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nrvbrd Posted: Jan 03, 2003 02:31 PM+

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Posted: Jan 03, 2003 02:31 PM

Not asking this question to be inapropriate but....

Are we expected to abstain from relations with our FH's prior to the wedding I have heard anywhere from weeks to months from various people who have actually followed through.

Do you think it would make the wedding night all the more special?

Ronnie&Theresa Posted: Jan 03, 2003 02:32 PM+

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Posted: Jan 03, 2003 02:32 PM

Re: Not asking this question to be inapropriate but....

Since I always get yelled at for being out spoken I will refrain from responding....

Hi K!!!!!

jennbaby Posted: Jan 03, 2003 02:34 PM+

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Posted: Jan 03, 2003 02:34 PM

Re: Not asking this question to be inapropriate but....

I'll respond, we are refraining a month before

just to make the wedding night more special

karen32 Posted: Jan 03, 2003 02:35 PM+

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Posted: Jan 03, 2003 02:35 PM

Re: Not asking this question to be inapropriate but....

I don't think 'expected' is the right word. It's a 100% personal decision. Some people believe once Pre-Cana takes place, it is proper to abstain. This is one of those super-personal decisions.

Sassy Posted: Jan 03, 2003 02:35 PM+

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Posted: Jan 03, 2003 02:35 PM

Re: Not asking this question to be inapropriate but....

THeresa LMAO

nrvbrd, I think that there's no rule on abstaining once you're already sexually involved. It's a personal decision i guess if you want to make the wedding night 'special'
But it all goes back to the fact that in tradition, the Bride is suppossed to be a virgin, but once you're not, then the 'rule' doesnt apply, and you might want to abstain for a while for your own personal reasons

sept20yay! Posted: Jan 03, 2003 02:36 PM+

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Posted: Jan 03, 2003 02:36 PM

Re: Not asking this question to be inapropriate but....

I think it is totally up to you... For obvious reasons, it does make the wedding more 'special'- we are probably going to for a little....

OctBride03 Posted: Jan 03, 2003 02:36 PM+

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Posted: Jan 03, 2003 02:36 PM

Re: Not asking this question to be inapropriate but....

LOL Theresa!!!

To answer the question. Yes I will be abstaining from any relations with FH. I mean I still have 10 months can't start refraining yet! haha! I would say about 1 month before, maybe??

Sassy Posted: Jan 03, 2003 02:36 PM+

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Posted: Jan 03, 2003 02:36 PM

Re: Not asking this question to be inapropriate but....

btw, I DO want to abstain, I wanted to from March till the wedding, Len still has NOT agreed to this

nrvbrd Posted: Jan 03, 2003 02:37 PM+

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Posted: Jan 03, 2003 02:37 PM

Re: Not asking this question to be inapropriate but....

We may do it for a LITTLE while

Betty Posted: Jan 03, 2003 02:38 PM+

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Posted: Jan 03, 2003 02:38 PM

Re: Not asking this question to be inapropriate but....

LOL Lizlen! I'm sure Ken will not either.

One thing I CAN tell you is that is might not make it better, but it WILL make it faster

Misty Posted: Jan 03, 2003 02:38 PM+

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Posted: Jan 03, 2003 02:38 PM

Re: Not asking this question to be inapropriate but....

We started abstaining one month after our engagement, when we booked our date. Then we abstained again 3 months later, and then we abstained again 4 months after that. Now we are going to abstain at the end of this month.

Good luck doing it if you try ladies!

bride04 Posted: Jan 03, 2003 02:38 PM+

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Posted: Jan 03, 2003 02:38 PM