So when do we talk about 9/11, it has to be on everyones minds

I am marrying a police office who spent about 40 days there, 16 hrs a day, no days off. Anyone else?? How are we all handling this? Let's talk about it !!

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not to sound rude but its so sad, I'd rather not.
My dad lost one of his best friends, I lost a friend and my FH's cousin is a detective and was probably working next to your FH all those hours.
i say we just say a prayer.

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I agree with jennbaby. It was hard enough dealing with it the first time around and now I feel like the media is forcing me to watch it again. I haven't turned on the TV in a week. Now I find out today at work that we are going to have a moment of silence. I mean don't get me wrong, I will say a prayer and remember those who lost their lives, but can't I do it in my own way? I mean, am I really going to do any work after that?

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But how do we just let it go. It is a part of all of us now, our past, now and our future. I am sure for some of us more than others. We have to live with it every day b/c of what he went through. Maybe some of use need to talk about it. That is why we are here for each other to help, right?

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Sorry !! I get the message. Some may need to talk about it and some may need to forget. Either way that is o.k. We all have to deal with it in our own ways, and there is nothing wrong with however anyone chooses. I did not mean to start anything here, just needed to talk... sorry

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Sorry, but I agree with Jennbaby - it's around us all the time, and I'm sick of hearing about it - it makes me sick to my stomach to think about it all and it's bad enough that we have to relive it this week.

I come to this board to escape from reality

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dec02bride.
didn't mean to make you feel bad. yes it did happen and we'll never forget.
i am just happy your FH is alive & well.
God Bless him

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I'm not really up for talking about it either , sorry. Our family has also lost friends. We will say a prayer as well

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No, I agree that some people may want to talk about it. I guess in a way I am talking about it, just a differnt perspective...I am venting about how much it is in the news and how sad and horrible it is making me feel, like I am reliving it all over again. I still cannot believe it actually happened - and my heart goes out to all the families directly affected
And in no way do I want to forget it as I could never. I guess I am just saying some of us would like to grieve/remember in our own private way as opposed to being forced to relive it again with the media keeping it in our faces 24/7.
It was hard enough going through it the first time around. Can you imagine how the families who were DIRECTLY affected feel?
If you girls need to talk, go ahead. Thats what these message boards are for. I was just posting my opinion on the subject.

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This is such a hard one. I work in Soho and watched the whole thing happen. So even if I try to ignore it, I can't. I have been having nightmares about it for the past few weeks. But I do agree that so much media attention and being forced to sit for a moment of silence may not be the best thing. Honestly, I can't even read the memos passing around the office regarding 9/11 without tearing up and having to put them down. Good luck to everyone wherever you are at the time, whatever you are doing.

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I'm working at an elementary school that is 2 blocks from where the WTC stood. It's so weird. Wednesday is going to be such a hard day. These kids really lived through it (I I worked uptown last year) - there is a CNBC special on 9/11 that was filmed at my school. Crazy.

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I am just saying that I am sure there are more than a few of us who are marrying cops and fireman who were directly affected by this and if we need to talk we should be here for each other. It is a big part of us now, and there is no getting away from it. I am not trying to force anyone who dows NOT want to talk about it to do so, but some of us may need to with others who are going through the same things. No bad intentions here !!
For some of us turning off the t.v does not make it stop if your fi is living with it, or if any of us are, either with them or from our own expreiences.

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Decbride you have a valid point there. Maybe you should have posted it in the NWR section. So whoever wants to discuss it would see it over there. I work 4 blocks away and planning after the event seem so sad, like why should I have joy while all these other people are suffering. If you need a place to vent we are here for you...I just don't think the ladies want it in the bridal section. Some of get on here to get away from the harsh world. I would love to talk to you in the NWR section on anything. I lived thru it and experienced it 1st hand and it was not easy. Yes we do need a place to talk if we so choose. You are right.

Hope you and your FI have a blessed day on the 11th

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Don't forget the spouses of the military. My fiance is an Officer in the Air Force as well as a pilot.
Many people were lost and hurt, many helped in many different ways and many are still fighting.
I plan to go to mass and hold my Fiance's hand during it, he was on lockdown for weeks afterwards.
But I don't plan on doing anything out of the ordinary that day except for mass on a wednesday, I will never forget it, and I will just fly my flag like I am have been flying prior to 9-11. It makes me extremely proud of my husbands career choice and helps me to understand why every few months he is taking from me to help protect us all.

And to bring this to a happier note, our new date is in 17 days and if anyone wants to see a military wedding come and see!

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To be honest, none of us will ever forget- even if we try we cannot. I was in NYC that day and my FH was in San Francisco. It was awful, but thankful he came home in a week so I have was very blessed.

I cannot watch TV at all this week. I would love to be able to go online still. I am not saying let's not talk or let's forget about it but instead can we do our 'dealing' in our homes, and just talk weddings on here. I need the distraction.

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Still deciding whether or not to go to work... As the day nears it gets creepier and creepier thinking about all those that stood where I stand almost daily. The idea alone is overwheming. I work on John Street.

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Dec bride I know what your talking about, my fiance is an NYPD officer but luckily was not on duty at the time of the attacks. Its so hard to put into words how I feel about this, so I think saying nothing at all would be best during this time of rememberance.

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I too can't bring myself to talk about it. Too much pain for too many people. Not that I'm pretending it didn't happen, I just don't like to relive it. It's too much for me. And besides this September 11th, I have some deep issues to address: we find out the results of my dad's 2nd biopsy. It'll be a big day of prayer on many levels for me & my family. God bless you all.

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I agree with Jennbaby & company. The media attention is so unhealthy. If you lose a loved one, the worst thing you can do for yourself is to get up every day and relive that loss. Any grief counselor will tell you that. It makes me want to hit someone that the newscasters talk about how the country needs to heal, quickly followed by 'let's go to the WTC site and hear the reaction of the crowd.' Pledging not to forget is very different from remembering every second of every day.

Tomorrow is an appropriate day to take a moment of silence and remember those who we lost. However, I think it has lost some of the meaning it should have as a result of the media onslaught we have suffered over the past 11 months, three weeks and six days.

I will walk over to the Circuit Court near my office tomorrow afternoon for a short memorial service as a way of paying my respects. But, as for the rest of my day, I am leaving the television and radio off