Q of the D (yes, its late in the day!)

Original post by Toucan311

Mar 25, 2008 02:36 PM

Do you think that if you'd waited longer to ask ppl to participate in your bridal party that you would have asked different people? More people? Less? Are there people you regret asking/not asking? Have you met NEW ppl since then?

bluegreen08 Posted: Mar 25, 2008 02:56 PM

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ive wavered about promoting one of my BMs to co-MOH but am pretty sure I will just leave things as-is.

This BM has gone above and beyond and helped me with so many things (come with me to vendors, come with me dress shopping, helped me during my invitation meltdown, helped me pick out favors, shows so much interest, is truly excited, and is one of my best friends).

However, right now we have one MOH (my sis) and 2 best men (his 2 brothers) and bridesmaids and groomsmen are friends. I'm afraid it might stir up drama to promote a friend to MOH, even if she really deserves it.

SparkyandAng Posted: Mar 25, 2008 02:57 PM

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I waited a while before asking. There are a few I'd like to be in that aren't but I didn't want it to be too many people. All in all, I think the right people are in it for both of us (except maybe one).

cherish83 Posted: Mar 25, 2008 02:58 PM

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OMG Yes!!!

I would've put one friend (who is in it now) without hesitation in the beginning. She has been one of the best BMs to date.

On the other hand, I dont think I would've put one friend and 3 cousins!

futuremrsmultari Posted: Mar 25, 2008 02:58 PM

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I would have changed mine completely. I asked my girls a year before. A lof happened in that time and things changed. I think I would have had about half of my bridal party as guests rather than BMs. I also would not have let the politics of families dictate who I asked. I did add someone about 3 or 4 months before the wedding and it was the best move I made.

BUT hindsight is 20/20...I had a very nice day with my girls but I def. would have had a different BP if I waited.

Toucan311 Posted: Mar 25, 2008 02:58 PM

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In retrospect, I wish I knew more females

MayWeddingGrl Posted: Mar 25, 2008 02:59 PM

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mine would be the same. I already knew who would be in my wedding party since before I was even engaged!

Jenn04 Posted: Mar 25, 2008 03:01 PM

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One of my BM is my best friend but I dont talk to her or see her much lately. But when I do we have the best time! She is my friend since 6th grade and was there the night I met FH. She told me she wanted me to marry FH after I only knew him for like 3 hours!

My prob is this I have 6 bestfriends from HS and 3 bestfriends from college. It was hard to pick and chose so I only chose 1....who is mutual and I didnt think feelings would get hurt. And I chose my 2 sisters. It was hard but had to do it this way!

anneandchris Posted: Mar 25, 2008 03:02 PM

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Posted by Mimacat

Right now, we already have one extra GM than BM, b/c one of my close guy friends is a GM. So we have 3 girls and 4 guys... but in the past few months my MOH has gotten serious w/her BF, and he really hit it off with FH also. We see them a lot... I *know* that if and when they get married FH will probably be in the BP... so now I feel like we should have him... but then we're SUPER uneven...

I don't think there is anything wrong with it being uneven if you really want to ask him. I have 7 BM and FH has 11 GM. But at the same time, I don't think that your friends boyfriend would be insulted not being asked and that wouldn't prohibit him from asking you FH in the future (does that make sense). My point -- go with what you are comfortable with -- and don't worry about even numbers have people who make you happy at your sides!

