I was just catching up on some LIF reading...

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Posted by Mimacat

Well it depends on the topic. If I posted on the childless board about, I dont know, that I was looking for restaurant recommendations, I don't see why ANYONE couldn't reply.

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I guess I was too vague. Some of the childless people posted about why they dont want kids and one said something about getting fat, losing her identity, and her husband never looking at her the same way again. That pissed off some of the parents and they commented on the topic. Do you think theyre in the wrong for commenting on the childless family boards? I dunno I mean afterall it is a public forum so of course they have the right. But I also wouldnt take anything to heart on that board if I was a parent considering I wouldnt relate to what some of these people are talking about.

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Posted by Songstress

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Posted by Mimacat

Well it depends on the topic. If I posted on the childless board about, I dont know, that I was looking for restaurant recommendations, I don't see why ANYONE couldn't reply.

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I guess I was too vague. Some of the childless people posted about why they dont want kids and one said something about getting fat, losing her identity, and her husband never looking at her the same way again. That pissed off some of the parents and they commented on the topic. Do you think theyre in the wrong for commenting on the childless family boards? I dunno I mean afterall it is a public forum so of course they have the right. But I also wouldnt take anything to heart on that board if I was a parent considering I wouldnt relate to what some of these people are talking about.

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I dont think its wrong. Its a public forum so everything is a free for all. I do think that the parents would probably get attacked in the Childless family forums and vice versa. There are certain topics in LIF that even I just skip over and dont touch.

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Posted by Songstress

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Posted by Mimacat

Well it depends on the topic. If I posted on the childless board about, I dont know, that I was looking for restaurant recommendations, I don't see why ANYONE couldn't reply.

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I guess I was too vague. Some of the childless people posted about why they dont want kids and one said something about getting fat, losing her identity, and her husband never looking at her the same way again. That pissed off some of the parents and they commented on the topic. Do you think theyre in the wrong for commenting on the childless family boards? I dunno I mean afterall it is a public forum so of course they have the right. But I also wouldnt take anything to heart on that board if I was a parent considering I wouldnt relate to what some of these people are talking about.

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These people were just venting their opinions on why. Yes, people feel this way. And I think it was wrong for parents to criticize these people for saying it.

Since not wanting to have children is a personal decision, I dont think women with children should comment on it.
Its a personal choice so people with children are obviously going to feel differently. Just because a person who has or wants children feels differently then someone who doesnt, doesnt give them the right to add comment.

i was reading that the day it happened:
Basically the poster made comments on why SHE didn't want children and the above remarks were made.

A parent reading didn't like those comments, actually a few girls didn't but what was realized that she didn't mean to make the statement on that is how she felt about mom's it was how she felt if she had children and why she does not want them. The original poster really needed to clarify that and it was discussed and diffused.

So its not a biggie if other people post/read but they shouldn't judge someone on their OP on the topic of the board. But for me personally I do not comment on the parenting board because I am not a parent - so I kinda feel why bother posting on a childless families board if you have hcildren.

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Posted by RadiantBride

See but I thought that board was something different all together. I thought it was families that didn't have children- not that never wanted them.

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Exactly, because it doesn't mean that they are childless by choice.

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Posted by RadiantBride

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Posted by Songstress

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Posted by Mimacat

Well it depends on the topic. If I posted on the childless board about, I dont know, that I was looking for restaurant recommendations, I don't see why ANYONE couldn't reply.

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I guess I was too vague. Some of the childless people posted about why they dont want kids and one said something about getting fat, losing her identity, and her husband never looking at her the same way again. That pissed off some of the parents and they commented on the topic. Do you think theyre in the wrong for commenting on the childless family boards? I dunno I mean afterall it is a public forum so of course they have the right. But I also wouldnt take anything to heart on that board if I was a parent considering I wouldnt relate to what some of these people are talking about.

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I dont think its wrong. Its a public forum so everything is a free for all. I do think that the parents would probably get attacked in the Childless family forums and vice versa. There are certain topics in LIF that even I just skip over and dont touch.

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I never joined LIF but I know when Im bored, I have about a 90 percent chance of finding drama over there... so I lurk.
I think it is a free for all, but if I were a parent I would skip over anything that annoyed me over there because that forum isnt meant for me and I probably wouldnt be changing anyones mind on the subject. I do think some of what was said was pretty harsh. But I guess the people over on Childless Families shouldnt have to worry about being reamed for what they say.

i think they should stay out. The whole point of the board is for CHILDLESS families, so why on earth would you go on there if you have kids??? I just don't see the purpose. Especially if they're causing drama. Nobody has any right to tell somebody else how they should live (like if they should have kids or not). I don't go on LIF, so i don't know what the issue is, but it just sounds like unnecessary drama.

It's kind of like the Newlywed board here. If you're not a newlywed, what are you doing here?? I think people should respect the forums and who they're geared toward.

The board is about families with out children. However.. I think that it has a lot of potential and can be great.

I think that posting your 'fears' of why you don't want to be pregnant or have children are perfectly acceptable.. ON THAT BOARD.. if they went to TTC or another board then yea, go comment on it.

I think that it is rude of the people with kids to comment on those post.. but it is a public forum. Just like the B2B coming and posting on the NW board.

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Posted by Mici n KC

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Posted by RadiantBride

See but I thought that board was something different all together. I thought it was families that didn't have children- not that never wanted them.

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Exactly, because it doesn't mean that they are childless by choice.

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i think its for ppl who have chosen NOT to have kids at all and ppl who dont have kids, but may want some in the future

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Posted by RadiantBride

See but I thought that board was something different all together. I thought it was families that didn't have children- not that never wanted them.

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EXACTLY, which is why I crossed over to LIF.
I've found a place where I can chat and not have baby dust thrown around. Some of the posters are childless for the time being until they begin to TTC. The others are childless for their own reasons.
DH and I are childless and will remain so.
Me not by choice, him by choice.
I stay off of othe other boards.

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Posted by TommysWife08

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Posted by Mici n KC

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Posted by RadiantBride

See but I thought that board was something different all together. I thought it was families that didn't have children- not that never wanted them.

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Exactly, because it doesn't mean that they are childless by choice.

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i think its for ppl who have chosen NOT to have kids at all and ppl who dont have kids, but may want some in the future

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It's basically for families without children whether they plan to have kids or not. I was just stating that not all people that don't have kids do this by choice.

That drama made me sad bc I totally related to the fears of pregnancy and parenting and I was so excited to reply and then I saw drama started.

I cry when I look in the mirror after gaining ten pounds I can't even imagine what I will do after labor and delivery but I guess I am not allowed to feel that way since it is offensive to women who have already had kids.

Maybe SOME husbands look at you like some goddess of the earth and moon after witnessing labor, maybe SOME men appreciate the fact that you produced life BUT I honestly don't PERSONALLY know any men that mature LOL