Would you be upset if...

Original post by JimmysBride

Sep 09, 2004 07:23 PM

Not sure how long I will leave this up.....

Would you be upset if your FH took a pic with some random chick, her arms around him and him lifting her skirt from the back to flash her a$$???

RedHead Posted: Sep 09, 2004 08:32 PM

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YES...

hbradio Posted: Sep 09, 2004 08:40 PM

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YES I would be upset - and let me ask you something because I just brought this up to my FH. Was this at a strip club? Because that would lessen my horrible feelings a bit. What was the setting if you dont mind me asking?

alexlynn7 Posted: Sep 09, 2004 08:50 PM

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Posted by HearzBellz

I don't know how mad I'd be at the pic....I mean, he did give up the info..he evidently thought it was stupid and meaningless (in a funny way)....the fact that he now knows it is upsetting you & won't apologize, now that's something i would be mad at.

i completely agree. of course i wouldn't be thrilled if fh did this. but if it only went so far as her flashing her butt at him and taking a pic, then it's basically harmless. i would be a little more upset at fh if he then refused to apologize - why not just say sorry and end the fight?

julz33 Posted: Sep 09, 2004 08:52 PM

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Posted by alexlynn7

Posted by HearzBellz

I don't know how mad I'd be at the pic....I mean, he did give up the info..he evidently thought it was stupid and meaningless (in a funny way)....the fact that he now knows it is upsetting you & won't apologize, now that's something i would be mad at.

i completely agree. of course i wouldn't be thrilled if fh did this. but if it only went so far as her flashing her butt at him and taking a pic, then it's basically harmless. i would be a little more upset at fh if he then refused to apologize - why not just say sorry and end the fight?

I agree. I took plenty of pictures with guys at my bachelorete party. A few took their shirts off! My FH knows and he is not mad because he knows it meant nothing but if my FH was upset I would apologize...

brooklynbridezilla Posted: Sep 09, 2004 08:57 PM

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This might seem silly, but taking off shirts bothers me less than pants. I don't know why.

julz33 Posted: Sep 09, 2004 09:25 PM

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Posted by brooklynbridezilla

This might seem silly, but taking off shirts bothers me less than pants. I don't know why.

True, but it still probably was harmless... just guys being guys at a bachelorette party... not that it makes it OK. The part that bothers me is he doesn't care that you're upset.

allaboutthecake Posted: Sep 09, 2004 09:26 PM

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I would be pissed esp. if he said that the girl was hot...why the heck would he tell you that and then tell you that he asked to see her a**because he didn't get a good enough look...that would piss me off more. I would tell him that it was really disrespectful to ask to see another girl's a**. Sorry but stupid comments like that really annoy me....

nehaliasz Posted: Sep 09, 2004 09:28 PM

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I would be pi$$ed too especailly with the whole a$$ situation.

JenniferLee111204 Posted: Sep 09, 2004 09:29 PM

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if FH pulled something like that. i would be REALLY pissed off. OMG.. i cant even think about that b/c i get so mad.

Jenn

dm24angel Posted: Sep 09, 2004 09:29 PM

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I may be in the minority, but if it happened on his bachelor party I would be ok with it...Its silly to me, I know Guys do crazy things then and that seems innocent....If the CONTEXT were different and not a party where men get together to have ' one last night of freedom' and gawk at girls, then I would be fuming...but I know where his mind will be ( my fh) on that night and If thats all that happens I would feel at ease..

dm24angel Posted: Sep 09, 2004 09:30 PM

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Posted by brooklynbridezilla

This might seem silly, but taking off shirts bothers me less than pants. I don't know why.

LOL! Its NOT silly, I feel the same way! I think because they can see the a** all over TV everyday, the other seems worse to me too!

julz33 Posted: Sep 09, 2004 09:31 PM

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Posted by dm24angel

I may be in the minority, but if it happened on his bachelor party I would be ok with it...Its silly to me, I know Guys do crazy things then and that seems innocent....If the CONTEXT were different and not a party where men get together to have ' one last night of freedom' and gawk at girls, then I would be fuming...but I know where his mind will be ( my fh) on that night and If thats all that happens I would feel at ease..

Thats true.
I have heard much worse bachelor party stories

RedHead Posted: Sep 09, 2004 09:39 PM

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BIG HUG

in all honesty...i would be pissed! Yeah it was his bachelor party and if it was a stripper, i would understand but a random girl at a bar?

BUT

like dm24angel said...it was one last night of reckless abandonment...it was his time to party hard..and if that is it...well i would get over it!
I have definately heard a lot worse

i know it is a hard pill to swallow but i would try to forget about it and chalk it up to bachlor party antics...hey at a normal bachlorette party a groom gets a lap dance by a naked, skanky stripper...so in comparison..pretty mild

prindia Posted: Sep 09, 2004 09:41 PM

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Wow that is hard your wedding is just a few weeks away, i think he did not mean anything by it. I think it was just a last time to enjoy being single. Everything will be fine.

JimmysBride Posted: Sep 09, 2004 10:13 PM

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Posted by hbradio

YES I would be upset - and let me ask you something because I just brought this up to my FH. Was this at a strip club? Because that would lessen my horrible feelings a bit. What was the setting if you dont mind me asking?

It's only fair I suppose... she was their waitress at bar... dressed in a skimpy outfit of course... he doesn't 'remember' whose idea the pic was.

As far as the act itself is concerned... I know it was done in the spirit of the party and it was... I guess harmless for the most part... of course I'll get over it, but the thing that really bothers me most is that he really doesn't think it's worth apologizing to me for the simple fact that what he did bothered me. I suppose that's my problem..... yeah, I must have upset myself, I guess.

swags1016 Posted: Sep 09, 2004 10:14 PM

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Upset, nope I would be freaking IRRATE!

Sorry

troutster Posted: Sep 09, 2004 10:15 PM

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Yes! I would not be happy with him.

azoodie Posted: Sep 09, 2004 10:17 PM

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Stefanie Posted: Sep 09, 2004 10:31 PM

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I had a heated discussion with my DH about this (yup...I have a life ) and he said and I quote...
'Nine out of ten guys go to a BP and worse things can go on there. So if that's the only thing that happened then she's lucky.'

After arguing my point to him, I sort of understood where he was coming from. If I were in the situation I would still expect an apology. This is going to sound weird but I would thank him for being honest about the situation. However, I would explain to him how I feel hurt by his response. I don't know, maybe that's not the correct response but you can't stay mad forever.

At least burn the picture!

Blu-ize Posted: Sep 09, 2004 10:33 PM

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I wasn't going to chime in, but I couldn't resist. I would take a picture with some beautiful man who was topless and tan (amazing pects) and a killer evil smile...he knows what guys are thinking...of course he would have his hands all over you..hey you may even have fun! Innocent, I say!