Spinoff.... Do yo care if your man goes to Strip clubs?

I don't care I have even gone with him several times with a whole bunch of my Girl friends and our friends.

if it was for a special occasions (b-parties, birthdays)...why not

just for entertainment...i wouldn't like that

No i wouldn't go with him...and i don't think he would go with me to a male review

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Posted by violet

I care if he goes generally. Once in a blue moon is fine. Not if it's more than that. I have gone with him a couple times with him and his friends, me being the only girl, and I was fine, but we haven't gone in awhile. You really have to have good self-esteem if you're going to go, and I did at those times. Even one or two men asked me if I worked there when I went, so it was like okay, I guess that's good.

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Good Self esteem to go Why? My DH doesnt go oftern either. We went a few times with a whole bunch of friends. And he went once when I was away.. And he went for his B party..

Why would you be okay with it if they thought u worked there. In another thread you called Strippers Trashy (which they aren't)

Joy... your DH and my DH are probably the only TWO men in the world who dislike strip clubs..

My husband truly does not like them, and I believe it. He says he gets nothing out of it, the women don't excite him, and honestly (in his words) he's just too cheap to justify throwing his money at a bunch of 1/2 nekkid women who could care less about him and are just doing a job

That said , if he did ever go or wanted to go, I truly would have no problem with it whatsoever. I think if it were something he frequented or enjoyed a little too much, that would cause me wonder 'why' but overall I think its relatively harmless...

What I DO think I'd have more of a problem with is a stripper being hired to perform in a hotel room , private home, etc. And NO, its not that I dont trust him - I do completely. I just think there is no limitations to what goes on , and that it would be a really bad, sleazy scene all the way around

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Posted by june262004

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Posted by violet

I care if he goes generally. Once in a blue moon is fine. Not if it's more than that. I have gone with him a couple times with him and his friends, me being the only girl, and I was fine, but we haven't gone in awhile. You really have to have good self-esteem if you're going to go, and I did at those times. Even one or two men asked me if I worked there when I went, so it was like okay, I guess that's good.

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Good Self esteem to go Why? My DH doesnt go oftern either. We went a few times with a whole bunch of friends. And he went once when I was away.. And he went for his B party..

Why would you be okay with it if they thought u worked there. In another thread you called Strippers Trashy (which they aren't)

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You have to have good self esteem if you go. If you don't and feel bad about yourself, it's going to make you feel bad about seeing your guy checking out other women. I think that's pretty obvious.

I only meant that I felt good that they thought I had a nice enough body that they thought I could work there.

Wow I really don't think I have good self esteem about myself? But it doesnt bother me. But sometimes the Bar Tenders are pretier then The Strippers.

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Posted by FeliciaDA

Joy... your DH and my DH are probably the only TWO men in the world who dislike strip clubs..

My husband truly does not like them, and I believe it. He says he gets nothing out of it, the women don't excite him, and honestly (in his words) he's just too cheap to justify throwing his money at a bunch of 1/2 nekkid women who could care less about him and are just doing a job

That said , if he did ever go or wanted to go, I truly would have no problem with it whatsoever. I think if it were something he frequented or enjoyed a little too much, that would cause me wonder 'why' but overall I think its relatively harmless...

What I DO think I'd have more of a problem with is a stripper being hired to perform in a hotel room , private home, etc. And NO, its not that I dont trust him - I do completely. I just think there is no limitations to what goes on , and that it would be a really bad, sleazy scene all the way around

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mine's another one! (Thank god!!!! I am not one for him going to those places.

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Posted by FeliciaDA

What I DO think I'd have more of a problem with is a stripper being hired to perform in a hotel room , private home, etc. And NO, its not that I dont trust him - I do completely. I just think there is no limitations to what goes on , and that it would be a really bad, sleazy scene all the way around

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Yeah, I think it would be gross for him just to be AROUND it if they're doing really nasty stuff.

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Posted by FeliciaDA

My husband truly does not like them, and I believe it. He says he gets nothing out of it, the women don't excite him, and honestly (in his words) he's just too cheap to justify throwing his money at a bunch of 1/2 nekkid women who could care less about him and are just doing a job

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this is how i feel now, strip clubs do nothing for me and are a rip off -- when i was in high school and going through puberty --look out

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Posted by FeliciaDA

Joy... your DH and my DH are probably the only TWO men in the world who dislike strip clubs..

