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Well girls i think the wedding is off.... my dad came to a decision today that he is not paying for the wedding. he thinks that $30,000 is crazy for one night.. only 169 days left and this is what i get.... fh parents won't pay even half.... (it is not there job) grrrrrrrrrrrr dad is set on going to the bahamas to get married and fh says taht is crazy and not going.... gosh now what i am in this in the middle and everything is booked i am never getting the wedding of my dreams.... i am so upset and fh is not home because he is at the ranger game for his fav player retireing tonight............. please help me girls!

xoxoxoxo nicole

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hugs

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i'm sorry you are going through this. Did your father say this in a heated discussion and is maybe talking more out of emotion or do you think this is something that can be discussed at a better time? Maybe if you sit down with your father and FH you can work something out or come up with a compromise.

good luck and let us know how it goes

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I'm so sorry. Are deposits already down? CAn you push the wedding back a couple of months and save for it yourselves?

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did something else happen to make your down come out with this! I'm so sorry!!!!

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almost everything is paid for, my parents were paying for the hall and mike and i are paying for everything else.... i am going to call fh mom and see what she thinks or i might leave it to mike to find out what she thinks....

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My sincere apologies.... maybe your father will come to? or maybe you and FH husband can help out with some of it and compromise. Also maybe your inlaws will come to an offer to pay just for something even if its minor. I'll pray for you

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I am so sorry you are going through this.

Maybe your dad will change his mind. Or maybe he can at least you give the money for the wedding and you can pay him back a little at a time.

I really hope everything works out!
Please keep us posted.

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can't u ask him to give u what he would have if u went away, and tried to save the rest yourself, so u dont have to misout in the wedding of your dreams?

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Girls he is all set on going away. i have no idea what the hell this is about.... i just left it at ok i will talk to mike about it and left the house before i started to cry and came to mike and i's apartment. i mean i paid for my dress, the bms ordered theirws already, flowers are done, phots, church, and cake is done. i mean he has been home from work all week because he had to get his heart checked today for reasons, and he was thikning while at home. he says that it is crazy to spend that type of money for a couple of hours. grrrrrrrrrr i mean i understand completely tht is is alot of money for 6 hours, but my sister eloped. for godsake with out anyone knowing.... i don't know what to do i mean i called mike and he said we will talk later when he gets home, his bf is coming over to stay with me bc i am going to go crazy until he gets home bc all my bms suck and have plans with there bf...... grrrrrrrr i am in a bad mood i guess

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Can you and FH pay for the rest on your own?

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My question is what does your reception facility contract say?? Some of them say that if you cancel and they do not get anyone to book that date, then you're still responsible for the payment. So even if your father has decided not to pay, he's already committed to paying when the contract was signed.

I'm soooo sorry that you're going through this. I hope it all works out..

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I just have to ask this......why would your dad sign a contract with a hall, agree to pay for it, and then back out? And why is he telling you what kind of wedding to have?

When one of our parents wanted to do something a certain way because they were paying for it, we said, OK, we'll pay for it and do it the way we want to do it. Period.

I know it's easier said than done, but if you really want to have the wedding of your dreams, take out a loan to pay for the rest and promise to pay it in full with your gifts after the wedding. Either that or call your credit card and ask them for a 1-time charge of x amount and pay that in full afterward. It also helps if it's a miles card. Although catering halls usually want cash.....

Sorry you have to go through this, it's really unfair of your dad to do this to you. Be strong, you'll figure it out....

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My suggestion is to post your dad email address and all us brides can let him know how much our weddings mean to us and the past brides can tell him how special their big day was. What he's doing is totally not fair and I'm so sorry you have to deal w/ this.

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Thanks girls,,,,, i am going to eat so much bceause i am so upset. i mean after all this happened i went down to my sisters bedroom, ya she is married and still lives home, and she was like well waht do u want me to do i can't do nothing and smiled. grrrrrrrrrri just want to run away this weekend and come back married and be like there are u all happy now? i mean ithink i have a right to be upset!

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should i call fmil and see what she says or let mike talk to her? i mean i know he won;t though

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