okay i have a question for you all!!! im bored and have nothing to do this friday night lol..can you tell??
I have read on the other boards that some girls wrote their guys 'dont like strippers' 'its not their thing' 'they dont want strippers at their bach party'
just asking, do you guys realy believe them? dont want to start drama (please!) but just curious because heres my story....
FH has two of his best friends getting married, one this month, one in feb, they did a joint bach party. they BOTH told their fiances, 'strippers are not my thing, i hate strippers, theyre nasty etc etc etc etc'...and guess what, FH and his friends got them strippers, why? because the guys said 'you better get us strippers!!!' i actually helped do the phone calls looking for the strippers, and FH told me all the nasty things they did to the 2 guys because im comfortable with FH seeing strippers and i know he'll have them at his bach party too.....BUT my questions still stands....
who has a problem with FH having strippers at their bach party, why or why not? and if they say that they dont like them or its not their thing...do you really believe them??? what guy doesnt like a naked girl?? lol
these girls will swearrrrr their men dont like them ,and wouldnt want that at their party, but lo and behold they asked for the strippers, and kept it from their fiances so they wouldnt kill them.
eta: anyone answer not only 09 brides!
AHimar24
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I don't mind if FH goes to strip clubs. Whether or not he will have one at his Bach Party, I'm not sure bc he's planning on going to Greece for it.
But back to the point, it's not that he doesn't like strippers, but when he goes to a strip club, he refuses to give the girls any money (whatever his reasons may be) so they don't spend too much time around him. I think it's funny.
Either way it doesn't bother me, we've gone together and I don't see the big deal
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FH is DEFINITELY having strippers I could care less, as long as he enjoys himself and doesn't get arrested, it's all good, I trust him totally and know that it's nothing more than harmless fun. He told me hes doing it and it's fine, I hope he has a nice time, as I know he's coming home to me afterwards, hopefully not too drunk
Reesy
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lmao,it probably would happen exactly like that to fh, but even if he knew how to use it he probably wouldn't take it from her, something like that would embarrass him
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I don't care whether or not FH has strippers...I expect it and I know he will tell me everything that happens because we have that type of relationship. I also know that he is not one of those guys who would mess around with a stripper.... I know he would like to have them at the bach party but I know he thinks they are dirty and doesn't understand why some guys try to sleep with them...LOL
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ok let me just start by saying this ... i love my FH and i trust him 100% ... and this is just how i feel soooo dont think that im trying to be nasty ...
but I do NOT want him looking at another woman in that way! we both have been saving ourselves for each other and i feel like it would be disrespectful to me and our future vows to eachother to have a half dressed woman dancing all over him! we live in a society where husbands and wives cheat on eachother all the time and find nothing wrong with it and 60% of all marriages end in divorce ... why would i want to dangle a half naked woman infront of my FH when i want to start our marriage off on the right foot ... as we get married and we become one, we become one flesh, one body, spiritually, mentally and emotionally ... we have respect for each other and know that when it comes to being intimate, that is only for us! i just dont understand how watching a girl, that has been described as dirty and gross, is fun or entertaining ...
im sorry if this came off sounding a bit harsh or nasty ... i just know what i believe in and i feel very strongly about it.
FuTuRe MrS MaZz
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I am not too fond of the whole stripper idea. FH says he doesnt like him and call me naive, but I believe him. I think its a highly disrespectful thing to do before of all things, marriage. On that note, Ive been to a strip club with him before and I dont mind the half naked dancing, but I do mind the touching of any kind. Thats what bothers me and what I think is a totally wrong thing to do. Fh just wants to go somewhere, spend a weekend with the boys. I am very, very close with FH's friends and I trust them not to put FH in an uncomfortable situation for either of us.
