I know some of us are really young, some of us are older, some of us already have kids, or FHs have kids....sooo im interested to hear, given the diverse group of people we have on the boards....
What are your's and FH's plans regarding children after the wedding????
Well, FH is a few years older than me, im 23 he's about to turn 29...as far as he's concerned, BABIES NOWWWWWWWWWW!!! he'd get me pregnant now if he could if it werent for the wedding!! LOL He has asked for a honeymoon baby a few times....
howeverrrr I disagree...i cannot WAIT for kids, seriously, so it's not like I don't want them...BUT I don't have a job yet...I'm still a student...I want my Teacher benefits before i have kids!!! However, I told him we'll compromise...We will wait til our 1st newlywed year is over...I have a job and benefits, and if we try to schedule having the baby where I can take regular maternity leave and have that end right when the summer begins, then that's what we'll do! I won't make him wait all the way til I have my 3 years for Tenure.
So, I'm lookin at hopefully poppin the first one out May/June 2012!!! (I always have my life planned out to a T...ive said forever, Married at 23, first kid at 25...and its already going as planned...God willing, I'll be lucky and healthy enough to get pregnant when I want)
soontobecruz
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I don't even plan on trying until like 3 years after we are married. I want to settle in a home. Travel, spoil us a little and then try.
Although, if it happens before then, it happens.
I guess I am kinda whatever about it. I would rather wait a little while though
GiannisWifey
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aww great question!!
well, since my sis will be having a baby that will kind of satisfy the baby itch...
I want to be settled in a house first, which I don't think will happen before the wedding. I mean, we can't plan it, but probably want to enjoy the first year of marriage in an apt, buy a house, get setttled and then maybe try for a little one....so I am guessing maybe 2-3 years after we get married?? I am 26, married at 27 so maybe by 29-30??? FH is only a year older so 31 won't kill him!
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We're probably going to wait 2 years after we're married. We want to enjoy each other first and travel. We're not ready for the responsibility yet but are very excited to start a family when we are!
AngnShaun
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we would like to get preggers asap!!!
christine2010
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i initially thought i wanted to start right away. (my brother has 3 kids already & many of our friends have kids already) however after speaking with FH about it we decided that we are going to wait 3 or 4 years. there are some places that we would like to go before we have kids & of course we would like to have a house first as well.
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We're going to be waiting at least 2-3 years before we try. We want to travel, just be married and save before we start to have kids. But we do talk about it a lot and already have names picked out lol I guess if it happens before then we'll be ok with it but we plan on waiting.
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NO WAY! NEVER! We have been together a long time. One of the things that we are totaly in sync on is NO KIDS...EVER! We have worked hard to get to where we are today. We are not going to give it all up for kids. Selfish.....you bet! We're very comfortable with our lifestyle & we want to keep it like that. For all of you out there that are going for the family thing, we wish you all the best. May you have healthy, happy, smart , kids you can be proud of. As for us .....we'll pass on the kid thing thank you!
Future Mrs H
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none I will 47 (almost 48) when we get married. Its not happening!
DaniandKen2010
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HM baby all the way if nature of course agrees or as soon after as possible. We want 2 back to back and we already have their names picked out. Everyone time we refer to our future child we call it Plogan because it will be Peyton if its a girl and Logan if its a boy.
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maybe a year or 2 we hae 2 kids already
StaceyWill
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Weeeeelllllll, I would like to wait a year or so, but I'm 35 and by the wedding i'll be two weeks from 36, so I'm afraid we'll have to get crackin' right away
jcreilly
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I plan on trying after being married for a year I will be 29( holy crap) and FH will be 33! I am hoping to get pregnant right away
AdriandSteve
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FH wants them about a year after we're married. (I don't know about that lol)
So we're thinking of starting 2 years after we're married. He says, 'I don't want to be a old dad. I want to be able to play sports and stuff with my kids.' (He's 20 ummm... 29 lol) So we'll start having kids when he's 32 and I'll be 30.
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fh is 31 and he realllllllllyyyyyyyyy wants one
im 34 and i dont think i do when i was in my 20's i wanted one so bad.
he really has no idea how our lives are going to change if we have one.
but thats today.....who knows how i'll feel next year
MrsHandsome2Be
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2 kids.. hopefully will have #1 about 2 years after our wedding.. i want them both by the time im 30... i'll be 25 when we get married
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Posted by soontobecruz
I don't even plan on trying until like 3 years after we are married. I want to settle in a home. Travel, spoil us a little and then try.
Although, if it happens before then, it happens.
I guess I am kinda whatever about it. I would rather wait a little while though
same here....we plan to wait a few years so we can buy a house, travel and just enjoy being married.
if it happened sooner i would be totally fine with it....fh might freak out though
Becca2010
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I told FH no babies until he promises he won't be an 'absentee Dad.' I'm serious too. He thinks he can just drop the kids off with his or my parents and be done with it. This is what happened to him and his grandparents basically raised him.
This is NOT an option. Grandparents can be babysitters, but NOT parents!! I stand by that.
Also, I don't wants kids right away. I need at least another 5 years after the wedding. AT LEAST.
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Posted by soontobecruz
I don't even plan on trying until like 3 years after we are married. I want to settle in a home. Travel, spoil us a little and then try.
Although, if it happens before then, it happens.
I guess I am kinda whatever about it. I would rather wait a little while though
This is exactly how I feel about it. There's no rush. I want to be able to travel and make sure we're financially secure enough to have children so we'll wait 2 or 3 years after we're married. We did have a little scare a few mos. ago and FH said he was actually disappointed when we found out I wasn't! He looooooooooves kids- he'll be a great dad.
