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Not asking this question to be inapropriate but....

eroxgirl Posted: Jan 03, 2003 02:43 PM+

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Posted: Jan 03, 2003 02:43 PM

Re: Not asking this question to be inapropriate but....

If FH has to 'abstain' for a week he's the crankiest, moodiest sob on earth - so no, we won't be abstaining... but I think its a nice idea.

Marcela1654 Posted: Jan 03, 2003 02:43 PM+

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Posted: Jan 03, 2003 02:43 PM

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LMAO Beth!!!

sept20yay! Posted: Jan 03, 2003 02:44 PM+

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Posted: Jan 03, 2003 02:44 PM

Re: Not asking this question to be inapropriate but....

they did this study I was reading about.... it says most couples don't even end up with a special wedding night - they are too tired, tipsy, etc...

michele31 Posted: Jan 03, 2003 02:44 PM+

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Posted: Jan 03, 2003 02:44 PM

Re: Not asking this question to be inapropriate but....

This is a decision that really only you and your FH can make. I do think that if you wish to abstain for anyreason your FH should respect that decision and honor your wishes.

dkga1026 Posted: Jan 03, 2003 02:47 PM+

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Posted: Jan 03, 2003 02:47 PM

Re: Not asking this question to be inapropriate but....

once you've done it, there's no going back to abstaining....the wedding night will be special because you got married not because of the s&x, unless you are both virgins...not to mention that you will probably kill each other by the wedding day with all the last-minute wedding planning and no s^x to release the tension

Sassy Posted: Jan 03, 2003 02:47 PM+

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Posted: Jan 03, 2003 02:47 PM

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My wedding will be over by 5:30 pm, so they'll be plenty of time

karen32 Posted: Jan 03, 2003 02:57 PM+

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Posted: Jan 03, 2003 02:57 PM

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FI has a big enough problem abstaining once a month for my Aunt Flo. He would DIE if I made him abstain anymore than that

I would like to abstain one month before the wedding, but Betty is right - it'll be super-quick

dgtlsunshine Posted: Jan 03, 2003 03:08 PM+

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Posted: Jan 03, 2003 03:08 PM

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Liz let me tell you our wedding ended at 6pm and on our wedding night all we did was snooze.

LisaT Posted: Jan 03, 2003 03:12 PM+

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Posted: Jan 03, 2003 03:12 PM

Re: Not asking this question to be inapropriate but....

We held off for about 3-4 weeks leading up to the wedding. It wasn't easy, but the anticipation for our wedding night was exciting. I don't think it made anything 'more' special, but it was nice to abstain for a bit.

shamma Posted: Jan 03, 2003 03:18 PM+

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Posted: Jan 03, 2003 03:18 PM

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We tried to abstain, then we fell off then we got back on the wagon, then we fell off, then we abstained for a few weeks before the wedding. Our wedding ended at 6, but the excitement made us not sleep. IMO I don't think abstaining makes it any more special it just builds great anticipation and excitement.

Sassy Posted: Jan 03, 2003 03:21 PM+

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Posted: Jan 03, 2003 03:21 PM

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Shamma, who was the one who broke the abstinance first, you or Roger

(btw, I dont mean you to REALLY answer that, LOL)

bethsiar Posted: Jan 03, 2003 03:22 PM+

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Posted: Jan 03, 2003 03:22 PM

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This thread is making my LOL!!!! I definitly agree it will make it more special and faster!

I hope we can hold out at least a month, we tried 2 weeks and that wasn't easy!

shamma Posted: Jan 03, 2003 03:23 PM+

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Posted: Jan 03, 2003 03:23 PM

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Liz...you are too much

Guess who?

Sassy Posted: Jan 03, 2003 03:24 PM+

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Posted: Jan 03, 2003 03:24 PM

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Shamma, I already know, how soon we forget

Mary05 Posted: Jan 03, 2003 03:42 PM+

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Posted: Jan 03, 2003 03:42 PM

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I don't know why I'm aswering this one. Call me what ever you want (I'm sure many will) but we are both virgins and will experience the first time on our wedding night!

OctBride03 Posted: Jan 03, 2003 03:42 PM+

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Posted: Jan 03, 2003 03:42 PM

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Mary I think that is sooo sweet! And you should feel proud to announce that!

Ronnie&Theresa Posted: Jan 03, 2003 03:44 PM+

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Posted: Jan 03, 2003 03:44 PM

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Omg that is wonderful and how special.......

See how GOOD I have been with this post..

>pat > pat on my shoulder!!!!!

babybride Posted: Jan 03, 2003 03:44 PM+

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Posted: Jan 03, 2003 03:44 PM

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Mary-

I think that is so sweet and will make the night so, so special!!!

nrvbrd Posted: Jan 03, 2003 03:48 PM+

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Posted: Jan 03, 2003 03:48 PM

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Mary, I say this in all honesty-

I have the greatest respect and admiration for you.

I totally applaud your decision.

hotelcalie Posted: Jan 03, 2003 03:51 PM+

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Posted: Jan 03, 2003 03:51 PM

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We are 2 months prior to the wedding. It was our Deacon's suggestion and we kinda liked it so we are doing it. I know 2 people who have done this and said it made the night better for them. So no Boom-boom as of Feb 5th...not even valentine's day or our 5 year anniversay (March 6th).