Vday

Ok so me and fh agreed on not buying anything for eachother this year as our money is tight.

So for vday I made him a picture frame from michaels and got him a card.

Friday we decided we were going to the movies and dinner since his grandma just passed and we were spending time with family on saturday which was totally fine by me.

Friday we go to the movies and after he doesnt even want to go to eat bc he is tired so we went to the diner quick (mind you he never takes me out to eat I can't remeber the last time) He is normally thoughtful in other ways so it doesnt bother me too much so I had my heart set on this night out since we never really do.

So come vday he gives me a card thats it. Now you have to know I never ever complain and I really am not too much of a brat seriously but I didnt get flowers (which I only get for vday or my bday) and no chocolate! And that is my favorite!!

I was disaponted to say the least and I know he has money for at least a small thing of flowers.
later that day he says he wanted to go to the mall with his brother to buy a pair of sneakers (which he never did) But come on is that rude?

I never said how I felt bc it would be selfish of me since his grandma passed away but I am kinda upset about this.

Am I wrong? Do I say something??
kinda just venting I dunno I feel that I have not been this disapointed in him...

I don't think you are wrong to be upset

I personally would say something to FH about how you feel.

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Posted by SoonToBMrsC

You have every right feeling that way and no your being selfish AT ALL. Your going to be his wife and he should know what makes you happy and what doesn't. I think that you should mention to him how you felt a little hurt. Sometimes it's the little things in life that really make a big difference.

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AAAHHHHH SO SORRY I HAD A TYPE. I meant to no YOUR NOT, NOT NOT being selfish.

Awww girlie! That $ucks! Ok, so yes def. sit him down and talk to him. You need to know whats up. I mean, from the circumstances, he could be going through alot. A lot of guys can't express that for whatever reason. Maybe he has a lot on his mind... but thats why you are there. You are supporting him. So sit him down, and ask him whats up. I'm sure its nothing but the down in the dumps because of his grandma. But just tell him you feel a little neglected and that you want to know whats eating at him.

Please let us know how it goes ok?

I don't think you should be upset, you said you both agreed not to get gifts for VDay so why would you expect more than a card... He might need new sneakers, and as long as he is willing to pay into the wedding than that is like a VDay, BDay, and XMas gift each time he puts in... Cause while the wedding is for the grooms to... The big huge dream one that you guys may be having is basically for the bride....

Edited just to say IMO

I thank you for being honest!!

I really understand that we did agree on not exchanging but we always get eachother like an actuall gift and then the small stuff just comes along with it so I guess I expected more.

And that is why I asked cause I dont wanna sound like a little brat. Esp in his time of need!

I am getting mixed reviews and thats how I feel inside.

ps he doesnt need sneakers he just saw his brother had a new pair haha (he can be a little brat at times too)


thanks guys! feels good even to vent!

I'd be upset too. I actually told FH that i was a little disappointed that i didn't get flowers on vday.

I would say something to him too.. my concern is:
do you say it now, so close to when he just lost a loved one
or do you wait a few more days but have the chance of him saying,. 'why are you bringing this up now?'

tough

wait, i thought you agreed not to get each other anything???

anyways though, with his gram dying, v-day might have totally just slipped his mind


and its always a little disappointing when you are kinda sorta expecting a little something but dont get it

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Posted by SummerGroom10

I don't think you should be upset, you said you both agreed not to get gifts for VDay so why would you expect more than a card... He might need new sneakers, and as long as he is willing to pay into the wedding than that is like a VDay, BDay, and XMas gift each time he puts in... Cause while the wedding is for the grooms to... The big huge dream one that you guys may be having is basically for the bride....

Edited just to say IMO

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thanks for being honest.
there is always more to a story which I should explain...
he has not put in one dime yet for savings for the wedding due to is lack of work hours which is not his fault and I have been buying (things needed and not needed) and doing sooo much for him these past few months that I would think he could at least get me chocolate. Do you know what I mean I just feel a little unappreciated at this time BUT the whole thing with his grandma I know I have to be supportive!

