UPDATED: Torturing my Life-sorry def long have patience with me please lol

So, I have mentioned before how I'm obsessed with even numbers and the number 2. I have always wanted to get married on the first Saturday in October, still warmer but still Fall. So, when FH and I agreed on 2010 as the year for the wedding I was thrilled to see that the first Saturday in October was the socond, 10-2-10, awesome lol! So as we look for halls in AUGUST OF 2008 lol, every one we look at out of the 6 we saw had the date open except for Jericho Terrace which ended up being the place we really wanted. Keeping with the fact that we wanted the first weekend in October, we agreed to Friday, October 1st. Now, I thought I'd get over not having the date I always wanted. However, it did still bother me every now and then and then this Saturday a situation caused my breakdown lol. (Keep in mind this post is serious yet still me laughing bc I am well aware it is not the end of the world, just me being anal and a bridezilla and needing to vent aka thanks for reading!).

So I go to the tailor to get a dress altered and I ask if he alters wedding gowns, he says yes and asks when my wedding is. I tell him October 1, 2010 and bc God likes to torture my life, the tailor tells me that his daughter's wedding is October 2, 2010. I wanted to cry right there. I explain how that was my dream date yadayada, but it was booked. Then I go to my workout class to try and feel better but still don't when I get out. Call JT just to double check that the second is booked and it is. The only Saturday opened in October is the 16th. Because now I'm obsessing over if it should be a Saturday, since that was what we originally planned. I'm concerned about work friends, etc. I know it's the same, those who care will be there. But I'm still obsessing bc I'd like everyone there but the ceremony is at 3 cocktail hour at 7. We're doing the VH so we don't want to start the reception later. FH thinks I'm absolutely insane at this point and doesn't want to hear it. I guess I just needed to vent about my internal struggle. The negative Friday comments from people also don't help the situation but whatever. Sorry to bore you with the lengthiness of this post blahhh.

So, am I crazy for considering to change the date to October 16th?? FH's birthday is also the 15th if that matters at all. We also already bought save the dates for October 1, they wouldn't break the bank to redo, just thought it's something that should be mentioned.

I'm posting this bc I've been discussing it with work friends and my other close friends but what better group of people to discuss it with than other brides who may understand a little better.


UPDATED AT THE BOTTOM SORRY!

Re: Torturing my Life-sorry def long have patience with me please lol

hmm.. interesting.... ur crazy but i'd be the same way.

I like the # 11 but we were told by my job that the only date available in 2010, aside from the summer, was sept 17-19. Since it's cheaper for Fri we went with that. FH is happy because 17 is his hockey jersey #.

Wait.. just a thought popped into my mind. Are you booked at a RH yet? You said Jericho Terrace was ur fav but what are the other options? Are any other vendors booked and if so are they available for the 2nd? Also, is the price change a factor cuz fri to sat is a big difference p/person.

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first second breathe!! I don't think you should be stressing this think about it! yes you will marry on october 1st but your party will be going until october 2nd! because your party won't end until 1am correct? anyway i hope this helps ! i hope everything goes well!!

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hmmmm...1st of all...i do not think your crazy at all!!! we alll have our internal struggles....we are getting married on a sunday and have heard lots of crap about it and honestly...i cant worry about what everyone is going to say...and you shouldnt either! (someone will always have something to say imo)....

as for changing your date?? i mean...how many other things do you have booked? Would you be able to still keep all of your vendors?? Can you talk to fh when he will listen??

I wish i could give you better advice but only you know what is going to make you happy....
im sorry your having a bit of a hard time!

Christina

10-01-10 (i think its cool...looking at it in a #s perspecitve)
10-16-10 also great!

Re: Torturing my Life-sorry def long have patience with me please lol

Don't feel bad... I am the same way with the whole look and sound of the numbers, which is why I'm a 10/10/10 bride, so you're not alone in that department. Plus, I think we all have our little things that we really want for our wedding.

I think you should do what ever is going to make you feel at peace before to much time passes. Fall weddings our beautiful and whether you have it on the 1st or the 16th, I'm sure it will be awesome. Or you could always become a 10/10/10 birde, lol. But seriously, as long as you feel good about your date and it's filled with a lot of love, which I'm sure it will be, the day will be fantastic!

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Actually that is a good point Gloria, I can celebrate even more at midnight haha, still not the dream tho lol.

And to answer Adriana's post, basically all our major vendors are booked. Jericho Terrace, church, Florist, DJ, String Quartet, DOC, Photo/Video, everything except for limos.

Re: Torturing my Life-sorry def long have patience with me please lol

hmm.... Ok well... I think you should leave it as is. I also have a Friday night wedding and hate hearing the negative comments as well. Although people have weddings EVERY Friday of every weekend. I mean it really isn't unheard of.

