Re: my 'im not the NWOTW but i still have a question' question

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Posted by APastries2010

If you were to in the midst of planning now, and knew what you knew,
-would your BP be the same
- guest list have major changes ie great frineds now you didnt have then or people that burned you and you are upset they were there

etc

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My BP would be slightly different. Only one real change on the female side, a friend that should have been in it would have been. We had lost touch a bit because she was dating this god awful guy. By the wedding I saw her as much as I always had before and she did more to help me with the wedding then any of my BP members. Not sure if I would have lost another friend who I don't see much now or just add a BP member. I don't regret any of my BP members, I put a lot of thought into them and picked people I wasn't worried about losing touch with.

My MOH... I might have changed her, but as an only child picking between all my friends would have been hard and she is the closest thing to a sister I have. But she really let me down. She lives in France so thats part of the problem, but it was more then that.

The guys... ABSOLUTELY WOULD NOT HAVE ALLOWED DH TO PUT IN MY SO CALLED BEST FRIEND!!! He is an @$$ and I hate him. We were best friends, just friends in our college yearbook. He and DH were best male friends. And yet is he happy for us. No! He is a self centered ______________________________. (Insert many bad words here.) He didn't come to Jason's 30th for lame reasons after we hauled our butt to MA for his, even after all the negative comments he made regarding my wedding. Then has the nerve to be mad at us for going to the NJ Shore this weekend for his cousin's party and not his beach party. SCREW HIM! I would have had him put in his friend Sean.

I also would have made my cousin Holly my flower girl. I had no idea having Jay's twin cousins would cause such issues and leave me flowergirl-less. I would have just asked her.




Guest list... maybe some minor changes. I think I would have invited more knowing my return rate would be so low. I would have made my mom include more of her extended family. She is an only child and should have invited cousins. Some LIW girls might have made the list and one or two friends I have reconnected with since.



Sorry that answer got a little long winded.

Re: my 'im not the NWOTW but i still have a question' question

Don't even get my started about the BP. That answer would be NO, different, or none at all. Guest list would be the same though.

Re: my 'im not the NWOTW but i still have a question' question

The 1 chick I would of taken out......I couldnt do it any way so doesn't matter. Aside from that....the BP was fine as is.

Guest list def would of changed a bit.

As far as other aspects of the wedding, I have a TON of other things I would of done differently. But as they hind sight is 20/20!!!!

Re: my 'im not the NWOTW but i still have a question' question

both would have def changed...would have replaced 2 gms and lots on the guest list..would have had more liw girls

Re: my 'im not the NWOTW but i still have a question' question

I think I would have added more hours to the Photo and Video crew and maybe a second videographer. Otherwise, I really wouldn't change guest list / BP. I really had an amazing time.

Re: my 'im not the NWOTW but i still have a question' question

Everything would have been the same as it was.

Re: my 'im not the NWOTW but i still have a question' question

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Posted by APastries2010

If you were to in the midst of planning now, and knew what you knew,
-would your BP be the same
- guest list have major changes ie great frineds now you didnt have then or people that burned you and you are upset they were there

etc

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Considering we're not 1 1/2 years out our BP would definitely be different. I think DH would have added one more guy, and I would have taken out a girl, added in a different one, and had a different MOH, or maybe have 2. My MOH was great at the time, I just feel bad considering now how things are going between us and one of my other BMs and I have gotten soooo much closer.

As for the guest list, considering how many people ended up saying no, I would have invited a bunch of people from work, and a bunch of other friends. My mom was really strict about how many people we invited, but I think I would have gone behind her back and done it anyway. We were almost 20 people under the limit she gave us, and every time it gets brought up I really regret inviting about 15 people.

Re: my 'im not the NWOTW but i still have a question' question

If I could do it all again....I would have probably gotten married in Vegas and save all our money to buy a house.

But if I were still getting married in NY....

I would definitely have had more girls in my BP.

As for guests, I think I would have changed the list around a bit....especially not invite those who bugged my DH to get invited to the wedding and then didn't show.

I would have invited my LIW buddies who I didn't have a chance to invite coz DH had to invite a million people that he originally said he was not inviting. And I just didn't have the money to invite anymore people.

That is another thing I would have waited more to save some more money and be able to pay for all the things I didn't get a chance to get like a videographer.

I think also, I would have had my wedding on a Friday night instead of Sunday. A lot of my guests were leaving before I cut the cake. But I informed my DOC, who got married today and my bridal attendant and they swiftly went into action and got the cake ready way in advance.

These were things that knowing what I know now I would have changed. But all in all I had a beautiful wedding a blast at the reception.

Re: my 'im not the NWOTW but i still have a question' question

I dont think BP would have changed but, the guest list DEF!!! Add more of my LIWED girls.....and not so many non-show co-workers

Re: my 'im not the NWOTW but i still have a question' question

BP : same

Guestlist: add a few more people

I would have went with my gut and not kept my free DOC - but that will all be in my review.

Re: my 'im not the NWOTW but i still have a question' question

I think I would keep everything the same the only thing I would change is I would stand up for myself more than I did against DH aunt who made my life hell because her 6 year old grandson wasn't invited to the wedding.....she no longer talks to us anymore...thank God, but I let her get away with a lot of stuff and that just wouldnt happen again if I could do it all over

Re: my 'im not the NWOTW but i still have a question' question

bridal party would be different.

guest list would have 2 people missing and like 10 people added. ( i started a new job since our wedding)

different photogpraher and added a second one

and also extended our HM

Re: my 'im not the NWOTW but i still have a question' question

Bridal party would definatly have been different.

Guest list would've been the same.

Re: my 'im not the NWOTW but i still have a question' question

1. Would've changed 1 person in BP
2. Hire a DOC
3. Second photographer
4. If I knew now what I know today I would've changed my wedding date to one of the gorgeous weekends after mine
5. I would've relaxed and worried more about taking pictures instead of my hair and makeup.

Re: my 'im not the NWOTW but i still have a question' question

-BP def would have been the same

-I think we would have actually invited even less people (even though we only had 75 people at our wedding--60 would have bene ideal!).