does anyone just not want to work anymore?

Girls....

I think my feminist days are over. I absolutely love my profession and I have a dream job....but I can totally see myself wanting to just be a stay at home wife/mom too. My husband and I agreed I can do this when we start a family...(approx. 2-3 years from now).

I know women can have it all...but do we still want it all? Your thoughts?

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I feel the same way lately. I have NO ambition to work!!! But since I'm not sure I want kids, it looks like I'll be working for quite some time.

I don't think I would feel right about being a stay-at-home wife. Stay-at-home mom is one thing, but I feel the need to contribute, and also keep a sense of being somewhat self-sufficient.

It's definitely been a PUSH lately, though!!!

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I would be thrilled to have the opportunity to leave my current job!!!!!!!!!!!! I would happily modify most aspects of my life and assume full responisbility of the apartment in exchange for quitting my job.

As it is, we need both paychecks but have a plan that will hopefully enable me to open my own business (everyone keep everything crossed) towards the end of next year

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Allow me to introduce myself... I'm Jennifer and I am ready for early retirement.

Patrick retires in 9.5 years. I say when he goes, I go!

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Oh more then you know!!!! I'm working half my life already and how old am I????? If I didn't have to take another subway or bus into this godforsaken city ever again, it would be just fine and dandy with me!!!!!

Lotto baby!! I'm not greedy, I'll settle for a mill!!!!! Heck, at this point I'd settle for half a mill!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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I am so ready to stop working and put on an apron and cook and clean. I enjoy cleaning my apartment than going to work. I think times are changing for us girls. A lot of my friends who are in their twenties just want to get married , have a couple of kids and be stay at home moms.

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ME. I hate it!! I'M SO SICK OF IT!!!

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Ahhhh. The grass is always greener!!! Having always worked(even when my children were young) I would have killed for the chance to stay at home. Then I got divorced, my kids grew up and I became the career woman working my way up the ladder. Then I got married again and thougt it would be so nice to be able to stay at home and cook and clean etc for my new hubby. Well now I am at home (not by choice) and I get bored and lazy and wish I was back at work. My bank account which was always full is getting mighty empty and I hate the thought of asking my DH for money...I have always paid my own way.

My youngest sister has always been a SAHM and she hates it (kids are 17, 12 and 5). She cannot wait for September when my niece goes to school full time, to go out and get a job. She has suffered feelings of worthlessness and has often found it hard to get motivated to do things, especially lately.

I guess we always want what we can't have!

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I am home for 3 months & I go back soon, I certainly don't miss my old job!

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I really do love my job right now and have worked super hard to get where I am and to have recognition for it. I have my professional engineering license and there was a time I thought all my schooling and hard work to get where I am should never be wasted. However, more recently I have the incredible itch to take a vacation and not go back. Sure, I will miss it, but I believe the job of 24-hr SAHM will be more fulfilling and rewarding than the everyday 9-5 workday. So yes, I am ready to give up what I worked so hard to obtain and be a SAHM. We’re working on it In my profession though, I plan to keep updated and maybe do some work from home to help out the office if they ever need me to.

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I think I love the IDEA of not having to go to work everyday, but in reality I would probably get bored, lazy and unproductive! When I have the baby and stay home for 6 months I think I'll truly see what it's like and then decide which is better for me. I make too good a salary to want to give it up so easily. I'm pretty sure if I could work 3-4 days a week, I would never stop working.

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I've worked very hard to get to where I am today but when I think about it....I really don't want to run a company or even a department for that matter. I can honestly say that I am very proud of my professional accomplishments but given the choice, I would probably give it all up. I don't think I would have any regrets because I've already done what I always wanted to do but the traveling and long hours are catching up to me.

If this question was asked a few years ago, I would have answered differently. I, too, have noticed that my friends/cousins who are younger than me don't even want a career to begin with, which I find shocking..............hence the question, is the feminist movement over?

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I don't think the feminist movement is over, but I think women got a rude awakening when they thought they could 'have it all.'

No matter what anybody says, you really can't have it all, but you can sure get yourself stressed out trying!