I hate that JT has the 2nd booked for you! You said you and FH origianally wanted the 2st weekend in Oct, well thethe 16th is of course not the 1st weekend in the month. so your trading on e disappointment for another. I really think the fact that the tailor brought his daughters up is what is bothering you and it will pass. Also in regards to FH's b-day I know I wouldn't want my wedding and my anniversary a day a part from eachother. I like to spread things out.. lol.... Maybe bc my b-day is June so between that an Christmas every 6 months I get some gifts... anyway back to you.... Do what you and FH want to do obviously, but it leaving it as is, is ok. Have you asked what the price difference will be from Friday to Sat? Also to re-do your STD's although possible to do it is an added expense.

If it makes you feel any better Oct 1st is the second weekend in Fall.

Re: Torturing my Life-sorry def long have patience with me please lol

I feel that way about 10-10-10. I still want to get married that day, but none of the halls we liked had that date available. I feel like I am getting second place with 10-9-10 lol.

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Jenna, I think that if you are having second thoughts with the day of the week you chose, you should change it (if available) just for peace of mind. For FH and I, we only looked at Saturdays because that's what we wanted. I too was dying to get married on October 2nd ( b.c of the pattern <- im kind of ocd )however another couple beat me to it. The RH offered October 1st to us as well but we did not want a Friday wedding for personal preference. If you want a Saturday wedding, then you should have one. You are not paying $5 per head- weddings are very expensive and therefore you should get what you want. It's your day and it should be as perfect as you can make it tailored to fit you not other people.

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ITA with gloria ... just think by the time the 2nd comes ... ullalready be married to the man u love .. as opposed to the 16 th ... its way after ur dream....

and 10-01-10 is cool ... u have all the same #'s in there .. dont stress ull be fine

Re: Torturing my Life-sorry def long have patience with me please lol

first of all, you're not crazy... i think we all go through moments like this... we're getting married on a sunday evening and all of a sudden my new thing is omg we should've done saturday... i think sometimes we just get a little crazy with all of this stuff and you need to just take a step back and breathe... i think you should just leave it as is, especially since you have all of your vendors booked... what if you change the date and then they are not available on that day?

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Posted by tHEBRide2010

Jenna, I think that if you are having second thoughts with the day of the week you chose, you should change it (if available) just for peace of mind.

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i agree, you dont want to keep second guessing yourself and if youre going to change it needs to be as soon as possible ya know and try not to go crazy over it itll all work out lol

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IMO i would leave your date as is esp. if you have all your major vendors booked.. it might be a hassle to try to move everything. I think 10/1/10 is a great date!

Re: Torturing my Life-sorry def long have patience with me please lol

your first full day as husband and wife will be the 2nd. that could be something to look foward too!

Re: Torturing my Life-sorry def long have patience with me please lol

I'm a 10/1/10 bride too!! Keep the date!!! And lets both pray for sunshine and a beautiful weather!!!

Re: Torturing my Life-sorry def long have patience with me please lol

I don't think your crazy because this is your wedding day! You should feel 100 percent certain that everything is as you want it! If your having doubts about the Friday, then I would change it. The one place that FH and I absolutely loved was booked on all Saturdays in September. We toyed with having a Friday night wedding and I just didnt picture getting married on a Friday. Nothing wrong with a Friday because everyone important to you will make sure they are there like you said. I just personally always wanted a Saturday. You have to do what makes you comfortable because its your special day!

Re: Torturing my Life-sorry def long have patience with me please lol

hmm..personally i think u r a little crazy (JMO) but if you are that unhappy with the date just change it

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I think if its that big of a deal to you & you really want a saturday + even number wedding + at JT then do it on the 16th!!

then you can be my date twin! haha

but seriously, i think if its bothering you this much, just change it..

and its right in the middle of october..i dont know how it is in NY but here in PA the middle of October is absolutely beautiful!!

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hey date twin,

I really wanted 10/10/10.. but ofcoarse that was the first thing taken.. so I figured what would be just as good and thought 10/01/10.. seems to go very well.. and i looove that date.. Its a great date the first of october.. :) I know what u mean about even numbers cause I hate the number 4.. and actually have OCD about it.. just so happened that I got engaged on the 24th.. :( and that still urks me that there is a 4 in it, lol. i know soooo weird,, but honestly.. being a friday night and im sure its cheaper than saturday I think u will save money number one if u keep the 1st.. and number 2.. is that is the second is taken its not worth it personally (IMO) to change to the 16th just to make it even.. hope this helps.. (besides who would be my date twin if you change it.. )

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Posted by Drues_Girl

I'm a 10/1/10 bride too!! Keep the date!!! And lets both pray for sunshine and a beautiful weather!!!

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oh yea.. ur 10/01/10 too!! another date twin.. :)