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Im not having kids ay my wedding either and I dare anybody to say something about it. Its very simple,. its YOUR wedding and its what YOU want. I dont know why people think they can dictate how you should do things. I have 23 first cousins and he has 30, there is no way we were having kids.
Posted by Espo22
OH yeah we had alot of problems bc of this too...like you there would've been just too many kids. We were looking at a possibility of 40 kids or more, and that just turns into a zoo sorry. Not only that but our reception was also from 8:30-1:30am so i dont even see why you would bring your kids and keep them up that late...most kids get tired early so what are you going to do, force them to stay up and drag the poor kids, its not right.
But yes it caused problem, some people were upset and had things to say. Another thing they dont realize is they say whats the big deal but our kids meals werent free, it was actually ALOT for chicken fingers and fries, and i even calculated how much it would cost to have kids and it was a couple thousand extra. but the main point is Dh didnt want kids there, he explained why and i agreed with him, although i know it was me who probably took all the blame and looks like i dont like kids. His family didnt understand bc they said kids are always invited to family functions...well thats why dh didnt want kids lol, he has been to the family functions and has seen first hand what its like. 30-40 kids running around, parents dont watch them, infact his dad always ends up being the one watching them and this is something he was very concerned about...he didnt want his dad to take care of kids at the wedding and occupy himself with that, he wanted him to just enjoy himself and focus on his sons wedding. Its funny bc some who complained the most are ones with the most misbehaved kids.
It also didnt help that we went to other events in the beginning of our engagement, non family ones and there were kids and they were all over the place...during speeches they were crying and screaming the whole time right by where the person was giving a speech. None of us heard a word of what was said. After these events Dh did win his case about no kids at the wedding.
Stick to your guns and dont back down. Like you said its your wedding, so do what pleases you. It can be hard and hurtful at times. Also good that youre not making exceptions...we did only have our RB and FG and i was concerned even with that to tell you the truth...i was like oh great were having 2 kids at the wedding and ppl will get upset that we have them there but not their kids...but since it was JUST bp i said ok hopefully they understand...BUT let me say those kids did not stay long, this is why i dont understand why ppl want to bring kids. They were there just in the beginning, the RB fell asleep early on and they took him home, same with FG she also was real tired from early on and they had to leave early to take her home. If you say no kids then keep it no kids, bc if others see other kids there they will get mad saying uhmmm ok so their kids are ok but mine arent and will take it personally
weddings arent really appropriate for kids, especially if its in the evening
Posted by JessesGirl
Posted by Espo22
OH yeah we had alot of problems bc of this too...like you there would've been just too many kids. We were looking at a possibility of 40 kids or more, and that just turns into a zoo sorry. Not only that but our reception was also from 8:30-1:30am so i dont even see why you would bring your kids and keep them up that late...most kids get tired early so what are you going to do, force them to stay up and drag the poor kids, its not right.
But yes it caused problem, some people were upset and had things to say. Another thing they dont realize is they say whats the big deal but our kids meals werent free, it was actually ALOT for chicken fingers and fries, and i even calculated how much it would cost to have kids and it was a couple thousand extra. but the main point is Dh didnt want kids there, he explained why and i agreed with him, although i know it was me who probably took all the blame and looks like i dont like kids. His family didnt understand bc they said kids are always invited to family functions...well thats why dh didnt want kids lol, he has been to the family functions and has seen first hand what its like. 30-40 kids running around, parents dont watch them, infact his dad always ends up being the one watching them and this is something he was very concerned about...he didnt want his dad to take care of kids at the wedding and occupy himself with that, he wanted him to just enjoy himself and focus on his sons wedding. Its funny bc some who complained the most are ones with the most misbehaved kids.
It also didnt help that we went to other events in the beginning of our engagement, non family ones and there were kids and they were all over the place...during speeches they were crying and screaming the whole time right by where the person was giving a speech. None of us heard a word of what was said. After these events Dh did win his case about no kids at the wedding.
