As some as you know, I was having a huge problem with FH's father and mother. Well after a long ridiculous day, I have decided to cancel my wedding. It is really hard, but I cannot marry a man who is still afraid to tell his parents 'no'. I love Tom dearly, but he needs to get himself a backbone, before I can become his wife. We are still together, but at this time, I will not be marrying him. Im sorry to be such a Debbie Downer!!
Kristin
lipglossjunky73
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oh no!
Maybe things will work out - I have seen other women cancel and then work things out...
Good luck!
Deedlebug126
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No, Im pretty sure that things will remain as is... Im just not happy anymore. Its too hard having a relationship with Tom, his mom, and his dad.
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I am very proud of you. It takes a lot of courage to do what you did and I'm sure it's really hard. If I was in your position and my FH was that way with his parents, I would do the same thing. If you need to talk, you can FH me anytime.
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Thank you so much!!! It was very hard but I cant do it. It will never get better, it will only get worse. I know some people have said to me, that by doing this I am letting his parents win, but I think I would lose a lot more by marrying him right now!
EJSD2006
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oh no! that's totally not what i expected when i clicked here!
but i understand where you are coming from. my sister and her boyfriend were together for 3 years and talking about getting married, but she broke up with him this past winter because there was too much involvement from his parents. she told him when he was ready to cut the apron strings she'll reconsider the relationship.
i'm sorry you're going thru this...
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Posted by Deedlebug126
Thank you so much!!! It was very hard but I cant do it. It will never get better, it will only get worse. I know some people have said to me, that by doing this I am letting his parents win, but I think I would lose a lot more by marrying him right now!
I don't think that you're letting them win by calling off the marriage, I think that if you will be happier not being married to him..you're the winner for making the best decision for yourself. Always remember you need to do what's best for you. You may love him, but loving yourself and knowing what's right for you is more important.
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I am so sorry you have to go throught this so close to your wedding. I am glad you are the STRONG one in the relationship and knows what is right and wrong. WE at LIW are all here for you
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Im sorry you are going thru this, but it sounds like you are a very strong woman and that this is the right thing for you at this time! Please know we are all here for you!
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I'm so sorry Kristin!!!!!! I wish you the Best of Luck!! I know it must of been a hard decision, but you have to do what is right for you. We are all here for you, don't forget that!!
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I'm so sorry you have to go through this but it shows you have such a strong character to be able to do what you did. You should be very proud of yourself because it took a lot of courage.
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I am so sorry, but I like everyone else, applaud your decision to make the choice you feel is right before you take vows and jump into something and hope it will magically fix something that you know in your heart isnt right...
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wow... that must have been hard...
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sarahthegreat
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that s ucks - sorry to hear that. if you feel its right for you, then that is all that matters.
MrsD06
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to you. Good for you. I'm sure that was a difficult decision to make but the right one for both of you.
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I'm so sorry to hear your news. It must have been so hard to make your decision, but it shows how strong of a person you are to be able to maintain perspective and do what is truly the best for you. I wish you the best of luck in whatever the future brings your way.
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aww i am so sorry, you need to do what you feel is the right thing, no matter what anyone else thinks or feels. You cant spend the rest of your life being miserable, if this is the right path for you now, then be it. Hang in there!! We are all here for you