I think women realized it was no prize to have to work 8+ hours a day, then rush home to get the kids off the bus, and then start household chores like laundry, dinner, helping kids with homework, baths, then dishes, etc. Some men are great at helping out, but from what I've seen and heard most men still don't do enough at home, and still feel as if they can come home from work and relax. Or if they help out, they get annoyed by it.

So having seen so many women go before us, and watching them run around like nuts trying to have it all, and seeing how stressed it made them, we're re-thinking the whole Career Woman Mommy idea, and wondering if maybe staying at home isn't a better choice.

A good compromise is to work part-time, or on weekends, while DH is home to care for the kids.

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Sorry to jump on the newlywed board but I have been having this convo with my FI latley

I'm an accountant and haven't started formal work yet even - I start in Sept - but I've been working at what my job will be as an intern since last summer. Busy season is CRAZY - 3 months of coming home at ludicrous hours to begin with and NOT being paid overtime. NUTSO! I love the career I picked though - the TAX CODE MAKES TOTAL SENSE TO ME!!!!!
I love taking care of the home though. I will work until I have children but ever since getting engaged - especially so young because I was 21 and had graduated a week before he proposed - my priorities changed before I even started work. I don't want to have children anytime in the next 4 or 5 years - but if they come they come and we'll both love them - but no one else who just graduated college is thinking about having children and wanting to stay home with them or whatnot. But I feel like it's around the corner. FI and I both want me to stay home and the more I think about it, the more I want too.

I LOVE WORKING - sitting home gets BORING!!!!!! I love producing and doing something with my life other than changing diapers, but I will be lucky. I will be helping my FI with whatever he's doing - ie the books - in whatever job he has. This way I keep my intelectual sanity and at the same time I get to be home with the kids. If you asked me this when I started college I'd say NO WAY I WORKED MY BUTT OFF IN SCHOOL AND NOW I'LL REAP THE BENEFITS OF MY GREAT JOB! But now, it just all changed. I can see my family now and I want to be with them and there for them. Wow and I'm only 22 lolol

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Being a feminist is about CHOICE. The choice is what our grandmothers and mothers and aunts fought for. many women were forced out of jobs or told they had to stay home once married or children came. My grandmother always told me that the minute you started showing your pregnancy you were asked to quit your job, even if you needed the paycheck. Her boss loved her so he told her to stay behind her desk all day so no one would know that she was pregnant! Again, it should be our choice if we want to be in the work place or not.
I think it is important that we all support equal pay for equal work and equal opportunities for women.
now with that said, sign me up for the stay at home club
I have worked hard to create a name for myself in my profession. I have worked hard to increase my opportunities and my salary level. I don't think it is working that I mind as much as it is working coupled with the house, the baby coming, the meals etc..etc..and Scott helps! But there is still so much to be done. I am going to go down to 3 days a week when the baby comes (since we still need my income with the house and taxes and all) and I am hoping that will really help me a lot.

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while I would NEVER go back to my old job...it has been 2 months since I quit and I am getting a little bored...I feel like I need a purpose...and I want more money...

Its also not as fun to go shopping, b/c I have nowhere to wear the clothes and the shoes...

I think being a SAHM is good...b/c I'm sure the kids keep you busy...but I want something...I just don't know what yet

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Im starting to feel your pain. I LOVE my job, and wouldnt give it up, but Im teaching summer school. I cant complain, I worl 7:30-12:30 Mon-Thurs.
I would really go bored if I didnt work, but Im starting to feel I want to relax

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ugh...Diane...I give you credit working summer school...I swore that off 5 years ago...never again...I had a girl come in with underwear and a dress unbuttoned passed it...and then a boy put his hand down another girls blouse when I showed them a movie!!!
never again...

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Being in a bad mood right now, mostly because hubby has added fuel on a stressful situation this afternoon .. I have to say I hate having the pressure on me to keep 2 jobs in order to make ends meet.

I would be happy being able to successfully get down to just one job.

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Kel, Im so sorry

Welcome back to the boards...havent seen you in awhile