Trouble with church

Original post by yotonsie

Nov 01, 2010 07:41 PM

Hello all... I hope someone can help me. My fiance and I want to get married in a church but have already been denied by two. I've been to St. Raphaels in East Meadow and St. Brigid's in Westbury. Both are very strict. Seems I will have to get married at the hall if I cannot find a solution. Trouble isneither of us are church go-ers, or our parents... does anyone have any advise?

annabellagirl Posted: Nov 02, 2010 06:41 PM

Re: Trouble with church

Posted by JAAMS

Posted by justnicethings

Posted by annabellagirl

Im so THRILLED that we arent getting married in a church! Its a scam LOL
They require a 'DONATION' which is B.S. and they have the strictest rules!!!!

try to be more sensitive. a LOT of girls on here are getting married in churches and it means a lot to them.

ITA...I was going to write something when I first saw that...but it was late last night and I just kinda breezed past it.

It's not a 'scam' to get married in a Church. We switched from the RH to a Church only three months before the wedding, and I'm very grateful that we were able to find a Church to accommodate us at such short notice. It means a lot to FH & I to receive the sacrament of matrimony.

You have to pay to get married at an RH too, is that also a scam?

I APOLOGIZE GIRLS - you are right, im sorry!
didnt mean to soundy insensitive like that!

im just a lil upset with the way me & fh were treated .... I was married a very long time ago, and my anullment was granted however, thats not good enough. They are expecting me & fh to go through lots of counseling before approving us...

Seems that when you are divorced, you are judged by the RC Church and they really give you a hard time about getting re-married in a church... the whole annulment process is a nightmare, hopefully none of you have to go through it!

Anyway, again sorry if i offended those of you marrying in a church!

SoontobeMrsH Posted: Nov 30, 2010 11:47 AM

Re: Trouble with church

Check out the historical chapel it's in wood bury & they are vendors on here. If your set on having a church .

BlushandBashful Posted: Nov 30, 2010 11:52 AM

Re: Trouble with church

Posted by lori7570

A church has every right to deny you if you are not regular parishoners. It is a sacrament and I'm happy most churches don't take it too lightly.

A lot of people go to a church because they like the way it looks - and IMHO they are missing the point of getting married in a church.

Why not become a parishoner? If it is important to get married in a church, it should be important enough to have a 'home' church

Okay, old thread...but just wanted to say

Future Mrs H Posted: Nov 30, 2010 12:19 PM

Re: Trouble with church

Posted by annabellagirl

Posted by JAAMS

Posted by justnicethings

Posted by annabellagirl

Im so THRILLED that we arent getting married in a church! Its a scam LOL
They require a 'DONATION' which is B.S. and they have the strictest rules!!!!

try to be more sensitive. a LOT of girls on here are getting married in churches and it means a lot to them.

ITA...I was going to write something when I first saw that...but it was late last night and I just kinda breezed past it.

It's not a 'scam' to get married in a Church. We switched from the RH to a Church only three months before the wedding, and I'm very grateful that we were able to find a Church to accommodate us at such short notice. It means a lot to FH & I to receive the sacrament of matrimony.

You have to pay to get married at an RH too, is that also a scam?

I APOLOGIZE GIRLS - you are right, im sorry!
didnt mean to soundy insensitive like that!

im just a lil upset with the way me & fh were treated .... I was married a very long time ago, and my anullment was granted however, thats not good enough. They are expecting me & fh to go through lots of counseling before approving us...

Seems that when you are divorced, you are judged by the RC Church and they really give you a hard time about getting re-married in a church... the whole annulment process is a nightmare, hopefully none of you have to go through it!

Anyway, again sorry if i offended those of you marrying in a church!

I was able to get married in a church and I also was annulled. I was never judged and I didnt get a hard time in order to get married in the church. I do agree that getting an annullment is a nighmare and a very long process though. But it was worth it in the long run. I am glad i did it and the DH and i were able to get married in a church. They did mention that maybe we should go to counseling but didnt MAKE us go. I had other problems like getting the priest to return my phone calls but thats it.