Please help with maitre'd tipping question

My sister used to work at Venitian Yatch Club...so I was asking her about this the other night actually

She said no way in heII should I be tipping the maitre'd $3-4 per person!! My sister said he/she doesn't need $600+ if you only have 175 people.

She said you tipped them more than the Bridal Attendant, but my min is 175 and I am doing $2 per person which would be about $350. And if I love my maitre'd I will give them another $100

But yeah I think it's crazy. My sister said they are getting paid-and alot better than the waitress/waiters and she said those are the people doing most of the work!!!

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Posted by kristin597

My RH gave us a 'recommended' amount we should tip the maitre'd. I nearly fell off my chair. Would anyone mind sharing what they tipped or are planning on tipping? I'm just trying to figure out if I'm completely out of touch with 'tipping norms'. Thanks in advance ladies.

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I am getting married at JT too, what was the 'recommended' amount they suggested to tip?

Well they can suggest...but I am giving what I want and what I feel they deserve and I am starting at $2 per person!

See this is what I was thinking originally, like $3-4 per person, maybe a bit more if I really felt that he was great. My RH told me that they 'recommend' giving $1000

My FH thought I was having a stroke bc I could barely speak, lol.

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Posted by kristin597

See this is what I was thinking originally, like $3-4 per person, maybe a bit more if I really felt that he was great. My RH told me that they 'recommend' giving $1000

My FH thought I was having a stroke bc I could barely speak, lol.

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R u kidding me!!! I'm getting married at JT and def. NOT giving $1000 for the maitre'd.

I'm having 175-200 people at my wedding and I had budgeted $500-$550., which is almost $3pp The bridal attendant I'm thinking of tipping $150-$200.

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Posted by bluekat16

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Posted by kristin597

See this is what I was thinking originally, like $3-4 per person, maybe a bit more if I really felt that he was great. My RH told me that they 'recommend' giving $1000

My FH thought I was having a stroke bc I could barely speak, lol.

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R u kidding me!!! I'm getting married at JT and def. NOT giving $1000 for the maitre'd.

I'm having 175-200 people at my wedding and I had budgeted $500-$550., which is almost $3pp The bridal attendant I'm thinking of tipping $150-$200.

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Ok, so Im glad that its not just me thinking that this is a bit overboard!

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Posted by bluekat16

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Posted by kristin597

See this is what I was thinking originally, like $3-4 per person, maybe a bit more if I really felt that he was great. My RH told me that they 'recommend' giving $1000

My FH thought I was having a stroke bc I could barely speak, lol.

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R u kidding me!!! I'm getting married at JT and def. NOT giving $1000 for the maitre'd.

I'm having 175-200 people at my wedding and I had budgeted $500-$550., which is almost $3pp The bridal attendant I'm thinking of tipping $150-$200.

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yeah definitely NOT giving a $1000 either. They don't need nor deserve $1000 for what they do. I know they work hard, but come on they aren't serving every table the food etc. like the waiters are.

But I guess I am going to start $2.50-3.00 per person and then go from there if they are great that night.

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Posted by kristin597

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Posted by bluekat16

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Posted by kristin597

See this is what I was thinking originally, like $3-4 per person, maybe a bit more if I really felt that he was great. My RH told me that they 'recommend' giving $1000

My FH thought I was having a stroke bc I could barely speak, lol.

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R u kidding me!!! I'm getting married at JT and def. NOT giving $1000 for the maitre'd.

I'm having 175-200 people at my wedding and I had budgeted $500-$550., which is almost $3pp The bridal attendant I'm thinking of tipping $150-$200.

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Ok, so Im glad that its not just me thinking that this is a bit overboard!

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holy s*** that is so outrageous!!! Def don't follow that, i can't believe they would even suggest that much!

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Posted by futuremrsfab

This is a dumb question- but does the maitre'd keep the whole tip or does he split it with the waiters- we were gonna tip the $3-$5 range, but we thought that they also paid the waiters with that money

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we were told that they do split it with the wait staff.

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Posted by teenigrrl

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Posted by futuremrsfab

This is a dumb question- but does the maitre'd keep the whole tip or does he split it with the waiters- we were gonna tip the $3-$5 range, but we thought that they also paid the waiters with that money

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we were told that they do split it with the wait staff.

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Thats what we were told as well.

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Posted by futuremrsfab

This is a dumb question- but does the maitre'd keep the whole tip or does he split it with the waiters- we were gonna tip the $3-$5 range, but we thought that they also paid the waiters with that money

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i think some halls might say they split it, but i know my sister did alot of weddings as a waitress (she was mostly a bridal attendant) but she did wait staff and they never saw any of that tip the maitre'd got

As much as I am SURE my maitre 'd will be top notch and all that, I just can't afford to tip them this crazy amount. I asked my BM and she said that they suggest $2-$4 per person, but that it is entirely based on how we feel. While I would love to be able to tip my maitre 'd $4 a person, that is going to come out to $800 for me. I just can't do that. We just did the tip envelopes and I put $450 in there, b/c that's what I can afford so hopefully they can live with that.

ETA: Our Maitre 'D won't be splitting w/the wait staff but will be splitting with the Maitre 'D assistant.