Ok...So how many of us called/emailed our FH's to talk about this thread????
I know I did!!! He's not taking me seriously and I'm not happy...I told him that if he chooses to have a bachelor party in a private place where a stripper would be brought in--I'm sorry, but the wedding would be canceled.
Ang&Rich
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We're on IM right now.
Salason626
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my FH's bachelor party is next wknd and i told him to keep his hands and his mouth to himself and if he plans to get a lapdance, wear pants he doesnt like bc im going to burn them
aimerliny
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I haven't called him to discuss it, but I plan to when I get home tonight.
I'm going to ask what he thinks about her post and what occurred before I start in on what my opinion is. then I'll ease into my feelings.
We'll see how that goes.
Good luck everyone!
AtticaQT
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just e-mailed him - *lol*
Julestrd
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FH said he doesn't want strippers and in front of me told his BM the same thing. I haven't spoken to him about this yet, but believe you me I will. If he does decide to have a Bachelor Party I will definitely make sure I have an observer there, not that I don't trust him but those girls have no respect and if FH is drunk forget it!!!!
Jax430
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I will probably tell FH about it later, but he wants nothing to do with strippers at his bachelor party and I know the guys planning on it have a pretty tame day planned, so no worries on this end.
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Good luck everyone!
That's so funny...that little add-on there!!!
Kriss2c
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I have yet to talk to my FH about this; but believe me it will be brought up.
FH has said on several occassions that he does not want a stripper at his party. However, I know some of his friends and would trust them about as far as..... well you know how it goes.
I plan on telling him about this thread... maybe even showing it to him and telling him exactly how I feel about what I can only imagine Violetfairy is going through. I hope it will be enough to plant a seed in him should he find himself in a similar situation.
kel2004
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I im'ed him. I thought we were on the same page about it, and we were. phew. I don't mind looking, but no touching allowed! They are probably just going to a strip club, so that's no big deal to me.
PrincessRose
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I did! We're continuing the conversation later too.
Julestrd
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Oh my goodness now my stomach is turning just thinking about this stuff.
FeliciaDA
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I definitely plan on discussing this with my FH later!! (don't really want to do it by email ... )
He's made it clear to his brother's that he doesn't want a bachelor party .. the last thing I heard, their big day out was going to be a Mets game and drinks afterwards, etc. But you never know if that's the REAL plan, of course !! Also I told him that I hope his bachelor party is SOON and not to close to the wedding .. I know that in Violetfairy's case, this situation might be SLIGHTLY easier if she was afforded more time to digest it all. It wouldn't make it RIGHT, but more time would've helped
I would NOT be happy if he went the stripper route, but if that does happen I certainly know there better be some ground rules (esp. after reading about this)
ETA: I don't want to sound prudish here. I do think that a strip club (like Scores) is not that bad. Its these private strippers at private places , people houses or at a hotel, etc. well there are no ground rules and that's when you hear that more than 'stripping' goes on. Whereas at a more well-known strip club they have strict rules and bouncers making sure that there is a 'dont touch' policy
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We already talked about this but you had better believe I will brief him on the thread tonight.
Like I stated in another discussion, hes too scared to cheat/participate in anything like that. My cousin WILL break his legs and my sisters WILL castrate him. I dont care if he goes to a strip club - hes just not allowed to get anything done to him 'privately'.
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OMG, I thought I was the only one IM'ing FH about this...
We agreed not to have the bachelor/ette parties. Since our wedding is so far away, no one has mentioned it yet. But I can see it looming on the horizon, and told him to nip it in the bud.
sammi102
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I will when we get home... not appropriate to IM him when he's at work... he won't be happy!
julz33
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FH has said on several occassions that he does not want a stripper at his party. However, I know some of his friends and would trust them about as far as..... well you know how it goes.
Same here. He already knows - one mess-up and we're through.
'-I just calledmy fh/dh and he said that he's seen this at some bachelor parties and some bachelor parties don't have this. He also said that its obvious that your dad really likes your f/h. He said to talk to your dad about all this. I don't mean to be naive but after seeing what my friend went through in front of everyoone @ that party I went to and knowing he was AMBUSHED maybe your f/h was too EVEN THOUGH IT SUCKS!!!!!! '
I just added this to my other post on the other thread.... I am telling you, I really hate this but I saw my friend get AMBUSHED involving nastier stuff ( a banana) in a room of 300+ people and his girlfriend.
I would be ballistic but after seeing this guy I know having to 'be a good sport' I feel he could have been bamboozled.
If my f/h did this I would definetly bust ba!!s and make him squirm - I really feel for her!!!
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However, I know some of his friends and would trust them about as far as..... well you know how it goes.
Don't I?????!!!
I have one of his friends telling me that FH's 'stick is going to be purple' after that night...But that I shouldn't worry because the girls are 'clean'...