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I don't mind if FH has strippers at all.He's been to soo many bach parties in the past and I trust him. Even though this time it will be HIS party. LOL. I has no idea what will be going on for his party though, all his GM are putting it together. It's a complete secret from both of us. I just hope that they all have a funtime...and safe. You know how boys can get. LOL
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Let me emphasize, this is JMO, in response this your post, ....Men are visual creatures so to speak, any man with blood running through his veins will like to see a naked woman, and a beautiful naked woman at that. It's just nature and reality. It's kinda funny bc the two guys I dated when I was younger were completely different. One was such a sweetheart and a good 'wholesome guy' ,and all that, the perfect bf type. He would say. 'if the guys are going to a strip club, I'm not going'. The other was like 'I would never go to a strip club and waste my money on those w*****' . But they both liked strip clubs..COMON' NOW! They're boys, and boys will be boys. Now, I wouldn't ind if FH went to a strip club for his bachelor party. However, when I was in my college years, a group of us girls and guys were like let's go to a strip club, to do something crazy and different. I didn't think we would actually go, but we ended up there, and let me tell you I didn't like what I saw....AT ALL! So, there must be real TRUST and the relationship must be solid, and I think it depends on the kind of man you are with.
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I hate the idea of strippers. I dont want them at his bach. party. I know that makes me sound like a controlling btch..but the thought of strippers really make me feel uncomfortable. (I myself will nto haev strippers- I hate them!! I went to a strip club once when I was 18 and hated it- it was nastttyyy). FH said he doesnt want strippers, doesnt like strippers, and I completely believe him. It's mainly due to his personality. He's not a club/bar kinda guy into dancing. He's into sports 100%. Knowing him as well as I do, and knowing his personality I know he'd rather go to a football game than a strip club. I don't think I'm naive on the subject- I just think I know him well enough that I know he's not lying about not liking/wanting strippers. It's just his personality to not like something like that.
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i heard so many horror stories with men and strippers and i really dont like the idea of FH having them for his bach party but knowing his friends he'll probably have a stripper
JennyAPH
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My FH says he doesn't like them too.. not because they are nasty or anything but because he says he feels like a pig staring at them... I went with him to a strip club once (yes thats right) and it took him like an hour to loosen up and he still was uncomfortable. He says he doesnt want them at his bach party but I KNOW his BM and they will def be there! I dont mind at all, they are just strippers but my FH is really upset over it.. he actually got into an argument with his BM because he doesnt want any. I have no idea if I believe that he doesnt or not, but I personally dont care.. whatever is fine with me....
However my FH was also the guy who said he didnt like porn and i found tons of that on his computer once when I was fixing it
so who knows!
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what i dont understand is that if a groom says he doesnt want strippers ... and he feels uncomfortable around them, WHY must grooms men and BM push the issue? if the groom doesnt want them ... why cant the grooms men just repspect that?
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My fh is actually appauled by it.. I wouldn't have a prob. if they were there but it disgusts him. And his groomsmen aren't the type that would want them around either. Idk what he'll do for a bach. party.. I'm going to Vegas with my girls so we were thinking about doing a joint trip and doing some things together and splitting up for others...
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Posted by Mich2585
what i dont understand is that if a groom says he doesnt want strippers ... and he feels uncomfortable around them, WHY must grooms men and BM push the issue? if the groom doesnt want them ... why cant the grooms men just repspect that?
I say the same thing.. My FH and BM fought about this.. FH said he really doesnt want them and his BM's response was 'there are alot more ppl at your bach party then you so do it for us'... but its a party for FH so shouldnt it be what he wants?
I dont know... they are big boys, they will figure it out.
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Posted by FuTuRe MrS MaZz
I am not too fond of the whole stripper idea. FH says he doesnt like him and call me naive, but I believe him. I think its a highly disrespectful thing to do before of all things, marriage. On that note, Ive been to a strip club with him before and I dont mind the half naked dancing, but I do mind the touching of any kind. Thats what bothers me and what I think is a totally wrong thing to do. Fh just wants to go somewhere, spend a weekend with the boys. I am very, very close with FH's friends and I trust them not to put FH in an uncomfortable situation for either of us.
yeah, I agree with you.. the stripping isn't too bad but I think with some of the bach parties the girls go wayyyy too far. i don't mind things like Chippendales or topless shows, but strippers are actually a diff. ballgame. And I don't think people like us are naive.. I trust fh and I know him better than anyone.. there are guys that don't just don't like it!
