Do/Will you call In laws by their first names??

Original post by SFAR89

Oct 29, 2008 09:04 AM

I have known FH for at least 5 years before we started dating, as friends. I knew his parents and everything. I call them by their first names now. I don't know if I am going to start calling them 'mom' or 'dad' after we are married.

What does everyone who has been married do. If you aren't married yet, do you call them mom and dad?

ttdiff11 Posted: Nov 17, 2008 10:25 PM

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i call ffil his first name, id feel weird saying dad! his mom passed away, but his grandma is veryy close to him. i dont call her anything! i feel so bad, in cards i write gram but in person i dont say anything! im hoping she says something lol.

smrsun Posted: Nov 17, 2008 10:25 PM

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Posted by geegee827

I don't call them anything! They've never said call me 'mom' or 'dad' or their first names.

I don't feel comfortable calling them Mr or Mrs because at my age, I feel like it's stupid. They live in FL so I don't see them often. They're coming up for Thanksgiving though so I guess we'll see what happens.

On cards and stuff they sign it 'Joe's mom and dad' -

FH calls my mom by her first name so I plan on following suit.

I am glad that I am not the only one out there with this situation!
I just dont call them anything either, lol.

Hawks Nest Posted: Nov 17, 2008 11:17 PM

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First names...

sophisticat13 Posted: Nov 17, 2008 11:34 PM

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My FMIL told me to call her 'mom' after we got married. My DH doesn't call my mother anything come to think of it...I guess I will tell him to call her Joanne (longggg story, she's not a 'Call me mom' type of person.... )

coldasice217 Posted: Nov 18, 2008 12:22 AM

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I'm so bad in these situations...I call them Mr & Mrs A, and have no idea what I'll call them. Same with other members of his family. I've sucessfully avoided ever having to ever address his grandparents or aunts and uncles by name for over 4 years now

gina409 Posted: Nov 18, 2008 12:42 AM

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i call by first names

JSG10506 Posted: Nov 18, 2008 01:29 AM

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we call each others mom's & dad's 'mom' & 'dad' & refer to them by name when talking to others about them.

bride2binli Posted: Nov 18, 2008 07:31 AM

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I call mine my and dad now so obviously Im going toi continue

Future Mrs H Posted: Nov 18, 2008 07:54 AM

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I will call her by her first name. I cant call anyone else mom but my mother.

debzy Posted: Nov 18, 2008 09:42 AM

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My FH has said he'd call my parents by their first name, and I think I'll prob do the same. FMIL told me I could call her whatever makes me feel the most comfortable...so first names at least for now!

KittyGags Posted: Nov 18, 2008 09:49 AM

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Posted by 08JulyBride

I use first names.

But, my in-laws are VERY old fashioned italian and probably don't like that I do... too bad though. I just hope they don't take it as disrespect. I already have a mom that I am very close with and my dad is deceased so I feel weird calling anyone else mom & dad.

Plus DH doesn't call my mom, mom...

Same and same. Except my mom is the one who is old fashioned and his parents are the relaxed ones. But my dad is deceased and i'm very close to my mom, theres no way I'd ever call them Mom and Dad.

JC297 Posted: Nov 18, 2008 09:53 AM

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I don't call them anything but I certainly won't be calling them mom and dad.

RockysGirl Posted: Nov 18, 2008 10:37 AM

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i've been going crazy over this! I just think it's sooo weird to call somebody mom & dad who are NOT your parents. Just because I marry their son, it doesn't make them my mom & dad. So i just feel awkward doing it. It's not even as though I don't like them. I think they're great! It's just weird though. I barely even call my own parents 'mom & dad'. lol. I usually just start talking, or I'll say 'Mother!' SO i dunno what to do about that. FH calls my mom 'Momma', he doesn't call my dad anything yet. I think just his first name. I don't wanna avoid saying anything to his parents though for the rest of my life just because i don't know what to call them!!!!!

JennyAPH Posted: Nov 18, 2008 10:41 AM

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I still call them Mr. & Mrs...His mom told me to call them by their first names but I really just can't.. it feels weird to me..but I know eventually I will. But no I will never call them Mom and Dad.

AR31 Posted: Nov 18, 2008 10:43 AM

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mom and dad in another language.. i feel that mom, mommy, daddy is very personalized.. i can't call anyone that except my own..

MrsList09 Posted: Nov 18, 2008 10:46 AM

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I'll call my FIL Steve. I think it would upset my parents if I called my in-laws mom and dad because I already have a mom and dad. My sister's MIL DESPERATELY seems to want her to call her mom but my sister refuses.

FutureMrsC Posted: Nov 18, 2008 11:14 AM

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I call them by their first names. I do not plan on calling them mom and dad after we are married. I love my in-laws and all but it just feels unnatural to call people other than you parents mom and dad. JMO

NYYankeeGirl72 Posted: Nov 18, 2008 01:22 PM

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I call my in-laws Mom and Dad. My MIL took me to side one day and told me that she wanted me to call her Mom...this was way before we got engaged. I have to say that I do have a great relationship with them. And they get along with my parents (who are divorced), which is always a plus!!!

hogie2be Posted: Nov 18, 2008 06:20 PM

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my MIL said one day- you don't want to call us mom and dad right? you already have a mom and dat- so I guess that is out of the question! My FSIL (FH's brother's fiance) calls them Mom and Dad though!! I would like to in a way because my mom called my dad's parents that and it felt nice and we are close- closer than they are with FSIL...

Angelicanka Posted: Nov 18, 2008 08:46 PM

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DH and I had a talk about this long ago. We would never refer to our in laws as mom/dad, because we both feel that's reserved for the parents who gave birth to us. I've known his parents for over 7 years now and although I have an urge to call them by the accepted way in our culture, his mom insists that I call her by her first name. I am completely uncomfortable with that, but I do it at times when I sense she is expecting it. I still refer to my FIL by the accepted name format in our culture.