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Posted by dm24angel
I'll probably get flamed for this but I think that attitude of 'expecting' a gift is your problem.
I am sometimes ashamed to know that people are out there that have a wedding and expect either to get a gift, to have the guest 'pay' for their plate , or to complain about the amount of a gift.
Here's how I feel, maybe someone else does too. I am having a wedding to marry the man of my dreams. I am INVITING guests. They do not HAVE to bring a gift as I invited them for them. If I choose to have $150 pp reception dinner then unless I make people know their is a cover charge I cannot expect people to give or if they do, give what they can afford.
I have been a guest at a wedding where I have given $100 for me and FH because we were broke and I have been to weddings where we have given $500. Should I stay home if I cant afford anything?
I get realy opinionated over this so I will shut up now, because it infuriates me that people even expect a gift at a wedding. Thats presumptious and lends to the reason why weddings in NY cost $50,000!
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I couldn't say it better myself.
My advice is to send a card, thank them for coming to the wedding and that you hoped they had as great a time as you did. And not mention it again. Yet don't go out of your way for them if they have a party where a gift is appropriate to bring/give.
