Re: i feel like the worst newlywed ever

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Posted by AwaitingAugust

actually, i was not stressed out at all on the wedding day itself and we only had a few minor glitches ... i liked the way i looked and everything was good ....

but it wasn't THAT good that it makes up for the past 9 months of hell that i went though.

and i agree, it was not at all the best day of my life .... it was fun, but not the most fun ever!

can't wait till my HM ... i DEIFNITELY need a vacation


Thanks everyone for your kind words!

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See I went on the HM right away and I did need it. It gave me a chance to relax and reflect on how great the day was. I know why so many people don't go right away today, but I am really a believer that you have to go right away because after planning the wedding you need the HM. Plus its your adjustment to being husband and wife when its just the two of you. I still think when you start getting your pictures and have time to relax and look back on it you will start to appreciate it more.

Re: i feel like the worst newlywed ever

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Posted by KrisD72310

I totally understand what you're feeling. I looked back and felt so happy that all the planning was just finally over, but now looking back would I say it was the best day of my life? No, and that was my fault because I stressed way too much that day. If I could've done it again I would've definitely hired a DOC. I think it would've been worth every penny.
I think it's normal for some of us to look back and think that way. For me I have this desire for everything to go perfect. I hated my makeup, my extension curls were falling out from the humidity, I kept fixing myself and missed a ton of shots, was running around like crazy and didn't even get to enjoy myself. In the end, I'm basically just mad at myself

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This is me too. I actually hated my hair and makeup. The one day your supposed to look and feel your best, and I didn't. I look at my pictures and it doesnt even look like me. My hair/makeup lady was late and made me late and screwed up my day completely. I missed photos and my hair & makeup was rushed. Now that the day is over I would have done things differently. I had a great time, but it wasn't the best day of my life. A lot of money spent and it certainly was not everything I thought it would be. DH got really sick on our honeymoon and it was a big damper. He didnt eat at all and we even had to stay in the room one night. I was still able to have a nice time but it wasn't the absolute BEST time ever.

Re: i feel like the worst newlywed ever

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Posted by MLAngelo
You also just finished it all... give it some time. When all the stress wears off and your left with the memories and photos you might feel different. the more time that passes the more they appreciate the day they had.
For now focus on the end result.

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Funny I should stumble across this. I got married May 29th. Everything was beautiful and for the most part, everything went fine, no major problems. I was oddly calm but I think that happens to me for big moments sorta like being in shock. I kinda floated thru the day like a dream. Problem is, esp when you plan for a long time, the expectation level is soooo high, there's almost no way to go but down. And, the pressure to feel like it's your BEST DAY ever, is not realistic. There are so many days in your life, even some odd, nothing days where you happen to be in a good mood or some spontaneous thing happened and you always have fond memories of that particular day. It really is one day out of your life and not a fairy tale. I had to remember it's truly about getting married and while I stressed over the details, I finally got sick of the planning and anticipation and was kinda glad for it to be over so I can move on to other things to plan for our future.

I find myself comparing and as they say, Compare, despair. I want to write a review but right now all I can focus on are some minor things that kinda meant a lot to me but I don't feel good about. So, I am taking MLAngelo's advice and waiting for some time to pass so I can appreciate the day.

You've inspired me to post my own topic as I have a hunch we're not the only brides that feel lousy about feeling lousy about our wedding day.

Re: i feel like the worst newlywed ever

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Posted by JamDancer

i actually had a great time planning our wedding, is it weird that I kinda miss it??

I want to do it all over again. Definitely one of the best days of my life so far (and honeymoon week!)

You also just had your wedding.... i bet in a few years or even months you'll look back on it with more fondness!

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ITA.

Re: i feel like the worst newlywed ever

I have to say that it was one of the best days of my life. Actually I had the best 3 weeks of my life with the, we had an amazing week leading up to our wedding day and our 2 week HM was awesome.

I was super organized with planning the wedding and I told myself when we started planning that, I wanted everything done at least 1 week before the wedding and it was - 3 days before my wedding I had off and I was board with nothing to do, all my friends could not believe it, but I know that was a big help with me not being stresses at all the week of.

Some posters said that they should of hired a DOC, I won one and she was awful - honestly she stressed me out on my wedding, so much so that I had my BM ask her to leave after my CH.

I could be wrong but I feel that if you went on you HM or a mini-moon right after your wedding you would feel differently, I believe that you need the honeymoon to unwind and relax with you DH after such a big event as a wedding day.

Re: i feel like the worst newlywed ever

Sorry you feel that way....really is terrible. Although many ppl have more outside stressors than we did. DH and I planned and paid for everything ourselves. My motto was if one of us didn't love it, move on. We'll find something better that we both love. This really worked for us. Not one real fight over the planning. I actually enjoyed it. The day itself - well I was on a natual high and things didn't bother me until after the HM. But still, nothing crazy and no regrets.