My husband truly does not like them, and I believe it. He says he gets nothing out of it, the women don't excite him, and honestly (in his words) he's just too cheap to justify throwing his money at a bunch of 1/2 nekkid women who could care less about him and are just doing a job

That said , if he did ever go or wanted to go, I truly would have no problem with it whatsoever. I think if it were something he frequented or enjoyed a little too much, that would cause me wonder 'why' but overall I think its relatively harmless...

What I DO think I'd have more of a problem with is a stripper being hired to perform in a hotel room , private home, etc. And NO, its not that I dont trust him - I do completely. I just think there is no limitations to what goes on , and that it would be a really bad, sleazy scene all the way around

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and for my BP, we had it in my friend's apartment and he hired the girls -- boosh was fine with it

we sat down beforehand and we literally listed out what was OK and what was not

for instance, touching certain areas was OK, others was not

now if i go to a BP, which i haven't for a long time, i'm allowed to look and admire but not touch and no lap dance

my friends wanted me to go further at my BP and they were gonna pay the stripper extra cash to go into the other room with me -- but i admantly said no. plus, i was so drunk i wouldn't have been 'up' to it anyway

I would have a huge problem with this. That ship sailed when he said 'I do'

DH worked in a nudist colony for 8 years bartending, I have heard all and seen all.

My husband belongs home with his wife, not out giving money away to whores.

ETA: I am a secure woman, who never complained about my DH's job all those years. Once we got engaged he came home and told me he was done with that place because he wants to only see me. We are still friends with the nudist and 9 of them came up for the wedding. I feel like we both work hard all week, and if there is time for us to be together, I would hate it if he decided to go see skanks. DH has turned down invites to bacholar parties, knowing that it causes drama.

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Posted by Janice

I would have a huge problem with this. That ship sailed when he said 'I do'

DH worked in a nudist colony for 8 years bartending, I have heard all and seen all.

My husband belongs home with his wife, not out giving money away to whores.

ETA: I am a secure woman, who never complained about my DH's job all those years. Once we got engaged he came home and told me he was done with that place because he wants to only see me. We are still friends with the nudist and 9 of them came up for the wedding. I feel like we both work hard all week, and if there is time for us to be together, I would hate it if he decided to go see skanks. DH has turned down invites to bacholar parties, knowing that it causes drama.

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i respect that opinion

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Posted by don424

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Posted by Janice

I would have a huge problem with this. That ship sailed when he said 'I do'

DH worked in a nudist colony for 8 years bartending, I have heard all and seen all.

My husband belongs home with his wife, not out giving money away to whores.

ETA: I am a secure woman, who never complained about my DH's job all those years. Once we got engaged he came home and told me he was done with that place because he wants to only see me. We are still friends with the nudist and 9 of them came up for the wedding. I feel like we both work hard all week, and if there is time for us to be together, I would hate it if he decided to go see skanks. DH has turned down invites to bacholar parties, knowing that it causes drama.

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i respect that opinion

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thanks also wanted to add, once I heard DH talking to his brother and DH was telling him how he does not think he would enjoy going to a strip club, he would feel bad for the strippers and desperation for a better life

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Posted by Janice

My husband belongs home with his wife, not out giving money away to whores.

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I certainly respect your opinion, but I must say that I know quite a few girls that work/worked in strip clubs and they are not whores.

Yeah, there are girls that do gross and illegal things, but there are also plenty that do not and are just making $$ for school, etc.

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Posted by LisaW

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Posted by Janice

My husband belongs home with his wife, not out giving money away to whores.

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I certainly respect your opinion, but I must say that I know quite a few girls that work/worked in strip clubs and they are not whores.

Yeah, there are girls that do gross and illegal things, but there are also plenty that do not and are just making $$ for school, etc.

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I think I know what you mean, I knew a girl who was in nursing school who stripped...but I am sorry, it is probably closed minded of me, but if it walks like a duck......

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Posted by Janice

I would have a huge problem with this. That ship sailed when he said 'I do'

DH worked in a nudist colony for 8 years bartending, I have heard all and seen all.

My husband belongs home with his wife, not out giving money away to whores.

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LOL.... what about all those times you have tipped male waiters at a restaurant? You are tipping for a 'service'... what makes this any different?

'My husband belongs home with his wife' <---


I am sorry... but for all these women who claim they aren't 'insecure'....

.... if you have a problem with your man going out occasionally to a strip bar (for a reason... b-day... bachelor party... etc.)... IMO you *ARE* insecure.

If he wants to turn down invites... that should be his choice... not a choice he must make to avoid drama.

My two cents.