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Posted by AdriandSteve

I'd be upset too. I actually told FH that i was a little disappointed that i didn't get flowers on vday.

I would say something to him too.. my concern is:
do you say it now, so close to when he just lost a loved one
or do you wait a few more days but have the chance of him saying,. 'why are you bringing this up now?'

tough

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Yea I will say something only bc I have to let it out but I will wait and not be rude or bitchy just let him know how I feel.

I know it sounds dumb but its just all together lately he hasnt been the normal him.

i agree that you are upset. but this probably isnt the best time to bring it up. maybe if he goes to the mall to buy sneaks you can ask him to pick up some chocolate for the both of you. dont push though.

FH and I decided not to give gifts for christmas. and it was hard for me not to get anything for him, but i know he didnt get me anything and he would be upset if i broke the promise. but, ill tell you, it ******! so after christmas i told him it ****** and from now on we can stay to a budget, but we need to exchange...its just something you look forward to, ya know. i felt really selfish saying it...but it kinda bummed me out.

you will get thru this. let him know how you feel....but i just wouldnt do it now...its just not the right time.

Good luck hun!

i would just let him know how you feel... good luck!

FW and i decided no gfts for VDAY this year, and thats what we both got. no gifts. we both got each other a card. no one wa upset. you know why??? because we both agreed NO GIFTS. lol.

guys are differnt then girls. we actually take what is being said as literal things. no gifts mean no gifts. plain and simple.

sorry... just my opinion. i dont think your FH did anything wrong. he followed the game plan. if my FW got upset and said something to me about no getting a gift after we agreed that was the plan... i'd probably get upset with her

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Posted by marrymybestfriend

FW and i decided no gfts for VDAY this year, and thats what we both got. no gifts. we both got each other a card. no one wa upset. you know why??? because we both agreed NO GIFTS. lol.

guys are differnt then girls. we actually take what is being said as literal things. no gifts mean no gifts. plain and simple.

sorry... just my opinion. i dont think your FH did anything wrong. he followed the game plan. if my FW got upset and said something to me about no getting a gift after we agreed that was the plan... i'd probably get upset with her

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dont be sorry thats why I asked!!
I know I said one thing and expected another!
I think since he doesnt do things unexpected I expected this was an oportunity to do a little something for me.

Thank you all for your responses I appreciate it!!

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Posted by GonnaBeeMrsG

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Posted by marrymybestfriend

FW and i decided no gfts for VDAY this year, and thats what we both got. no gifts. we both got each other a card. no one wa upset. you know why??? because we both agreed NO GIFTS. lol.

guys are differnt then girls. we actually take what is being said as literal things. no gifts mean no gifts. plain and simple.

sorry... just my opinion. i dont think your FH did anything wrong. he followed the game plan. if my FW got upset and said something to me about no getting a gift after we agreed that was the plan... i'd probably get upset with her

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dont be sorry thats why I asked!!
I know I said one thing and expected another!
I think since he doesnt do things unexpected I expected this was an oportunity to do a little something for me.

Thank you all for your responses I appreciate it!!

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that makes sense. maybe a guy should let him now. lol. give me his e-mail!!! lol

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Posted by marrymybestfriend

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Posted by GonnaBeeMrsG

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Posted by marrymybestfriend

FW and i decided no gfts for VDAY this year, and thats what we both got. no gifts. we both got each other a card. no one wa upset. you know why??? because we both agreed NO GIFTS. lol.

guys are differnt then girls. we actually take what is being said as literal things. no gifts mean no gifts. plain and simple.

sorry... just my opinion. i dont think your FH did anything wrong. he followed the game plan. if my FW got upset and said something to me about no getting a gift after we agreed that was the plan... i'd probably get upset with her

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dont be sorry thats why I asked!!
I know I said one thing and expected another!
I think since he doesnt do things unexpected I expected this was an oportunity to do a little something for me.

Thank you all for your responses I appreciate it!!

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that makes sense. maybe a guy should let him now. lol. give me his e-mail!!! lol

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i know I know Im confusing lol