KK Holiday Posted: Mar 25, 2008 03:02 PM

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i would have went with less bridesmaids

snwb08 Posted: Mar 25, 2008 03:03 PM

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Posted by Mimacat

Right now, we already have one extra GM than BM, b/c one of my close guy friends is a GM. So we have 3 girls and 4 guys... but in the past few months my MOH has gotten serious w/her BF, and he really hit it off with FH also. We see them a lot... I *know* that if and when they get married FH will probably be in the BP... so now I feel like we should have him... but then we're SUPER uneven...

by the way, FH is having his four closest friends as his best men and I'm only having a MOH. so we are super uneven, and i really don't care at all. I think it's nice to be a little different.

kristi313 Posted: Mar 25, 2008 03:06 PM

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there is 1 more girl i would've wanted but fh's is lacking in the guy department so i didn't want it to be uneven. although if any of you would like to volunteer your fh as a stand in that would be superb

LuvMyAlfonse Posted: Mar 25, 2008 03:06 PM

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Posted by Mimacat

Posted by LuvMyAlfonse

Mine would be the same...

You wouldn't have me?

No, I don't want no scrubs.

Toucan311 Posted: Mar 25, 2008 03:06 PM

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Posted by snwb08

Posted by Mimacat

Right now, we already have one extra GM than BM, b/c one of my close guy friends is a GM. So we have 3 girls and 4 guys... but in the past few months my MOH has gotten serious w/her BF, and he really hit it off with FH also. We see them a lot... I *know* that if and when they get married FH will probably be in the BP... so now I feel like we should have him... but then we're SUPER uneven...

by the way, FH is having his four closest friends as his best men and I'm only having a MOH. so we are super uneven, and i really don't care at all. I think it's nice to be a little different.

But who will they dance with at the reception!? They're all single (the other GM!)

ant n tilde Posted: Mar 25, 2008 03:09 PM

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Well, the thing is that while we were asking people DH drifted from some of his close friends - but you know how guys are, that just means that they didnt have time to hang out. As the wedding got close they started hanging out more and it was like they had never drifted. SO, I would have told him to go for it and have his one friend in it - and NOW he is in THAT friend's BP so we feel extra guilty!!

As for my girls, nope - my party was perfect. If money wasn't an issue I would have added a few more of my friends but it worked out great the way i had it!

MN06 Posted: Mar 25, 2008 03:13 PM

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UMMM yes one ! she is a good friend I just didnt need her to be in my wedding party ...she has been one big headache for me

As a side note ** I love the boards everytime I feel down about something and I see others dealing with the same thing , makes me feel so much better to know im not alone

drpepper318 Posted: Mar 25, 2008 03:15 PM

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If I could go back in time & change my BP I would have not asked one of my bm's and added a few friends I'm close with now. For the most part it would be the same though.

AR31 Posted: Mar 25, 2008 03:15 PM

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Posted by snwb08

i barely have a BP. i have a MOH and a bunch of kids ages 3-12.

if I could do it again, I would probably do the same but would rather NO BP and no traditional wedding. BUT I would love my cat in my BP. She loves me more than the rest of them do. [said the crazy cat lady ]

haha.. i would like my kitty to be a part of it too..

Lucky0510 Posted: Mar 25, 2008 03:17 PM

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Posted by Mimacat

In retrospect, I wish I knew more females

me too! ! my BP is still uneven. now I am only short 1 female but I guess its no big deal.

lillprincess54 Posted: Mar 25, 2008 03:21 PM

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i would have kept everything the same except for one couple dont get me wrong she has been great from the beginning but there has been a ton of family drama, bc i picked her and i to keep defending her over and over again.

Mizzdimple Posted: Mar 25, 2008 03:23 PM

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Posted by Mimacat

Posted by snwb08

Posted by Mimacat

Right now, we already have one extra GM than BM, b/c one of my close guy friends is a GM. So we have 3 girls and 4 guys... but in the past few months my MOH has gotten serious w/her BF, and he really hit it off with FH also. We see them a lot... I *know* that if and when they get married FH will probably be in the BP... so now I feel like we should have him... but then we're SUPER uneven...

by the way, FH is having his four closest friends as his best men and I'm only having a MOH. so we are super uneven, and i really don't care at all. I think it's nice to be a little different.

But who will they dance with at the reception!? They're all single (the other GM!)

I was so uneven i think they just started dacning all togehter!