Official thread for those who have LOST PARENT(s)....

so I dont think we have an official thread for those girls who have lost moms or dads, even both (and I know there are a few )

i thought it would be nice to have our own thread where we can share ideas ... whether it be about memorials for the day of, mother/father dance alternatives etc... I know that you ladies have supported me in the past with my father passing and I hope I can help you girls...


with that being said, any idea for candle memorials? are you making them? ordering them from anywhere in particular? I dont even know where to being - I'd like to include my dad is anyway possible without making it a sad occasion

also, all 09/10 brides are welcome aswell and we would love to hear from 06/07 gals who have lost parents - since you have been through it

I am in the early planning stages as of now, but I lost my dad in 2001. I am having my uncle walk me down the aisle, my mom doesn't want to be put in the spotlight and my brother is going to be in the wedding party.

I have thought about doing some kind of candle rememberance thing, but as of now, still not sure of what to do.

my fmil passed away in june. FH and I have been together 9 yrs and he is an only child so i was very close with his mom.. we are doing a lot to encorporate her..

1- candle at the actual ceremony lit in her memory.. butterfly candle-her favorite

2- her rosary beeds around my bouquet or her pearls.. have not decidced yet

3- a piece of her jewelry

4- during our photo montage a pic of us with her and a song to go with it.

5- my bridesmaides are wearing the color dress she has ordered to wear (sage)

6- yellow roses in the flowers for her.. they were her favorite

7- candle from ceremony into reception on the table where she would have been

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Posted by SB7308

FH mom passed away 4 yrs ago before I met her. I made lapel pin with a picture of her that he will wear. We are also having a memory candle with her and other family members names on it.

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where did you get the pin made ? TIA

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Posted by SB7308

FH mom passed away 4 yrs ago before I met her. I made lapel pin with a picture of her that he will wear. We are also having a memory candle with her and other family members names on it.

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where did you get the pin made ? TIA

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Ebay!!!! The seller was wonderful to work with. Really helped out b/c the pic I emailed her was very dark and she lightened it.

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Posted by SB7308

FH mom passed away 4 yrs ago before I met her. I made lapel pin with a picture of her that he will wear. We are also having a memory candle with her and other family members names on it.

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where did you get the pin made ? TIA

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Ebay!!!! The seller was wonderful to work with. Really helped out b/c the pic I emailed her was very dark and she lightened it.

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beautiful thank you soooo much do you remember the sellers name ?

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Posted by debismom

I lost my Dad before I was to be married, so my Brother walked me down the aisle. Debi plans to have a rose for each deceased loved one at this time.To those of you who have lost parents, my sympathy and love to you, and to those who have lost your Dad, I know how it feels. Love to all of you!!!!!!! Mary MOB

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at this point ...

* my mom is walking me down the aisle, though no one can replace my dad, i cant imagine having anyone other than her since my dad cant be there

* we will have a memorial candle for him with framed photos, also a candle for each grandparent who has passed (I also lost both of my grandpas and 1 gma recently) luckily, FH still have all 4 of his grandparents living )

* instead of father/daughter dance, i am putting together a photo montage to music with the help of my DJ - ill have about 30 pics to music displayed on plasmas during the time we would dance


on a side note - i feel like i want to stop at the cemetery after the ceremony, before the reception, just FH and I.... has anyone else thought about this? FH says we wont have time (and hes prob right) but I go to the cemetery almost every week and I feel like i want to go on our wedding day...

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Posted by SB7308

FH mom passed away 4 yrs ago before I met her. I made lapel pin with a picture of her that he will wear. We are also having a memory candle with her and other family members names on it.

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where did you get the pin made ? TIA

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Ebay!!!! The seller was wonderful to work with. Really helped out b/c the pic I emailed her was very dark and she lightened it.

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beautiful thank you soooo much do you remember the sellers name ?