Stick to your guns and dont back down. Like you said its your wedding, so do what pleases you. It can be hard and hurtful at times. Also good that youre not making exceptions...we did only have our RB and FG and i was concerned even with that to tell you the truth...i was like oh great were having 2 kids at the wedding and ppl will get upset that we have them there but not their kids...but since it was JUST bp i said ok hopefully they understand...BUT let me say those kids did not stay long, this is why i dont understand why ppl want to bring kids. They were there just in the beginning, the RB fell asleep early on and they took him home, same with FG she also was real tired from early on and they had to leave early to take her home. If you say no kids then keep it no kids, bc if others see other kids there they will get mad saying uhmmm ok so their kids are ok but mine arent and will take it personally
weddings arent really appropriate for kids, especially if its in the evening
You are so right about the ones with the worst behaved kids complaining. Her son is ATROCIOUS!!!! He dumps food all over himself at family events and acts like a monster in general. Thanks for the support!
Posted by Mimacat
KIDS RUIN EVERYTHING.
I didnt want and kids there except for our son. But FH's sister just assumed that that rule didnt apply to her so her 5 yr old will be there and now my stepmom is coming from Florida so my 4 yr old brother will be there.
Posted by Espo22
Posted by JessesGirl
Posted by Espo22
OH yeah we had alot of problems bc of this too...like you there would've been just too many kids. We were looking at a possibility of 40 kids or more, and that just turns into a zoo sorry. Not only that but our reception was also from 8:30-1:30am so i dont even see why you would bring your kids and keep them up that late...most kids get tired early so what are you going to do, force them to stay up and drag the poor kids, its not right.
But yes it caused problem, some people were upset and had things to say. Another thing they dont realize is they say whats the big deal but our kids meals werent free, it was actually ALOT for chicken fingers and fries, and i even calculated how much it would cost to have kids and it was a couple thousand extra. but the main point is Dh didnt want kids there, he explained why and i agreed with him, although i know it was me who probably took all the blame and looks like i dont like kids. His family didnt understand bc they said kids are always invited to family functions...well thats why dh didnt want kids lol, he has been to the family functions and has seen first hand what its like. 30-40 kids running around, parents dont watch them, infact his dad always ends up being the one watching them and this is something he was very concerned about...he didnt want his dad to take care of kids at the wedding and occupy himself with that, he wanted him to just enjoy himself and focus on his sons wedding. Its funny bc some who complained the most are ones with the most misbehaved kids.
It also didnt help that we went to other events in the beginning of our engagement, non family ones and there were kids and they were all over the place...during speeches they were crying and screaming the whole time right by where the person was giving a speech. None of us heard a word of what was said. After these events Dh did win his case about no kids at the wedding.
Stick to your guns and dont back down. Like you said its your wedding, so do what pleases you. It can be hard and hurtful at times. Also good that youre not making exceptions...we did only have our RB and FG and i was concerned even with that to tell you the truth...i was like oh great were having 2 kids at the wedding and ppl will get upset that we have them there but not their kids...but since it was JUST bp i said ok hopefully they understand...BUT let me say those kids did not stay long, this is why i dont understand why ppl want to bring kids. They were there just in the beginning, the RB fell asleep early on and they took him home, same with FG she also was real tired from early on and they had to leave early to take her home. If you say no kids then keep it no kids, bc if others see other kids there they will get mad saying uhmmm ok so their kids are ok but mine arent and will take it personally
weddings arent really appropriate for kids, especially if its in the evening
You are so right about the ones with the worst behaved kids complaining. Her son is ATROCIOUS!!!! He dumps food all over himself at family events and acts like a monster in general. Thanks for the support!
its so funny but its the way it goes. You have some kids who go nuts are all over the place and the parents never watch them...and these are the parents who will complain about it. Its pretty funny when you think about it.
Posted by JessesGirl
[You are so right about the ones with the worst behaved kids complaining. Her son is ATROCIOUS!!!! He dumps food all over himself at family events and acts like a monster in general. Thanks for the support!
I am not inviting children, hell no. Even so I think 5-6 will end up coming.
NO KIDS. Unless they are from OOT (for example: FBIL's 3 kids, they are staying a week and traveling over 2000 miles)
I simply put ADULT RECEPTION on the reception card. They got the message and there was no issue or compliant. Who wants to chase little kids around all night anyway?
Posted by sliwa2
Posted by MrsHtobe
Its your decision not to have kids at the wedding.
Hopefully she comes around and lets you explain. I'm sorry you are going through this!![]()
ETA: Did she just find this out by word of mouth? Did your Mom come out and mention it to her?
Yeah we are planning to have no kids. i just got an rsvp for 3 people....2 adults and their child =X Now what do I do?