Mich2585
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i just dont understand ... and if someone could explain it to me that would be awesome! okkkk they are supposed to be celebrating the fact that they are getting married. that they decided to spend the rest of their lives with one woman ... soooo why would you take someone who is about to make a commitment for the rest of their life to one woman and put them infront of naked, half naked, who dance on polls or even worse on him!? i know people say its your last moment of freedom before you get married ... which i completely disagree with ... marriage is not a death sentence! haha soooo i dont understand the whole concept.
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Posted by tammi2308
Let me emphasize, this is JMO, in response this your post, ....Men are visual creatures so to speak, any man with blood running through his veins will like to see a naked woman, and a beautiful naked woman at that. It's just nature and reality. It's kinda funny bc the two guys I dated when I was younger were completely different. One was such a sweetheart and a good 'wholesome guy' ,and all that, the perfect bf type. He would say. 'if the guys are going to a strip club, I'm not going'. The other was like 'I would never go to a strip club and waste my money on those w*****' . But they both liked strip clubs..COMON' NOW! They're boys, and boys will be boys. Now, I wouldn't ind if FH went to a strip club for his bachelor party. However, when I was in my college years, a group of us girls and guys were like let's go to a strip club, to do something crazy and different. I didn't think we would actually go, but we ended up there, and let me tell you I didn't like what I saw....AT ALL! So, there must be real TRUST and the relationship must be solid, and I think it depends on the kind of man you are with.
i agree with that, ive been to bach parties with female strippers, and clubs, and at the male bach party..OMG the things i saw...ewww ...but i know my FH will enjoy the visual, he is a man, he likes sex what can i say lol however, i do trust him that he isnt stupid enough to take it any further to sex or anything crazy, we both know what we have and seeing someone else naked is for the fun of it, i know ill be having male strippers and my bparty. im not looking to sleep with the guy, just to have fun, and of course ill like looking at a hot naked guy
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Posted by lilmartha59
i heard so many horror stories with men and strippers and i really dont like the idea of FH having them for his bach party but knowing his friends he'll probably have a stripper
ive heard and seen crazyyyy stuff too, but i trust that FH wont go crazy with them , i think its about knowing your man, and knowing he wont do anything. if a man is going to cheat on you, he doesnt need a stripper to do it, he can do it with any girl
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Posted by FuTuRe MrS MaZz
I am not too fond of the whole stripper idea. FH says he doesnt like him and call me naive, but I believe him. I think its a highly disrespectful thing to do before of all things, marriage. On that note, Ive been to a strip club with him before and I dont mind the half naked dancing, but I do mind the touching of any kind. Thats what bothers me and what I think is a totally wrong thing to do. Fh just wants to go somewhere, spend a weekend with the boys. I am very, very close with FH's friends and I trust them not to put FH in an uncomfortable situation for either of us.
Couldn't have said it better myself!
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Posted by meli722
Posted by lilmartha59
i heard so many horror stories with men and strippers and i really dont like the idea of FH having them for his bach party but knowing his friends he'll probably have a stripper
ive heard and seen crazyyyy stuff too, but i trust that FH wont go crazy with them , i think its about knowing your man, and knowing he wont do anything. if a man is going to cheat on you, he doesn't need a stripper to do it, he can do it with any girl
I agree and disagree. A man doesn't need a stripper to cheat but everyone knows men and women lose inhibition when drinking and i could just picture a whole bunch of guys egging eachother on to do stuff so why dangle something in there face that would be tempting? I totally trust my guy 100% but want my body to be the only naked body he sees in person- PERIOD! And he feels the same way- he doesn't feel comfortable with me seeing male strippers. I guess to each his own- and thats why certain people are meant to be! I wouldn't want to be with someone who enjoyed strip clubs on a regular basis