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Sellers name is mtfavorites

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Posted by SB7308

FH mom passed away 4 yrs ago before I met her. I made lapel pin with a picture of her that he will wear. We are also having a memory candle with her and other family members names on it.

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where did you get the pin made ? TIA

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Ebay!!!! The seller was wonderful to work with. Really helped out b/c the pic I emailed her was very dark and she lightened it.

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beautiful thank you soooo much do you remember the sellers name ?

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Sellers name is mtfavorites

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thank you soooo much your the best !

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Posted by teenigrrl

our wedding will be 10 days after the 14th anniversary of my mom dying, and 6 days before her bday. i think the hardest part with the planning was not having my mother there to come with me to look for dresses, get excited for any bit of planning we do. we're def doing a memorial candle, not sure what else though.

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great thread..
I need help actually

I'm not sure what I am going to do.. I lost my father 2 years ago and my moms been out of my life since i was 2 or 3.. I've only maybe been with her like 3years out of my whole life and shes remarried in Korea... I wanted to do a little memorial thing for my father but my sister and brother doesnt think it will be fair to our 'Step father'............. my mother said shes coming down for my wedding and that my step father will walk me down..... everyone thinks it the right thing for him to walk me down but i feel like its not fair to my father that passed....I've meet my step father before and he is super nice but its just not the same....... you know what I'm saying? I rather have my brother walk me down but people think its not right since hes younger than me and I do have a step father....

is anyone in my situation or close to it??
if there is anyone pleaseee HELP MEEE..

I feel like im going to let someone down either way i go

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Posted by SB7308

FH mom passed away 4 yrs ago before I met her. I made lapel pin with a picture of her that he will wear. We are also having a memory candle with her and other family members names on it.

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where did you get the pin made ? TIA

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Ebay!!!! The seller was wonderful to work with. Really helped out b/c the pic I emailed her was very dark and she lightened it.

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beautiful thank you soooo much do you remember the sellers name ?

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Sellers name is mtfavorites

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thank you soooo much your the best !

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HTH. Good luck

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Posted by hannahshim

great thread..
I need help actually

I'm not sure what I am going to do.. I lost my father 2 years ago and my moms been out of my life since i was 2 or 3.. I've only maybe been with her like 3years out of my whole life and shes remarried in Korea... I wanted to do a little memorial thing for my father but my sister and brother doesnt think it will be fair to our 'Step father'............. my mother said shes coming down for my wedding and that my step father will walk me down..... everyone thinks it the right thing for him to walk me down but i feel like its not fair to my father that passed.... I rather have my brother walk me down but people think its not right since hes younger than me and I do have a step father....

is anyone in my situation or close to it??
if there is anyone pleaseee HELP ME..

I feel like im going to let someone down either way i go

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Who you want to walk you down the aisle should be YOUR decision. If you are close with your step father than maybe do that. IMO I would have a sibling do it. It doesnt matter that he's younger than you, he's blood!

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Posted by hannahshim

great thread..
I need help actually

I'm not sure what I am going to do.. I lost my father 2 years ago and my moms been out of my life since i was 2 or 3.. I've only maybe been with her like 3years out of my whole life and shes remarried in Korea... I wanted to do a little memorial thing for my father but my sister and brother doesnt think it will be fair to our 'Step father'............. my mother said shes coming down for my wedding and that my step father will walk me down..... everyone thinks it the right thing for him to walk me down but i feel like its not fair to my father that passed.... I rather have my brother walk me down but people think its not right since hes younger than me and I do have a step father....

is anyone in my situation or close to it??
if there is anyone pleaseee HELP ME..

I feel like im going to let someone down either way i go

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i think that you need to remember 1 thing - this is your wedding and ultimately this is your decision. you need to do what you feel in your heart. i think that if i were in your position, I would have my brother walk me down. are you close with your step-father? just my opinion, but remember, this is your day and you need to do what makes your comfortable regardless of what others may say or think. you have lost already and they need to recognize how hard it will already be