is the bachorette party . I can't wait to hear her mouth from FH about that. I can't even talk to her because she always turns thing around on me. I'm done . I need a drink.

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Posted by grkbarbie

may i as why shes talking to your fiance and not you? shes just being a b______. If shes REALLY struggling with $ im sure she wouldnt be acitng this way.

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Oh yeah, I wanted to ask that too!

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Posted by grkbarbie

may i as why shes talking to your fiance and not you? shes just being a b______. If shes REALLY struggling with $ im sure she wouldnt be acitng this way.

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Oh and i forgot to say that her husband just got a new bike (motorcycle). She talks to him because her husband is best friends with FH and he is always over their house.

ugh how annoying id tell her if its too much then drop put....when you accept to be in a wedding party you need to know that $$ comes along with that!!! how long ago did she get married? thats a factor too.....my MOH wedding was double what her sisters was 10 years ago her dad was shocked lol

so sorry you are dealing with this!

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Posted by gettinghizitched

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Posted by grkbarbie

may i as why shes talking to your fiance and not you? shes just being a b______. If shes REALLY struggling with $ im sure she wouldnt be acitng this way.

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Oh and i forgot to say that her husband just got a new bike (motorcycle). She talks to him because her husband is best friends with FH and he is always over their house.

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UGHHHHHHHHHH

what nerve!!!!!!!!!!

call her tomorrow, speak to her nicely.. dont be confrontational..and if shes a total bish... politley say.. if you save 4.34 cents a day btwn now and my wedding, the dress will be paid off.

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Posted by angl2001

ugh how annoying id tell her if its too much then drop put....when you accept to be in a wedding party you need to know that $$ comes along with that!!! how long ago did she get married? thats a factor too.....my MOH wedding was double what her sisters was 10 years ago her dad was shocked lol

so sorry you are dealing with this!

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She got married like three years ago. But she had a ghetto wedding. The men wore sneakers, everyone did their own hair and our dresses weren't fitted.

Sounds to me like this girl loves to b ________! I would confront her about it and let her know that if she really has the much issue with the cost of things that you understand and but that since it is too much for her you would rather as this point she not be a bridesmaid. Then just cover the cost of her dress. You have way more things to worry about then her constantly complaining. I just don't get some girls. Agreeing to be someone's BM means accepting the fact that you are going to have to pay for things like BM dresses, and bridal showers.

ETA: sorry you have to go through this! Good luck with however you decide to handle it!

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Posted by gettinghizitched

I really don't want to boot her out with 2 months away. I don't have any friends that will fit her dress. I don't want an uneven bridal party. If i boot her then FH will have to boot her husband and he won't have that!

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I could understand that. Maybe have a heart to heart with her about how it is upsetting to you to hear that she doesn't seem to be having any fun being part of your bridal party and just complaining about everything. Maybe if you speak to her directly about it things will get better. Good luck!

I feel your pain. My SIL told my brother she hated my choice of BM dress - she said she did not like satin since it would make her look fat. She hasn't given me the $ nor her size so I can order the dress. Meanwhile, the numerous e-mails I sent to my BMs were never once answered by her...

Anyway, what I've learned is that when my SIL talks to my brother, she probably doesn't think what she is saying is getting back to me. So, it may very well be that when your FSIL talks to your FH, she thinks it is in confidence. So I've learned to give my SIL some slack. My brother can have a big mouth and probably shouldn't be telling me everything.

As for the money issue, I tried to be very mindful to pick inexpensive dresses, to let make-up and hair be optional, and to not have the BMs pay for the shower. Keep in mind that it is your wedding, not theirs, and with all the extras the costs DO add up. Think about it: with hair, make-up, dress, shower, bachelorette party, and a present the day of, we are talking about hundreds - if not close to a thousand dollars!

Hopefully you don't hate me as you read this....

lol wait.. her husband is in the bridal party...... does he complain bout his share?

is he complaining to her and is she doin all the dirty work??

what does FH say when she complains about $?and what does HER husband say when she complains to his best friend about alll these expenses that she 'cant afford?'

id totally be embarassed if i was her.

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Posted by Smiley22

I feel your pain. My SIL told my brother she hated my choice of BM dress - she said she did not like satin since it would make her look fat. She hasn't given me the $ nor her size so I can order the dress. Meanwhile, the numerous e-mails I sent to my BMs were never once answered by her...

Anyway, what I've learned is that when my SIL talks to my brother, she probably doesn't think what she is saying is getting back to me. So, it may very well be that when your FSIL talks to your FH, she thinks it is in confidence. So I've learned to give my SIL some slack. My brother can have a big mouth and probably shouldn't be telling me everything.

As for the money issue, I tried to be very mindful to pick inexpensive dresses, to let make-up and hair be optional, and to not have the BMs pay for the shower. Keep in mind that it is your wedding, not theirs, and with all the extras the costs DO add up. Think about it: with hair, make-up, dress, shower, bachelorette party, and a present the day of, we are talking about hundreds - if not close to a thousand dollars!

Hopefully you don't hate me as you read this....

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No i don't hate you but i did make hair and make up optional. And i have other BM drama but she is the worse. My FHs sister isn't even paying for her part his dad is (mind you she is 22). And my brothers wife is in my party too and i only see her maybe 2 times a year. I sure do know how to pick um. LoL

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Posted by grkbarbie

lol wait.. her husband is in the bridal party...... does he complain bout his share?

is he complaining to her and is she doin all the dirty work??

what does FH say when she complains about $?and what does HER husband say when she complains to his best friend about alll these expenses that she 'cant afford?'

id totally be embarassed if i was her.

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No her husband doesn't say anything unless she tells him too.

what is fh's response when she complains? shes probably jealous you're having a beautiful wedding and she had a ghetto wedding. lol SNEAKERS????? if men wore sneakers, then you totally overpaid for a bm dress

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Posted by grkbarbie

what is fh's response when she complains? shes probably jealous you're having a beautiful wedding and she had a ghetto wedding. lol SNEAKERS????? if men wore sneakers, then you totally overpaid for a bm dress

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totally ghetto. She didn't have a shower or bachorette party. She's just a jealous W h o r e.

thats why i dont want a birdal party.. i hate girls lol id rather do everything myself and not deal with drama.. she sounds like a miserable c---------

im going to buy 'bridesmaids for dummies' book and send that out with 'will u be my bridesmaid?' cards.. they can respectfully decline..



post some pix from her wedding..im dyin to see what it looked like lolll

I wish i had some pics but i don't. I guess her wedding wasn't much to look at.